tylerdurden1993 said:One thing I don't understand about Islam is the whole 4 wives thing.
First of all its statistically impossible for this to happen as for every 1 female born there are usually 1.05 men born.
This is an excellent question.
I'm not sure how accurate that stat is but for the sake of the question let's assume that it is factual.
So how do you actually get more than one wife, say you have a wife. But you want another one do you go through your family or do you have to meet them and their family in person i.e. at a mosque. Do you have to be able to prove you can financially support another wife etc. So to stop guys taking on more than they can handle so to speak.
Networking through family, friends, and the mosque are excellent options. It is the right of the wife to be supported. Meaning the husband is responsible for clothing, food, and housing. If the husband wants to produce documents outlining his financial fitness he is certainly welcome to do so but it isn't neccessary. The wife is going to find out sooner or later if he can't support her and she can divorce him because of it if she so chooses.
Or is it a case where only the some men get 4 wives but if this is the case what happens to the guys at the bottom of the food chain do they not get a wife, as if this is the case you're going to have a lot of angry young men wandering around which isn't good for society. An example being the "lost boys" in polygamous Mormon communities
Any male can have more than one wife as long as he can fulfill the rights of each wife. What happened to the "lost boys" is truly a disgusting situation. We have to understand that just because polygyny is perfectly permissible, and even encouraged, not everyone will have the emotional or financial capacity to deal with multiple families. So as we see now it is only a minority of men who take on these responsibilities in locations where it is permissible.
Generally, when countries experienced an abundance of young men it was considered the perfect opportunity to expand borders and secure more resources (that includes women).
With the obvious demographics above what happens if you or your family can't find a wife for you as said above do you just have to wait for one , do you have to work harder to prove to the community you deserve a wife. Its not like there's a free for all like in western countries.
If he can't find a wife around him he should travel to areas that have them available.
Finally is this whole 4 wives thing bullshit whereas the only guys that get 4 wives are the super alphas so it doesn't affect the numbers so much. i.e. basically every normal guy gets a wife.
Seems to be, If we define the super alpha as those who go through with multiple marriages.