I have never had a girlfriend - is that weird?

[cardguy]

I suppose humans are social animals. And the day I don't have to spend 8 hours a day trapped in an office with people - I may consider looking for other people to share my life with.

As it is - the part about being social with other people? I get my fill of that by about 10:30am most mornings.

Anyway - as much as I love reading books. I would never tell other people they had to do it in order to be happy. I understand that other people have different needs from life.

But - when guys talk about the joys of being single - I definitely sense they get attacked more than the people do when they talk about the joys of being in relationships.

The whole of society is geared towards pairing people up. Just turn on the radio and listen to some pop music. Or watch any film ever.

 

[Icarus]

Yes, most women are trash. But there are exceptions. Great girls are rare, but they do indeed exist. Find one (preferably in Eastern Europe), and you will change your mind overnight.

I once thought like you. Then I met a gorgeous Russian girl who was also very smart (she was a physicist) and with whom I could talk about any topic. She cooked well. She was very feminine. She had impeccable manners. Suddenly, I found myself thinking "Damn, I think I wanna marry her!! What is wrong with me?"

 

[Bill]

There was a thread about rationale male or something like that. Curdguy it looks you live rather rational.

I had some girlfriends in the past I think the experience was worth it. You do experience some oxytocin and crazy sex. But later the newness fades away and through hedonic adaptation the good parts become normal but the bad parts grow bigger. So I did make a big pause to the women thing and will start in the RP where the ROI is mildly acceptable.

No, you are not weird at least not in the general sense. There is a forum which I go and there a the weirdest and different things like guys who are obsessed with self castrazing. Now that´s weird.

 

[cardguy]

I have a secret. The past couple of weeks I have been working on a time machine.

Give me two seconds whilst I go back in time and write a song - and insert it into a movie. Sometimes I find a song the best way to express myself.



[EDIT] I just checked YouTube. Seems the song became a hit - and you can now find it on YouTube.

 

[JJ Roberts]

One of the curses about being 'red-pill' is I feel as though no one is good enough for that position anymore. Every time I walk around with a nice girl I want to ditch her for one of the other ones.

Thats not a curse with being red pill, thats a curse of being 2.0.

Why would you ever have to ditch one girl to get another one?! Just do unfenced relationships and set yourself up with dozens of GFs.

 

[PrimeTime32]

@cardguy trust me man you ain't missing shit. Girlfriends are overrated. I've had several over my lifetime and to me it's just a huge time and financial suck since there are better things to do with my time. As long as you're getting ass pretty regularly its all good.

 

[cardguy]

@Bill - I am very rational. I always ask myself 'Why?' before doing anything.

It is the most powerful word in the English language.

 

[monster]

As it is - the part about being social with other people? I get my fill of that by about 10:30am most mornings.

'Socializing' at work is completely different than being social with friends, family and gfs. No comparison.

But - when guys talk about the joys of being single - I definitely sense they get attacked more than the people do when they talk about the joys of being in relationships.

When people say they're "single and lovin' it" it means they're playing the field. When people say they're "single" without enthusiasm it means they cant get laid.

 

[cardguy]

I wonder if most guys are more in love with the idea of love - than with any actual woman?

 

[JJ Roberts]

@cardguy Having a girlfriend (or even several) does not mean you have to be in societally conventional 2.0 relationship and give up your freedoms.

 

[Bill]

I wonder if most guys are more in love with the idea of love - than with any actual woman?

Hey Curdguy, there is another word "Why not" try it man. Just for a little while and then you could report back if you felt something. Which might be revealing to you.

I mean aren´t you interested if you can feel anything. You like to explore things why not explore yourself.

Maybe you get a huge rush of oxytocin. - Or you just save some money and go to the RP where you don´t have to work and get some 7,5 chics with good ROI It´s natural to become depressed seeing the relationships in the west.

 

[cardguy]

My favourite blogger (I have two favourite bloggers by the way) covered this subject the other day:

http://wimminz.wordpress.com/2014/04/14/hermit-life-i-woebot/

From one of the comments below the blog:

"Self and isolation, or the death of self and companionship, that is the choice."

 

[cardguy]

@Bill - no - I am not just going to try something that seems unappealing just for the hell of it. Sorry.

Why don't I try being gay as well - just to see what it is like?

 

[bojangles]

I've had one but I'm not even sure that was a relationship so maybe I've not had a girlfriend, but maybe I've had lots of girlfriends. However I do enjoy time to myself, you learn a lot in relationships.

 

[Slim Shady]

Not only have I never had a girlfriend, I have never really even had a steady "slampiece". Maybe just one girl that I had sex with a bunch of times. For the longest time since losing my virginity, I had never hooked up with the same girl twice. I simply got bored. Partying came first, and girls kind of were just produced out of it.

I am a lot younger than you, however.

Every once in a while, maybe every 6 months or so, I'll look back on my life and see that it has been crazy and out of control - with the binge drinking, blackouts, and sloppy hookups, and I'll think I could and should settle down for a bit with a cute 7 who may be a bit homey but will keep me [mainly the drinking and sex drive] in check.

However, every time I have actively though I should wife up a girl for a bit, I don't even get lays and sloppy sex. I realize that I have subconsciously started treating girls nicer, and maybe that also gives off a needier vibe. So I go back to my hedonistic and debaucherous ways, till a run in with the cops forces me to stay in and stay sober for a while, with only monster cock porn to alleviate my pain, regret, and self loathing.

Then the cycle starts all over again.

 

[Eusebius]

Cardguy, from what I understand you have an easy and secure job and live in the north of England. I think the former has allowed you to become complacent and the latter has affected you a lot, too. It's a depressing place of grey skies and chavs. If you're not a chav, the best thing to do is seems to be to stay in with a cup of tea and a good book.

Clearly you're not after advice. And I could have gone the same way in similar circumstances. I haven't had a GF for years, but I've banged plenty of women and had FBs who I throw out to listen to music and read a book in peace.

 

[cardguy]

I am out most weekends. The clubs in Newcastle are fantastic.

Much better than the shit I experienced in Stockholm.

 

[Eusebius]

At least plan on getting your arse out to Thailand or the Philippines once to bang out a dozen girls just for the experience. Then you can return home and tell us how meh it all was.

 

[speakeasy]

What appeals to me about a relationship is being able to kick back, have sex on the regular and not feel like you have to be on the prowl constantly if you want to get laid. You don't gave to worry about carrying your A-game 24/7. If you didn't talk to that hottie that walked by you don't have to kick yourself, you got a girl to chill with later. Going out all the time and having to mack, filter through flaky numbers, set up dates. etc can wear you out over time. Especially as you get older. And even more so for introverts like us.

 

[Parlay44]

I can't LTR the girls I like and I can't get rid of the girls that want to LTR me

What do you rate yourself looks wise 1-10?

What is your height and weight?

Are you in shape?

Do you get laid on the regular?

Are you settled in your career?