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<blockquote data-quote="The Lizard of Oz" data-source="post: 397704" data-attributes="member: 5521">Here's a surprising bit of advice: relax.The obsession with one's own supposed laziness and procrastination is a sign of anxiety. It sounds to me like you're basically doing fine but you have high expectations of yourself which are always unmet so you're preoccupied with &quot;significant opportunities&quot; missed in the past and how your laziness is always to blame.Don't play that game, it's one where you always lose. It sounds like you're healthy and are doing ok financially, so your &quot;laziness&quot; doesn't seem like a fatal illness, does it?You don't need to &quot;drastically change your life&quot; in any particular way except relax and enjoy it. If you relax into life, you'll forget to be lazy. How's that for a little paradox?If your &quot;procrastination&quot; gets you into real practical difficulties, just do what you're already doing: set a schedule for doing certain tasks that you need to do and just do them on a schedule. There is no need to turn your whole life upside down where you can just set a few simple habits, should that be necessary. And you can do that at any time, there is no special preparation needed. You can start doing something practically useful on a schedule as of tomorrow, if that helps you.Guys worry so much about &quot;achieving goals&quot; that they forget to enjoy their life, and miss the &quot;goals&quot; anyway because they're too fucking tense and preoccupied when the opportunity strikes.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="The Lizard of Oz, post: 397704, member: 5521"] Here's a surprising bit of advice: relax. The obsession with one's own supposed laziness and procrastination is a sign of anxiety. It sounds to me like you're basically doing fine but you have high expectations of yourself which are always unmet so you're preoccupied with "significant opportunities" missed in the past and how your laziness is always to blame. Don't play that game, it's one where you always lose. It sounds like you're healthy and are doing ok financially, so your "laziness" doesn't seem like a fatal illness, does it? You don't need to "drastically change your life" in any particular way except relax and enjoy it. If you relax into life, you'll [b]forget to be lazy[/b]. How's that for a little paradox? If your "procrastination" gets you into real practical difficulties, just do what you're already doing: set a schedule for doing certain tasks that you need to do and just do them on a schedule. There is no need to turn your whole life upside down where you can just set a few simple habits, should that be necessary. And you can do that at any time, there is no special preparation needed. You can start doing something practically useful on a schedule as of tomorrow, if that helps you. Guys worry so much about "achieving goals" that they forget to enjoy their life, and miss the "goals" anyway because they're too fucking tense and preoccupied when the opportunity strikes. [/QUOTE]

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