I intentionally keep my wife poor -- to preserve our marriage
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alphaspiraton
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Come on OP, this is just terrible advice. Limiting your true potential for 1 pussy? What if she divorces you anyway, will you then commit suicide because you have put so much cost into the relationship (opportunity cost of not making millions of $ as you claim).
Chances are if she is watching those girl power shows, then she is already eyeing a dude that is above you, i.e. the guy that already has the $5-$10 million from selling his company, that can provide her with the lifestyle that she wants or yearns after.
Chances are if she is watching those girl power shows, then she is already eyeing a dude that is above you, i.e. the guy that already has the $5-$10 million from selling his company, that can provide her with the lifestyle that she wants or yearns after.
jimukr104
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True good points. But I am confused. If she is a girl you are dating why the fuck do you have to spend money on her? and why does she ask? sounds too much Greek Kamaki like lol.
OP story is different because he is with a life partner. But I relate in a way. I have about 2 million but I am frugal as shit! I know how women get spoiled and I always say NO. NO NO NO. My wife hates it..but god forbid I say yes. She has a tendency to want milk with her cookies. She gets her way she will try to get more..Ukrainian after all lol. So a NO policy is best!
Which part is that? In FSU they try to get everything they can from you lol.
BS..wishful thinking. They would get over it. Especially after they hear they are each getting 1 million dollars. Most guys here would push their parents for a divorce is they would get a big monetary reward.
[/quote]jimukr104 said:
Ha! I wish I had the money for the Greek Kamaki lifestyle.
When a girl is asking you to go to a club named Klink ($20 cover) to see some no name DJ and grab drinks (~30-40$) when neither of you have cash you learn to say no quickly.
Use more money to bring in more women, not to bang if you desire to be faithful but to keep your wife on her toes.
A hot young executive assistant, private tutor, nanny or au pair will make the wife think twice about leaving. She'll instead want to stay around to make sure that all of those young bitches don't get any of her man or her money.
My wife used to get her panties in a bunch over the fact that I had a sweet old lady that cleaned my house and did my laundry once a week. Best $40/week i ever spent.
A hot young executive assistant, private tutor, nanny or au pair will make the wife think twice about leaving. She'll instead want to stay around to make sure that all of those young bitches don't get any of her man or her money.
My wife used to get her panties in a bunch over the fact that I had a sweet old lady that cleaned my house and did my laundry once a week. Best $40/week i ever spent.
Great strategy. I think what MrLemon says is counter-intuitive to most guys but it makes sense in America. Making lots of money during a marriage introduces instability into a marriage and if divorced she's going to take more from you in the long run and you'll be saddled with higher child support payments.
Conversely, making money after a divorce means you keep all of it and your child support payments are low.
Ideally, a man could make lots of money but keep his family living a modest lifestyle. This will preserve the morals of the children and the wife. In America, a woman knows how much money you have and will most likely be tempted to divorce rape you for it. You can try to hide your bank statements but it's just a matter of time before she finds out if she's living with you for 10 years. And even if she doesn't find your bank statements, but knows you've been working your ass off for 10 years and probably has lots of $$$, she'll divorce you anyways and the courts will hunt down your assets for her. Good luck keeping your stuff hidden from the law, you won't succeed if you have anything over a million.
However, making lots of money and getting married is counter-productive only because we live in a perverse system. In a normal healthy society, men have way more power than they do in America, and keep their property pretty much no matter what.
Conversely, making money after a divorce means you keep all of it and your child support payments are low.
Ideally, a man could make lots of money but keep his family living a modest lifestyle. This will preserve the morals of the children and the wife. In America, a woman knows how much money you have and will most likely be tempted to divorce rape you for it. You can try to hide your bank statements but it's just a matter of time before she finds out if she's living with you for 10 years. And even if she doesn't find your bank statements, but knows you've been working your ass off for 10 years and probably has lots of $$$, she'll divorce you anyways and the courts will hunt down your assets for her. Good luck keeping your stuff hidden from the law, you won't succeed if you have anything over a million.
However, making lots of money and getting married is counter-productive only because we live in a perverse system. In a normal healthy society, men have way more power than they do in America, and keep their property pretty much no matter what.
I think that the OP is either living in denial or there is some subtle trolling going on, but the suggestion is on point.
Having a lot of money is going to make it very hard to trust others, male friends included.
It's lonely at the top.
Women need purpose and having too much money is going to take that away from them.
I would suggest a middle ground, however.
Hustle early on, lock some money away where no one will ever find it and then if you do marry, you'll have back up cash, but stick to living an acceptable middle class existence.
That's my plan.
Having a lot of money is going to make it very hard to trust others, male friends included.
It's lonely at the top.
Women need purpose and having too much money is going to take that away from them.
I would suggest a middle ground, however.
Hustle early on, lock some money away where no one will ever find it and then if you do marry, you'll have back up cash, but stick to living an acceptable middle class existence.
That's my plan.
WestIndianArchie said:
I totally understand OP in this.
Once you meet a certain middle class income that lets you be comfortable enough, there are many much more interesting things to do (depending on your personality) then working to earn more money then needed for middle class existence. Focusing on health, fitness, art or any hobby does much more for you as a human being. For married men spending time with children and passing their wisdom and values is also something that can be done more when there is no extra work to be done.
If mot men wouldn't be betas who felt the pressure of their wives them most men wouldn't reduce themselves to professionals without personality like most men are.
People seem to be split between two sides:
1. MrLemon is making a smart move by avoiding the introduction of new volatility, via money, into his stable family life. He understands women and is to be congratulated for his foresight and self-control.
2. MrLemon is, in actually, the one being controlled by his wife. If his wife had money, her poor choices would result in a deteriorated family life. His decision to marry this particular women has severely limited his earning potential.
Both of the above positions are correct. MrLemon is making the best of a shitty situation. He's limiting his potential, because he has to.
More importantly, the OP can be taken as another reason not to marry Western women:
The above quotes give insight into which activities one should watch out for in a potential LTR.
OP is clever in his current actions, but, more and more, it seems that getting married to a Westernized women is a financial death sentence.
1. MrLemon is making a smart move by avoiding the introduction of new volatility, via money, into his stable family life. He understands women and is to be congratulated for his foresight and self-control.
2. MrLemon is, in actually, the one being controlled by his wife. If his wife had money, her poor choices would result in a deteriorated family life. His decision to marry this particular women has severely limited his earning potential.
Both of the above positions are correct. MrLemon is making the best of a shitty situation. He's limiting his potential, because he has to.
More importantly, the OP can be taken as another reason not to marry Western women:
The above quotes give insight into which activities one should watch out for in a potential LTR.
OP is clever in his current actions, but, more and more, it seems that getting married to a Westernized women is a financial death sentence.
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BallsDeep said:
Put cash / or gold in a safe deposit box. Should be somewhat untraceable.
robreke said:
If the safe deposit box is in your name then it is traceble.
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