This is getting at the angle of my responses, originally. If you don't have a calling to be a monk (perhaps we don't know any real calling until we do it or are on the precipice of it) and withdraw in that honorable way, the alternative is a major challenge as you age. I've had plenty of interactions with women, family members and friends/friends of friends that show me - at the very least - how little consideration there is for men and what is attractive to them, or worthy of committing to. When you work hard and have a lot going for you, it is very tough to deal with the fact that women (by their nature) are a lot of work and it's a challenge to land 6s or better in the west. There is unbelievable unawareness of just how little modern women bring to the table.Yes, that is a trap that young christian men or secular for that matter, will find themselves in quickly if they do not marry young. What's left in the marriage pool are other mens leftovers, which to me is a slap in the face to a man.