I have never had a girlfriend - is that weird?
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Isn't it a girl you hang out with regularly, do activities with, and have sex with?
RexImperator said:
There should also be some component of emotional attachment, with pleasure arising in her company, stress arising when you are away from her too long, and loss aversion to ending the relationship.
That's not to say you can't break up with a girlfriend, but breaking up with a girlfriend is hard and it hurts, even if it's the best thing to do.
I've never had a real "girlfriend", just messed around with a handful of women - finding a girl who's even girlfriend material isn't that easy.
And the few who were attractive enough that I would've wanted to continue dating usually ended up admitting they had boyfriends or husbands and were cheating with me.
Where I live finding an attractive woman who isn't a single mother or isn't already in a relationship isn't all that easy - I'd probably have to join a church for my best luck at that.
And the few who were attractive enough that I would've wanted to continue dating usually ended up admitting they had boyfriends or husbands and were cheating with me.
Where I live finding an attractive woman who isn't a single mother or isn't already in a relationship isn't all that easy - I'd probably have to join a church for my best luck at that.
What you never went to a high school?
Wow!
I had a girlfriend named Jenny, that lived next door when I was two.
My parents still have pictures of us kissing and taking baths together.
Wow!
I had a girlfriend named Jenny, that lived next door when I was two.
My parents still have pictures of us kissing and taking baths together.
I think I went on one date in high school. Two if you count the prom.
When I was in high school you kind of had to "go steady" with a girl if you wanted pussy. There were far fewer girls that just fucking anybody and who wants to smash the local cum-dumpster.
Not sure who this was in reply to, but I went to a conservative Christian school and anything other than 'courtship' style dating was frowned upon.AboveAverageJoe said:
Even at that age I more or less noticed a bunch of idealistic young guys think they'd be 'happily ever after' with their GF, then feeling hurt when they broke up.
Around my junior year or so I met cute girl at a local Walmart who was a senior in a public school - invited me over to a party with alcohol where I messed around with her and one of her friends.
Got more action than most of the guys at that school who actually had girlfriends (not that that's saying a whole lot).
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I'm in the same boat.
Haven't had a girlfriend since freshman year of high school.
Haven't had a girlfriend since freshman year of high school.
It is normal for humans to form pair bonds. Some women have that siren-like attraction that makes you want to GF or wife-up. I don't recommend marriage but I do recommend pair bonding at some point. You might find a woman that actually compliments you and your lifestyle. Pre-selection is a powerful motivator for women, they want what other women have not what any woman can have. It is possible to have women that do what you tell them and handle your affairs keep your home in order, etc. Women that are truly there to serve you. The problem is that these women are always sixes and sevens at best. Beautiful girls have more options and rarely date down. Almost all cultures have a saying about not marrying a beautiful woman if you want a comfortable life. At some point you are going to have to choose whether you are going to deal with the problems of dating an elite level beauty or deal with a more common, plain-Jane that is there to serve you. I prefer to be seen in public with only good-looking, thin women. I would be embarassed to be seen with anything else, but a plain woman at home is an asset.
Bullshit. Plain women are just as much hassle, they bring a whole other pile of problems and drain your resources and time just as much. They've also taken in the feminist brainwashing and it is always a power struggle with them.
I think cardguy (and that song he posted) was right.
I think cardguy (and that song he posted) was right.
Living with women in the short term boosts your testosterone, living with them long term drains it. Always remember this.
I take it that some of you guys who avoid having girlfriends just pick up random girls all the time or constantly have "plates"?
In cardguys's case I believe he did P4P.
That's a bit different from someone like me who doesn't have a girlfriend or have sex.
In cardguys's case I believe he did P4P.
That's a bit different from someone like me who doesn't have a girlfriend or have sex.
Rex, you don't have sex? At all?
If you don't mind me asking, why don't you have sex?
Are you focusing on a business or self improvement?
Also, how old are you? It seems odd for someone to willingly take themselves out of the game.
I recently got out of a live in LTR so I've been meeting new girls lately. I have three who have been coming over around once a week. It's great not living with a girl anymore. I can do whatever I want. The feeling you get when you turn down a girl because you're tired and want to go to bed at 9 pm to read a book is awesome. I don't have to put up with any bullshit, drama, or bitching.
I'd enjoy a serious relationship with the right girl at some point in the future, but right now I'm loving my current situation.
If you don't mind me asking, why don't you have sex?
Are you focusing on a business or self improvement?
Also, how old are you? It seems odd for someone to willingly take themselves out of the game.
I recently got out of a live in LTR so I've been meeting new girls lately. I have three who have been coming over around once a week. It's great not living with a girl anymore. I can do whatever I want. The feeling you get when you turn down a girl because you're tired and want to go to bed at 9 pm to read a book is awesome. I don't have to put up with any bullshit, drama, or bitching.
I'd enjoy a serious relationship with the right girl at some point in the future, but right now I'm loving my current situation.
Nope. It's not like it's entirely by choice. It's a lot harder for some of us to find a girlfriend. I'm 41.
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