People struggle because they think, that things or people around them are not good enough as they are and they need to be fixed or changed.
And they go and waste a colossal amount of energy by trying to change things that cannot be changed.
I was the same until I discovered that I can't control almost anything except myself. And even that is a big success if I manage to have a little control over myself in most cases.
Instead, I realized that being content is a matter of view. I live a life that could be considered by some as pretty good or entirely insufficient by others in order to be happy.
But it doesn't matter how others view my life. I'm the one who needs to decide how to view the things and people around me.
And I decided to regard them as satisfactory enough. I'm satisfied with things as they are. I'm grateful to God for people and things around me as they are, even when others may subjectively consider them as not good enough. But I determined they are good enough.
And it doesn't mean that I'm passive and fatalistic, void of any expectations or desires relating to the future.
Quite contrary. God has blessed me with many things already, and I hope for more in the future. And I'm sure He will bless me if I do my part.
But in the meantime, I will enjoy a million good things God provided for us on this earth, like sunshine, watching clouds driven by wind or night sky, or having a good meal with my family.
My part is to be grateful and humble, not to complain when people or things are different than I wished.
Acceptance of people as they are is not approval of their actions. But it is a key element needed if we want to avoid living in constant struggle, being judgmental, and being unforgivable.
We all are deeply flawed. Accept it and instead of focusing on flaws, appreciate having close people and enjoy their good traits.
When you start dwelling on good things in mind, your feelings will follow, and you will start to feel fine too. And because it is your mind, then you can think what you want. Bible encourages us, to think only about these things: whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Philippians 4:8