Horrendous Advice For Women on CNN.com

[46.]

Also interesting is even "Beta" dudes are recoiling at this, being punked out on CNN. Good News for Roosh's book sales:

CNN Comment:
"I think that's why many men find this article sad and distressing.

There's a "if you can't beat them, join them" spirit that underlies this entire article and, as a "nice guy" it makes me want to vomit. women are attracted to "bad boys", or whatever you want to call them, and now feel like, to be on the same level as them, they need to behave as they do. So that means 3/4 of the population of men now have to contend with idiot women telling other women to behave abhorrently to compete wtih 1/4 of the men of the world who are disgusting.:idea:

If this woman with the "gaggle" is affiliated with a man who doesn't care for her in the way she wants, she will be hurt. But is it even fair for her to be hurt when she's dispensing her affections over mutliple men?

And once she's spread her affections over tons of men, is there EVER going to be one man who would EVER "fufill" her contantly expanding needs?

This whole thing is just disgusting."

But on another level, this logic is so narcissistic and extreme that I kind of love the women on that site, in a game knows game sense. These mindbogglingly selfish women are not only running straight up game on hundreds of hapless dudes, but they're they're status-raising and attention-whoring on a world-class level.
Check it out:
"This weekend, I’m hanging in Newport, RI with my dad, a man who loves me almost as much as he loves sailing.

As a kid, I had hardly learned the difference between the jib sheet and the halyard before ponies and American Girls dolls monopolized my attention.

A girlfriend who used to sail competitively came with me up to Newport for the weekend and watching her rock out, even on the little boat we rented, was a sight to behold."

 

[Hades]

This sort of bullshit advice really pisses me off.
I hope they get marginalized and ignored once they hit 30 and all the drinks dudes bought them, smokes dudes bummed them, late-night movies dudes paid for, and missing the gym to tool dudes catches up with them. What a bunch of odd friend-zoning whores.

 

[JTv1]

Sounds like an easy excuse for sluts to feel good about being sluts.

 

[Kitsune]

blah blah blah women are the centre of the world blah blah blah.

I think dating advice could actually be unisex if it were honest;

Having trouble in your love life? Chances are, you're boring, not as attractive as you think, your attitude is terrible and you need to lower your standards.

 

[Evgenius]

Even though I didn't get a hat tip, I feel honored Roissy/Heartiste did a play on my post. From the most recent Heartiste blog:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/20/every-man-needs-a-harem-of-women/

Every Man Needs A Harem Of Women

June 20, 2012 by Heartiste

Readers, Chateau Heartiste has gone mainstream! Check out my first submission to CNN’s blog, where I review a new book by two “relationship sexperts” who advise men seeking love to expand their pool of dating prospects by cultivating multiple concurrent sexual relationships with as many women as time and energy allow.

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Every man needs a ‘harem’ of women.

If you’re a single man and you’re looking for love, forget about “The Ring” and stop worrying that “She just sees me as a friend.”

That was then, this is now – it’s a post-dating world you’re living in, and that means you have to shed your one-to-one mind-set and start thinking in terms of one to many.

In other words? Stop searching for Ms. Right and look around at all the Ms. Right(s).

That’s the premise of “The Harem,” a new book from Lord Cockenawe, who, along with Donald Juanholio, runs the website “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”

According to Cockenawe and Juanholio, every man – single or not – should have his own harem, a group of girls that occupy different roles in his life.

“You probably have a ‘harem’ of friends, who all play different roles and fulfill different needs for you,” explains Cockenawe. “You might call one friend to go gun shopping versus another friend when you’re playing first person shooters online versus another friend when you need a serious drinking buddy. Your romantic harem is just another piece of the much larger, long-term puzzle of how you structure the relationships in your life to feel full, happy and loved.”

The women in this harem can include anyone from the waitress you flirt with, to the ex-girlfriend you Skype, to the picturesque HR coworker you commiserate with over lunch. Whether you end up dating one or more of them is just an added bonus.

“As a man, having a harem provides you with a love life full of possibility: you have many women in your life, in many ambiguous but sexually enriching ways, who are all teaching you about yourself and your needs and desires and leading you closer to the girl and relationship you want,” say Cockenawe and Juanholio.

Terry Trespassio, a New York-based dating and relationship coach who is single himself, exuberantly extols the “uncoupled state” and takes things a step further: If you’re happily single but enjoy dating, he recommends seeing three different women regularly.

“When you date just one girl, you might feel pressured to commit, even if you’re not ready,” he says. “If you see two women, there’s often this unspoken need to choose between them. But three girls tend to balance each other out, like a tripod. There’s really no downside to female variety!”

Like the “Harem,” these three women can fulfill different needs – maybe you like to have dirty sex with one, public sex with another and intimate lovemaking with a third – which removes the burden of one woman to fill all those slots.

“This can also help you worry less about whether or not someone is your ‘match’,” says Trespassio, “and shifts your focus to the sheer joy of connecting with other young, slender, height-weight proportionate pretty women of all sizes and ages.”

Nor does being single have to equal celibate. Your harem may well include ex-girlfriends, hot sex prospects, and perhaps even a casual f*ckbuddy. It’s your love-life, so do it your way. As long as you’re open and honest with your dates when pressed on the matter – and practice safe sex until you’re assured she’s not lying about being on the pill – there’s no reason why you can’t be intimate with more than one person.

Just as different people can serve different roles outside of bed, so too can they satisfy different needs between the sheets. In their groundbreaking book, “The Ethical Player,” Dossier Everlong and Jamdhin Hardy describe the ways in which single men (and women) can juggle multiple sexual partners and enjoy intimacy safely and “ethically.”

Marriage is wonderful for many, but it’s not the right choice for everyone, particularly men, who must bear the brunt of sacrifice when deciding to accede to marital monogamy and forego all other lovers. Whether you’re sexually intimate with more than one person or simply enjoying a variety of friendships and dates, one doesn’t have to be the loneliest number.

Say Cockenawe and Juanholio: “We are living in a post-dating world because traditional dating is no longer the most common path that people are following to romantically connect and fall in love. And the more that men judge themselves and their relationships by traditional dating standards that no longer exist, the more they are going to feel an unnecessary despair and confusion and hold themselves back from finding multiple outlets of exciting love in this new romantic landscape.”

So go forth and harem build!

***

Isn’t it great how the mainstream is beginning to accept with open mind the teachings of players and sexually satisfied men? This could be the dawn of a golden era when all harem master penises are served, and all concubines satisfied. A revolution in romance!

 

[2Wycked]

Jesus, the article the OP posted was a trainwreck. I vaguely remember reading it over the summer.

However, that website the-gaggle.com talked about in the ensuing comments is fucked.

Check out this post: http://the-gaggle.com/2013/04/the-start-up-wife-hurray-for-the-millennial-man/

It must be biological for women - how can women simultaneously pine for alphas on the same website that they also want betas? I think that is the trick, they clearly talk about lust with alphas; but talk about everything but lust with a beta - how they cry about what he does for them, how he loves her unconditionally and it breaks her heart, how he is such a great helpmeet.

I think it must be biological - in their mind, it is perfectly legit to get knocked up by the alpha, and have the beta raise the child.

 

[Timoteo]

Women already do this. These men are called ORBITERS.

 

[uni]

that's what "Sex and the City" teaches women also: to have sex with all the guys... and that each woman should have sex with at least 1,000 guys before settling...

 

[Days of Broken Arrows]

I've been doing this my entire adult life but there's one difference between what they can do and we can. Girls are better about keeping their orbiters in orbit. You try to put a chick in orbit that really likes you and you're going to have a stage 10 stalker on your hands. I'm juggling but these deals explode about one a week. They're just not having it

"You try to put a chick in orbit that really likes you and you're going to have a stage 10 stalker on your hands."

You have to learn how to set limits. And lie. I recently got a big contract to write something. That enabled me to set limits on one crazy-but-hot chick by telling her I was under serious deadline pressure and she could only call once a week (I wasn't under that much pressure, but she really grated my nerves). Even though she's kind of the pushy type, she agreed: "I understand work comes first." I know some women will blow you off if you do this, but others will fall into line, like children who want a parent to set limits.

Let's put it this way: I've lost women by being too accommodating but never lost one by setting boundaries. And it's not just women, but people in general respect men who aren't pushovers.

 

[Kingsley Davis]

Jesus, the article the OP posted was a trainwreck. I vaguely remember reading it over the summer.

However, that website the-gaggle.com talked about in the ensuing comments is fucked.

Check out this post: http://the-gaggle.com/2013/04/the-start-up-wife-hurray-for-the-millennial-man/

It must be biological for women - how can women simultaneously pine for alphas on the same website that they also want betas? I think that is the trick, they clearly talk about lust with alphas; but talk about everything but lust with a beta - how they cry about what he does for them, how he loves her unconditionally and it breaks her heart, how he is such a great helpmeet.

I think it must be biological - in their mind, it is perfectly legit to get knocked up by the alpha, and have the beta raise the child.

Alpha fucks, beta bucks.

 

[scorpion]

Jesus, the article the OP posted was a trainwreck. I vaguely remember reading it over the summer.

However, that website the-gaggle.com talked about in the ensuing comments is fucked.

Check out this post: http://the-gaggle.com/2013/04/the-start-up-wife-hurray-for-the-millennial-man/

It must be biological for women - how can women simultaneously pine for alphas on the same website that they also want betas? I think that is the trick, they clearly talk about lust with alphas; but talk about everything but lust with a beta - how they cry about what he does for them, how he loves her unconditionally and it breaks her heart, how he is such a great helpmeet.

I think it must be biological - in their mind, it is perfectly legit to get knocked up by the alpha, and have the beta raise the child.

Women who are pregnant or who have very young children are genuinely attracted to beta behavior, because biologically they are at their weakest point and in desperate need of a man's resources.

Of course, I wouldn't say they are sexually attracted to betas on a visceral level, but their hamsters work overdrive to convince them otherwise during this period of their lives. This is why women who are pregnant or with young children can't stop talking about how great their lives are, how amazing and helpful their husbands are, how wonderful and fulfilling their relationship is, etc...

That's the hamster talking. Except it really isn't trying to convince anyone else. They are trying to convince themselves.