I am seeking not advice, but view from different point about my current situation.
To begin, even though it´s not okay to say such things on this forum anymore, to do not be seen as someone, who is desperately looking for attention of some woman to love me, I must admit that over last 2 and half years I have met with maybe hundreds of women and slept with dozens of them. Without having stronger sympathy for any of them and without desire to spend with them any extra time than necessary for reaching my sinful goals. During this period, I was opened for creating some deeper bond, but it just never worked, not even a close. I considered myself to be emotional-dead.
A little less then 2 months ago I met this woman, who lives 1 kilometer from my place. The thing is that I am 28 and she is 36. And she has got two children from 10 years LTR with some guy from USA, who stayed their whole relationship not really close to their family. If I told myself this 2 months ago, I would call myself crazy. But since the first moment, we clicked with each other very much. I mean I have never felt like this with any other girl in my life and it´s really intense. She´s not typical desperate single mother. She takes care of herself very well and you wouldn´t say she´s older than 30 and has vibes of much younger girl. Also, she´s not dependable on anyone, she earns a lot of money (from home), while she has really good approach to raising her kids. She also built a big house without any contribution of her ex (which is super difficult in my country thanks to current real estate crisis). We read the same books, talk about them and I would say we push each other forward a lot lot in terms of working on ourself to become better versions of us.
She´s very family oriented and she would like to have one more child soon, since it´s going to be her last chance. She´s probably very fertile, because both her children were born after 30 on "first attempt", according to her.
I know that this sounds crazy and if it wasn´t me, I would laugh. But I feel some kind of genuine connection I´ve never felt before. And to add, I am in military and currently being answered to new unit which will make me be away a lot and it would be nice to have someone to come back. We are not making any decisions and just let it "flow" and let the time show us and we both understand that to make any serious commitments, it´s still to early.
I’m in the exact same position...it almost feels like I wrote this. Met the best woman I have ever met several months ago- 37 years old and very feminine.
I think you take a crack at it- better to go after the best, most feminine woman you can get and potentially fail with starting a family. Going with a sub-standard one will lead to regret.
You only get one chance- take your best swing.