Ladies Forum Guidelines & Introduction thread

[Ah_Tibor]

My current plan is to get an online degree related to computer programming. That way, I don’t have to set foot on a college campus while gaining a skill that may be useful in the future. I’m certainly not too interested in the subject, but getting some sort of a degree seems like a necessity in the eyes of my family.

It's not a bad thing. Something can always happen and you'll have to support yourself/others. Also it's a good thing to know how the world works to some point. I'm not criticizing how anyone lives their life-- especially since I think college nowadays is probably actively harmful-- but I know some boomer ladies who had a great time in college and assumed it would be the same for their own children (especially the ones that got married right after college and only worked in a limited capacity-- which is also ok-- I think they just have a kind of warped or sheltered view of the world and they encourage their kids to have insane goals for whatever reason).

My husband and I want to give our kids two years of community college, but they're on their own after that lol.

I’ve heard this advice before, and although it makes practical sense, I cannot help but feel that it is an inappropriate way to view church. I want my desire to attend church to spring from my faith, not from the urgency to find a husband.

It *is* kind of weird to spouse shop at church-- but Orthodox have (or used to have, before everyone went insane) a lot of good social connections outside of "church," so it's always possible.

 

[St Judith]

Those women who marry young or what passes for young are blessed.

I personally have met enough women in my life and have some in my family who either regretted marrying young or those who rather regretted not getting married. Guess which group is the more miserable?

It's the latter one - usually those women have done 'everything right'. Partying in their 20s and only attempting to find Mr. Right past 33 - I saw them in tears as they were not able to conceive even as they tried to do it with random guys. Childless and 40 is a terrible thing for most women to go through.

As for the women who regret having married young. It's mostly based in the head and the natural instincts women have which tells them to look for the best man - satisfying their highly sexually attractive (aka best hot genes) and best provider material. Those men are so rare that you would have to be insane attempting it or we would have to return as a society to primitive caveman times of the chief having most women while the other men are shuffling around listless. The better system one of stable marriages under diviine guidance.

I talked onced with a woman who got married aged 20 and had her kids in her early 20s. The marriage was not super-happy, but the husband was a good provider and good father, so she stayed married until the children were grown up. Then she divorced and found a more fitting match and is very happy again. I told her that this model is by far better than anything feminists are coaxing the women into. Getting children young is best and if the husband is no psychopath, then the better. While divorce is not optimal, at least it gives you still later in life time to find a new partner.

And obviously those women are far happier than the childless 40+ ones who would not even visit their friends with children, because it is too painful for them.

Society is sick by design - don't let their voices get to you. Their Satanic counseling is all wrong. And even the basic female hypergamic instincts - they are nothing but base animal instincts that serve some role of course, but they should be infused with higher meaning as well since we are above the animal consciousness as sentient beings at least on this level.

You make it out to be that celibacy equals to misery while marriage equals to happiness/blessedness.

If you married young and a happily married, that's good for you, but that is not necessarily the will of God for all women to marry young or even marry at all. It has been the Church teaching that celibacy is ideal, while marriage is a lesser calling than celibacy.

It seems that you are just trying to feel good and smug about yourself.

 

[St Judith]

Hi all

I'm new to the forum here.

 

[St Judith]

Those women who marry young or what passes for young are blessed.

I personally have met enough women in my life and have some in my family who either regretted marrying young or those who rather regretted not getting married. Guess which group is the more miserable?

It's the latter one - usually those women have done 'everything right'. Partying in their 20s and only attempting to find Mr. Right past 33 - I saw them in tears as they were not able to conceive even as they tried to do it with random guys. Childless and 40 is a terrible thing for most women to go through.

As for the women who regret having married young. It's mostly based in the head and the natural instincts women have which tells them to look for the best man - satisfying their highly sexually attractive (aka best hot genes) and best provider material. Those men are so rare that you would have to be insane attempting it or we would have to return as a society to primitive caveman times of the chief having most women while the other men are shuffling around listless. The better system one of stable marriages under diviine guidance.

I talked onced with a woman who got married aged 20 and had her kids in her early 20s. The marriage was not super-happy, but the husband was a good provider and good father, so she stayed married until the children were grown up. Then she divorced and found a more fitting match and is very happy again. I told her that this model is by far better than anything feminists are coaxing the women into. Getting children young is best and if the husband is no psychopath, then the better. While divorce is not optimal, at least it gives you still later in life time to find a new partner.

And obviously those women are far happier than the childless 40+ ones who would not even visit their friends with children, because it is too painful for them.

Society is sick by design - don't let their voices get to you. Their Satanic counseling is all wrong. And even the basic female hypergamic instincts - they are nothing but base animal instincts that serve some role of course, but they should be infused with higher meaning as well since we are above the animal consciousness as sentient beings at least on this level.

And by the way, you are wrong to assume that women who do not marry young are all fornicators which you are implying.

That is not true.

I emphasise that is absolutely and totally possible and feasible for a person to be celibate until their late 20s and early 30s. It is just that in such a sexualised culture like yours (I'm assuming your American or otherwise a westerner), it seems impossible. Most of you westerners or westernised people have warped views on love and romance and are obsessed with romance - which is why you all are so obsessed with sex and lack self-control and feel that being celibate (which is a must for Christians) means being 'empty' and 'lonely'. That is why so many of you all western Christians rush into marriage - just to have sex. But for most cultures around the world, it is not only expected but the norm, and most people are able to handle celibacy much more easily than you westerners or westernised people.

 

[DelMarMisty]

And by the way, you are wrong to assume that women who do not marry young are all fornicators which you are implying.

That is not true.

I emphasise that is absolutely and totally possible and feasible for a person to be celibate until their late 20s and early 30s. It is just that in such a sexualised culture like yours (I'm assuming your American or otherwise a westerner), it seems impossible. Most of you westerners or westernised people have warped views on love and romance and are obsessed with romance - which is why you all are so obsessed with sex and lack self-control and feel that being celibate (which is a must for Christians) means being 'empty' and 'lonely'. That is why so many of you all western Christians rush into marriage - just to have sex. But for most cultures around the world, it is not only expected but the norm, and most people are able to handle celibacy much more easily than you westerners or westernised people.

I agree with this. Even the obsession with marriage and children, idolising everything. It seems over the top sometimes.

Christians talking about things like 'Good sex', the act of sex is only a creation of our fallen state. It is made of lust, it only exists because of our inability to align our thinking to anything higher. When you reflect on sex, it is clear that it is not divine, and will not exist in Heaven.

 

[St Judith]

I agree with this. Even the obsession with marriage and children, idolising everything. It seems over the top sometimes.

Christians talking about things like 'Good sex', the act of sex is only a creation of our fallen state. It is made of lust, it only exists because of our inability to thinking of anything higher. When you sit back and reflect on sex, you can see that it is clearly not divine and will not exist in Heaven.

Exactly!

The term Christians use is 'holy sex' particularly in Catholic circles, and hence those people are called 'the holy sex people'. Sex though it not inherently evil, but in a fallen world, it is often done in lust, and marriage is no different. Much marital sex that people have is lust-driven. There is a such thing as holy sex, which is:

1. Between a husband and wife who are VALIDLY married to each other
2. Procreative - no unnatural sex acts which are always sinful and technically outside of marriage even when the partners are married to each other, because these do not constitute the conjugal union
3. Unitive - done for unity
4. Not done out of hedonistic self-serving pleasure, which is what lust is

 

[Leeloo]

Another reminder to the new ladies.. we are growing and seeing a lot of new faces here. Its wonderful to see everyone jump in and participate in the thread discussions, but even better to see the new ladies take a moment to say hello and introduce themselves. I think i can speak and say that we are all glad for new additions and I for one am interested in how everyone found their way here and part of this community. Welcome!

 

[teamterf]

Hi all,

I just made my first account on the forum, but by no means am I new to rooshvforum. I once had a very popular account on RoK pretending to be male. I am here because I am drained emotionally by the observations of our current reality and want to surround myself with like-minded people with similar moral and ethical values.
About me:
I am a recently married 32 y.o. Catholic, however my now husband and I have been together since I was 21 and him 22. We share a bond that I never knew possible prior to meeting and growing with him.
As with most millennials, I was encouraged to pursue an education. I went to a prestigious private school for undergrad, where I majored in mathematics and minored in economics. I did not care much about school or the partying scene, but I did care about the hustle. I worked at a several drinking establishments, and I would often forgo class to work double shifts.
After graduation, I worked for several years but I went back to school and am now an esquire. While we encountered turbulent times during law school, my husband supported me throughout. I by no means regret my decision in pursing this career, as I truly love practicing and where we are economically as a working couple.
On my free time, I enjoy running, obstacle course racing, reading books -currently reading "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depending On It", cooking -especially fresh pastas and ramen (yummmmmm)-, and well that is all I have time for as an adult human. I do not usually watch tv, but I have been watching Titans and random anime -current fav is JuJutsu Kiasen- on HBO Max. Nice to meet everyone, I look forward to engaging in some intriguing discussions

 

[Leeloo]

Welcome @teamterf. Interesting username…
Thanks so much for sharing your backstory. I think a lot of us lurked on the men’s forum at the very least prior to the creation of this ladies section. It’s nice to see another person who has been around for years here and definitely great for us to have a space now to discuss a variety of topics with like minded people.
Congrats on your strong faith and marriage and work ethic and for sharing your interests. I would love to check out that book! There’s a whole thread dedicated to what we are currently reading, a great place to share ideas, especially if you’re not a big television person. I think i can speak from what I see here and say that most of us prefer books to modern pop culture entertainment.
Thanks for sharing and welcome!!!

 

[infowarrior1]

I agree with this. Even the obsession with marriage and children, idolising everything. It seems over the top sometimes.

Christians talking about things like 'Good sex', the act of sex is only a creation of our fallen state. It is made of lust, it only exists because of our inability to align our thinking to anything higher. When you reflect on sex, it is clear that it is not divine, and will not exist in Heaven.

All fleshly lusts are distortions of formerly healthy appetites given by God. Gluttony is another. When Eros is a fire that belongs in the fireplace.

But Lust is fire raging out of control burning the building down.

As for sex. I think even prior to the fall should Adam and Eve not sin it is probably only temporary before the complete Theosis of the individuals in question.

It was for unity and procreation even then.

 

[Arby]

Hey everyone! Just made this account because I wanted to post on other parts of the forum and then found out that as a woman I can only post in the womens' forum, so here I am, haha!
I'm 25, married to a wonderful man who has been active in the forums for quite a while too. I am a stay at home mother to my dear one year old daughter, and have been a homemaker since a couple years before we had her, too. Luckily I got out of the matrix at a pretty young age - I did start to go to university but dropped out after not even a full year. Instead I spent my time building my skills in homemaking and health (nutrition in particular). And what can I say, it's paying off! I got myself a wonderful man and I birthed a daughter who is much healthier than I ever was.
Next step is to get out of the city and get ourselves a plot of land to homestead, and hopefully find a good community and later on homeschooling group.

 

[anchor chicken]

Hello ladies! 33 year old, catholic, married, stay-at-home wife here. I have been using roosh forum to keep myself updated on a few political topics and am so happy there is a forum for women! Looking forward to connect with other women who are like-minded. I picked my username because my husband and I have an inside joke that women are like chickens, or birds. Having a look around it looks like a lot of others picked something bird related (haha)! I have been married for 6 years and unfortunately do not have any children. I also do not work by choice and am curious if there are other non-working, childless wives on this forum. Being childless has been devastating, I have only ever wanted to be a wife and mom for as long as I can remember, and always planned to be home with my kids. I may enter the workforce again in the future but for now am focusing on maximizing my health to improve fertility, and its fun to be home with my husband who WFH.

 

[triplechoc]

Hello. I'm 26 yo. I'm here to connect with other christians

 

[Zima]

Hi fellow rooshv-ers!

I've created my acc at the begging of this year, but never introduced myself.

In fact, I've been lurking around here ever since 2016.
Mostly enjoyed political insights, cultural observations and similar topics. The forum was and still is filled with very intelligent people that are full of great information and in some way I found my home around here reading all the different topics that were of interest to me, that I couldn't discuss in real world with majority of my friends.
I greatly appreciate Roosh, his life journey and how much he has transformed this forum in a very positive way.
Also through this place I discovered Brother Augustine whos videos I really love watching.

I am a Catholic woman from Southeastern part of Europe who loves music, singing, plants, cooking, politics and history.

Happy to start engaging in the community more actively.

 

[ChristFollower1111]

Hello- I’m 31, married, and expecting my 2nd child. I’ve been a Christian since I was a teenager and got married very young. Unfortunately, there were many years in my 20s where I thought that being worldly was more interesting than following the Lord, so I made many mistakes that I didn’t need to.

I’ve been into the redpill/truther movement for many years and I started following Roosh in his Return of Kings days, because I was no stranger to hanging out on unusual corners of the internet wherever non mainstream opinions were held. Despite the sinful nature and sometimes offensiveness of a lot of his old content, I did find it to be a useful and at times, amusing, study of how men and women behave when they do not have God in their lives.

Coincidentally, my repentance and rededication of my life to Christ two years ago coincided with Roosh’s transformation and conversion to Christianity, so I continued to follow his work, but for much different reasons than I did before. I never paid a lot of attention to this forum, but have been lurking the past few days because I really enjoy the vaccine thread. So much information is censored and I found the commentary and videos shared here to be a breath of fresh air.

 

[Starlight]

Happy One Year Anniversary of the Ladies Forum! And we’re still here lol! Cheers!

 

[PineTreeFarmer]

Honestly. Yay for today! Reading group, anyone? I did his book A Dead Bat in Paraguay, but maybe Fr Seraphim Rose's book?

 

[messaggera]

Honestly. Yay for today! Reading group, anyone? I did his book A Dead Bat in Paraguay, but maybe Fr Seraphim Rose's book?

Which book did you have in mind? I would enjoy this reading group again.

Any of these if interest?

Nihilism: The Root of the Revolution of the Modern Age Fr. Seraphim Rose​

Orthodoxy and the Religion of the Future by Fr. Seraphim Rose​

 

[PineTreeFarmer]

Which book did you have in mind? I would enjoy this reading group again.

Any of these if interest?

Nihilism: The Root of the Revolution of the Modern Age Fr. Seraphim Rose​

Orthodoxy and the Religion of the Future by Fr. Seraphim Rose​

Let's do Orthodoxy and the Religion of the Future first!! Let me know when you get it. I already have a copy and got through the first couple sections, but decided I didn't want to go it alone.

 

[PineTreeFarmer]

Let's do Orthodoxy and the Religion of the Future first!! Let me know when you get it. I already have a copy and got through the first couple sections, but decided I didn't want to go it alone.

Rooshv just did a book review of it, and I was super shocked to know how common the book is in Russia. I didn't quite get through his whole review because I thought it might be good in a reading group as a bonus talking point.