How Do You Stop Being A Lazy Bastard?

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Shadowarrior

 
Banned
Flint said:
How much porn do you watch?

I quit that shit 45 days ago and I must say my life has changed for the better ever since. I also went the first month without any masturbation but now I'm back at fapping thrice a week tops. In the process, I only think about women I interacted with in real life.

I don't think it's a panacea for everything wrong in your life, so you should combine it with other measures (working out, to-do-lists, socializing with as many people as possible, traveling, etc.). Looking back, though, I realize how it had made me unneccessarily inert over the years as well as self-complacent and lazy when it comes to approaching women in many situations.

I suggest to give it a shot and to check out the NoFap-Thread for more information. Many dudes seem to report similar positive side effects (whether they are placebo or not) such as a deeper voice and feeling more active.
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I have actually stopped looking at porn for about 3 months now(maybe more), and I believe it has helped me to be more active in all aspects of my life including approaching more women. I haven't been able to totally throw out fapping from my life successfully though.
 
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Statsi

Woodpecker
I adopted a very solid routine in the morning, beginning by ensuring you're getting enough sleep by getting to bed at a reasonable time, or napping on days I'm intending on heading out. find your own way of making sure you don't hit snooze and get up early, preferably a couple of hours prior to when you need to be some place(work, college, whatever), be it visualizing your morning before sleeping like Roosh, or moving your alarm far enough away that you have to physically get up to switch it off. My morning routine goes water, cardio while listening to a language program, food while reading notes/memorizing something, supplements and vitamins, stretching and mobility exercises while thinking about whatever I've memorized, then bathroom for shower/teeth brushed/getting pretty. This is a solid routine that takes around an hour and sets you up to be productive that day.

The next step to to tackle the most pressing task of the day, I run an omni-focus system where I write down everything I need to get done, however there are apps and such to have a more modern to do list. Pick the task that you're least likely to do and do it, some production guys call this 'swallowing your bull frog'- the goal is to do the hardest task of the day first. Habits and routines are way more effective than randomly taking care of business. If something takes longer than an hour it should really be a project rather than a task. Assign spare days to take care of projects.

I mapped out the 5(now six) areas of my life that mattered most to me, expanding on each area in my journal. They are body, mind, skills, social, and finance, I later added romance when it didn't feel right to have game under skills/social. Then I wrote the 5 things I spend most of my time doing, facebook, tv, clubbing, swing dancing, and working. If you aren't spending most of your time working on the areas that are most important, then by definition you aren't being effective. Every day I choose to do activities/habits that help me in my chosen areas. Be it habits like Roosh's one approach a day, or hobbies like swing dancing, hitting the gym, and going clubbing. Later on you can expand this idea by ridding yourself of everything that harms your development in your chosen areas, so improving your diet, cutting out tv, not wasting money on consumption, and drinking less.

You currently have an initial rush of inspiration, use it to push yourself into choosing to be productive.
 
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maharajj

Pigeon
Instead of focusing on not being lazy, it is better to focus on creating an environment that allows for an active life.

1) Make a list of goals
- Every year, on the day before my birthday, I write down my goals (4-5 max.) and why and how am I going to achieve them
- I also analyze my past year's goals, reasons for trying to achieve them, & reasons for achieving or not achieving them

2) Consistent action
- 1 day at a time. Doing this makes me feel that my life is long, and there is a lot I can do in it (this makes me happy)
- I make a To-do list as part of my daily journal. Every time I complete a task from it, I put a tick next to it (wanting these ticks makes me overcome my laziness because I want to show my journal to my sons one day, and so I want it to be perfect and complete)

3) Eliminate distractions
- This has been the key
- No TV, phone calls, texts, movies, games, alcohol, drugs, or porn etc. when I'm working. Not having these reduces my choices, so now I have nothing else to do other than completing my task head-on

4) Take breaks
- Wednesday is my day off. I don't even make a journal for Wednesday. The only thing I do on Wednesdays is to plan out the next 7 days of my life (food to eat, tasks, & make appointments etc.)
- I go to work merely to give attendance. I play video games, watch movies, meet people, and just relax

5) Get your nutrition in control
- I'm a fan of the keto diet. It really works for me. I feel more energetic, calm, and confident. It has also improved my physique
- I plan out my weekly meals on Wednesdays
 
RedKurrant

RedKurrant

Sparrow
The only way to stop being a lazy bastard is to make small, incremental changes over a long period of time. Eventually these will compound so that you become an incredibly productive person.

Nemencine said it best:

Habit. Habit formation. There is no other cure. Habit formation = auto-piloting

I am guessing you know this already. As such, your problem is not knowledge, your problem is implementation. This is true for a lot of things in life. Even picking up women.

So, how do you establish habit formation?

You choose something that is easy to do, and then do it repeatedly, over and over again. To build the force of habit.

I dont care what it is. It could be anything. It doesnt matter. Just something that is easy, then setup a time for it, and repeat it everyday for a month. Every day.

Whenever you break this rule, start all over again. Repeat this until you generate complete consistency for a solid month. Trust me, if you cannot do something that is thoroughly easy, and do it everyday at a specific time for a month, you wont be able to do something difficult or complex at an allotted time, everyday, for a month either.

This is the key.

If you cannot be bothered to run this exercise, then you can simply forget it, because nothing will change.

The reason why most people fail in follow-through with their goals and objective is because they are trying to do two things at once: They are trying to (1) accomplish difficult tasks, and (2) they are trying to establish habit formation at the same time. This is why they fail. If you are not an already disciplined person, this multi-pronged approach(goals + habit) will task your willpower beyond its limits; hence, failure. Better to create habit -- as a foundation, and then slowly stack the difficult task on top of that strong foundation.

For example, here is some people's new year resolution: Go to the gym everyday, exercise for 2 hours, and eat healthy. Most likely, they will fail to accomplish this because they are trying to accomplish a difficult task and create a habit at the same time. That is why they fail after the initial enthusiasm has died.

How can they succeed? Simply this way: The first thing they should do is just go to the gym first and exercise, then after consistency with that; they should then increase the range of exercise and time to 2 hours... then, after consistency with that, change their diet. One step at a time. Instead of trying to do all 3 at the same time. Embedded in that is the subject of segmenting your task into mini-tasks. Also, doing your task at the same time, every day, creates a pattern, which builds momentum. Momentum is harder to stop.

This why it is paramount to focus on habit formation first. Set up an easy task, and went about doing it repeatedly to get into the groove of habit formation... this will give you the mentality to then be able to setup a difficult task and do it repeatedly. You lay the foundation, then build upon it.

Another thing is goal setting: If you think you can accomplish 3 things per day. Cut it in half and do 1.5 things a day instead... and do it consistently, day in, day out for a month. Do not go over and below that 1.5 things per day, regardless of how strong or weak you feel. This kind of consistency is critical. Be strict about it. I cannot emphasis this enough. If you are feeling like a million bucks and think you can take on the world and do 9 things that day, dont do it: stick to that pattern of 1.5 things per day. Why? If you can control your feel good moods and stick to a plan; you will be able to control your bad, lethargic moods and stick to a plan. This is the core of auto-piloting. This is mastery. This also trains your mental discipline and teaches you patience. Trust me, the day will come when you will be able to do those 9 things per day; you will eventually build to that level. One essential part of discipline is being able to tolerate those small baby steps. Be patient, and take your time.

regards,

Nemencine

p.s. a good book is called "the disciplined life" by richard taylor. (dated, christian; but effective.you are not interested in the christian preachings, but the lessons inherent in there.) I am sure you can find the PDF somewhere online.
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