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Thank you so much!
Hi everyone I'm mom from central TX I spent 10 year at home and homeschool my kiddos ages 12B, 14G, 20B married 15 years Baptist K.J. Bible. I went back in the real world 4 years ago to work in property management. It's interesting being a conservative working women. I'm always encouraging young people to get married and have children. I'm happy to read yalls thread and find other traditional women living life. It's hard going back to work I struggle missing my kids and and home.
Hello,
I´m finally posting here, I´ve been lurking for quite a while. Well, I´m 25, not married yet unfortunately. I´m from Bavaria, Germany.
My main area of interest is traditional living and traditional christianity. There is almost no one in my social circle who thinks anything like me and it would be nice to connect with likeminded people.
I´m finally posting here, I´ve been lurking for quite a while. Well, I´m 25, not married yet unfortunately. I´m from Bavaria, Germany.
My main area of interest is traditional living and traditional christianity. There is almost no one in my social circle who thinks anything like me and it would be nice to connect with likeminded people.
Ooh, another German lady! Welcome! Looking forward to what you have to contribute
It is an interesting username for a Christian forum.
And it would be interesting to hear from Christians who actually support the utilization of the term TERF.
The term TERF is derogatory and is a weak attempt of an ad hominem attack during the discussion on transgenderism.
The term is used most by a man (ill) who identifies (self-idolization) as a woman, and by his advocates who are pushing the acceptance of men in women only spaces. It is my understanding the term is propaganda; and using the term is to provoke hostility against females.
There are many Christian women we support the effort being made by females (regardless if they are lesbians) to forbid males in women only spaces – which are used for safety and modesty.
Does rebuking the term, and supporting the effort for traditional spaces make these Christian women feminists?
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Hello,
I'm 52 and a widow. I was married to a devout Catholic who brought me back to God, but since his death, I fell into Orthodoxy. I feel I was always Orthodox, it brings peace. Don't know what I am doing here, but I am hanging around seeing how it develops and how nicely you all play. Interests: Mystical Theology and Metaphysics.
I'm 52 and a widow. I was married to a devout Catholic who brought me back to God, but since his death, I fell into Orthodoxy. I feel I was always Orthodox, it brings peace. Don't know what I am doing here, but I am hanging around seeing how it develops and how nicely you all play. Interests: Mystical Theology and Metaphysics.
This is my very first post. Here's an attempt to an introduction as to who I am.
I am married mother from Scandinavia. protestant on paper, but for the better part of my life a stranger to God.
At the brink of turning 30, I was at the lowest point in my life, on the brim of ruining my life completely. I was seriously considering leaving my beloved husband, I even ordered the divorce papers. We had been together since our early twenties, married but no children. We struggled with infertility, and I blamed my husband, I harbored so much resentment towards him. I briefly left him, moved back in with my parents, desperately looking for help and answers in all the wrong places. I saw a shrink. I started exercising vigorously, started martial arts (with of course many other men). Thank God I never seriously acted on my deceitful urges to defile our marriage bed.
I frantically searched online looking for everything and anything to try to understand my self and my issues. Hence I stumbled across the Manosphere. It was devastating to see my exact thoughts and feelings exposed, mocked and ridiculed. I realized I was about to "Monkey Branch" to a new and percieved "better" man. Something that would inevitably lead to my ruin. A sad but common error of the Wall-approaching secular female.
It's hard to articulate the paradigm shift I went through diving deeper into the Manosphere, the personal pain it caused me. I will go so far as to say it killed me, the person I (thought I) used to be. In retrospect I realize I had to metaphorically die to be born again, and I remember the exact moment and time it happened. Curled up in my old bed in my parents house, crying pitifully under the covers. I was seriously considering suicide if my life were to remain unchanged, or to consider my old self and old ways dead, and become something new, someone unknown. It was a very painful awakening.
After my metaphorical death I begged my husband for forgiveness, and praise God, he allowed me back with him in union. To the testament of God's grace we were able to conceive within a year later, and we now have several beautiful young children. I am so thankful and humble to God and for my husband. My family. It almost slipped out of my hands.
I kept coming back to "the Manosphere", lurking and reading, and to my fascination it was very interesting to witness Roosh' turning to God and Christianity. I found my self agreeing with so much. I could see Logos. I guess I ultimately became fully red pilled = God pilled.
Sadly the worst was yet to come. A couple of years ago my youngest brother committed actual suicide. It was a devastating shock to us all, and yet at the same time something that pulled me even closer to God. I am so hurt that I spent so long accepting Christ, that I was too late to help my brother. That I couldn't add anything of value to his life, his perceived problems. That I couldn't help point him to his salvation. That I couldn't save him. I pray for him every day. May God have mercy on his soul.
I feel my personal relationship with God grows, but I still struggle with finding a church, a community. I have attended protestant liturgies, even catholic mass a couple of times (as only a witness). Recently I had the chance to attend a Russian Orthodox liturgy. The language barrier aside, I cant help but feel like a stranger. An alien. I struggle with feelings of being an impostor, someone playing theater. I am so saddened that this feels so foreign to me. I am raised third generation atheist, and its so deeply ingrained in my bones that "this is make believe". Not real.
I still need help, I am a spiritual baby. This is what finally led me to register for an account here. Thank you for accepting me. And thanks for reading.
(Edited so as not to doxx my self.)
I am married mother from Scandinavia. protestant on paper, but for the better part of my life a stranger to God.
At the brink of turning 30, I was at the lowest point in my life, on the brim of ruining my life completely. I was seriously considering leaving my beloved husband, I even ordered the divorce papers. We had been together since our early twenties, married but no children. We struggled with infertility, and I blamed my husband, I harbored so much resentment towards him. I briefly left him, moved back in with my parents, desperately looking for help and answers in all the wrong places. I saw a shrink. I started exercising vigorously, started martial arts (with of course many other men). Thank God I never seriously acted on my deceitful urges to defile our marriage bed.
I frantically searched online looking for everything and anything to try to understand my self and my issues. Hence I stumbled across the Manosphere. It was devastating to see my exact thoughts and feelings exposed, mocked and ridiculed. I realized I was about to "Monkey Branch" to a new and percieved "better" man. Something that would inevitably lead to my ruin. A sad but common error of the Wall-approaching secular female.
It's hard to articulate the paradigm shift I went through diving deeper into the Manosphere, the personal pain it caused me. I will go so far as to say it killed me, the person I (thought I) used to be. In retrospect I realize I had to metaphorically die to be born again, and I remember the exact moment and time it happened. Curled up in my old bed in my parents house, crying pitifully under the covers. I was seriously considering suicide if my life were to remain unchanged, or to consider my old self and old ways dead, and become something new, someone unknown. It was a very painful awakening.
After my metaphorical death I begged my husband for forgiveness, and praise God, he allowed me back with him in union. To the testament of God's grace we were able to conceive within a year later, and we now have several beautiful young children. I am so thankful and humble to God and for my husband. My family. It almost slipped out of my hands.
I kept coming back to "the Manosphere", lurking and reading, and to my fascination it was very interesting to witness Roosh' turning to God and Christianity. I found my self agreeing with so much. I could see Logos. I guess I ultimately became fully red pilled = God pilled.
Sadly the worst was yet to come. A couple of years ago my youngest brother committed actual suicide. It was a devastating shock to us all, and yet at the same time something that pulled me even closer to God. I am so hurt that I spent so long accepting Christ, that I was too late to help my brother. That I couldn't add anything of value to his life, his perceived problems. That I couldn't help point him to his salvation. That I couldn't save him. I pray for him every day. May God have mercy on his soul.
I feel my personal relationship with God grows, but I still struggle with finding a church, a community. I have attended protestant liturgies, even catholic mass a couple of times (as only a witness). Recently I had the chance to attend a Russian Orthodox liturgy. The language barrier aside, I cant help but feel like a stranger. An alien. I struggle with feelings of being an impostor, someone playing theater. I am so saddened that this feels so foreign to me. I am raised third generation atheist, and its so deeply ingrained in my bones that "this is make believe". Not real.
I still need help, I am a spiritual baby. This is what finally led me to register for an account here. Thank you for accepting me. And thanks for reading.
(Edited so as not to doxx my self.)
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Welcome to the forum. This is one of the few stories I've heard of a marriage successfully reconciling after a difficult separation.
We have been strangers to God for a long time, haven't we? I believe it would be more weird to NOT feel like a stranger when returning to the Church... in that case there are many churches with rock bands and laser light shows that can help make you feel like you're in a more familiar surroundings like a nightclub. It takes about 2-3 months of regular attendance in an Orthodox church to no longer feel like a stranger. There are also service books of the Liturgy in English in case you feel more comfortable connecting with the words instead of the overall beauty and majesty of the service. Personally, I like knowing the words, but when I'm in a monastery Liturgy, which does the service in a language I don't understand (Old Slavonic), it matters less because I'm connecting with God on the level of beauty, which is also from Him.
Hello,
I am new here. I was raised Catholic, or at least went through the motions. My mother had much stronger faith than my father, I am not sure he even believes in God. He kind of undermined my mother in attempting to raise me Catholic. So I fell away once I got a little older.
God has been knocking at me door for a while now. The past few years I have been striving to have a much stronger relationship with the Lord. I’ve just started reading the Bible. I read a few chapters a day. I pray every night before bed, but I think I will start praying first thing in the morning too. I live in the northeast USA and am currently in search of a church I can call home. I have tried a few recently, but so far none have felt like home. I will continue my search.
I just want to say I read posts from some of you who got married young and you express that the secular world made you question your decisions. Please don’t ever. I am in my late 30s. I would give anything to have married young. I was out in the world when I was young living in sin. These are things I can never take back that I struggle with. I guess maybe the grass is always greener, but never feel you’ve made the wrong choice by marrying young. It’s a gift, really.
Nice to meet everyone. Hope to make some friendships with others who follow the Lord.
I am new here. I was raised Catholic, or at least went through the motions. My mother had much stronger faith than my father, I am not sure he even believes in God. He kind of undermined my mother in attempting to raise me Catholic. So I fell away once I got a little older.
God has been knocking at me door for a while now. The past few years I have been striving to have a much stronger relationship with the Lord. I’ve just started reading the Bible. I read a few chapters a day. I pray every night before bed, but I think I will start praying first thing in the morning too. I live in the northeast USA and am currently in search of a church I can call home. I have tried a few recently, but so far none have felt like home. I will continue my search.
I just want to say I read posts from some of you who got married young and you express that the secular world made you question your decisions. Please don’t ever. I am in my late 30s. I would give anything to have married young. I was out in the world when I was young living in sin. These are things I can never take back that I struggle with. I guess maybe the grass is always greener, but never feel you’ve made the wrong choice by marrying young. It’s a gift, really.
Nice to meet everyone. Hope to make some friendships with others who follow the Lord.
I am in the same boat with friends from childhood who I don't see eye to eye with anymore. It's very difficult for me to know how to navigate friendships with SUPER secular friends. So far we mostly just avoid talking about politics, culture, world events, etc. Our conversations mostly deal with how our friends and family are doing, work, and basic everyday life stuff.
I also agree with your statement about how difficult it is to make new female friends as an adult. My husband and I just moved to the DFW area so I'm trying to establish a new social network here. It don't know how to go about meeting the "Traditional, Christian" women in my area. What are your "and some more stuff" interests that you hope to share with friends?
Honestly I've found the best way to make new friends as a married adult woman (and especially as a mom) is to find a thriving religious community and integrate. We have a strong Catholic community and I have met so many women through the church/ Catholic mom groups, school circles etc. This way you have a large pool to find ladies with whom you have common interests. Meal trains are popular in our community (for people welcoming a new babe, or experiencing death or hardship) and have introduced me to so many friends. These women are really making a vibrant community, they plan events, start groups, share knowledge, and offer items for free or sale within the community. I did a mommy and me group at a Catholic Montessori school and found so many moms with my same parenting style. I've found that if you have a couple similar interests you're likely to find a good friend match. My common denominator seems to be 'crunchy' moms and cultured moms are the ones I'm likely to find a lot in common with. These are women who enjoy sharing health advice, natural parenting, and appreciate homemade and resourceful living. The best is finding a couple that you and your spouse both really jive with, if you have kids of similar ages than you're golden!
Hi!
I am new here. I was raised Orthodox (or at least culturally orthodox) but I became an atheist in my teenager years. Recently I started doubting atheism and materialism and began considering God's existence. Now I have converted back to the (Romanian) Orthodox faith. All my life plans disappeared like mist, I feel I have to give up everything in order to keep my faith.
I don't know whether I should become a nun (part of me wants this) or whether I should wait and keep my hope of starting a family one day.
At the moment I am trying to learn and to practice more things in Orthodoxy. There are so many things I didn't know..
I am new here. I was raised Orthodox (or at least culturally orthodox) but I became an atheist in my teenager years. Recently I started doubting atheism and materialism and began considering God's existence. Now I have converted back to the (Romanian) Orthodox faith. All my life plans disappeared like mist, I feel I have to give up everything in order to keep my faith.
I don't know whether I should become a nun (part of me wants this) or whether I should wait and keep my hope of starting a family one day.
At the moment I am trying to learn and to practice more things in Orthodoxy. There are so many things I didn't know..
Welcome! Don’t ever give up hope. You don’t know what plans God has in store for you but whatever it is it will be good.
That's interesting. My life story was rather different. I was actually raised somewhat secularly, but then in my teenager years I started to rediscover the Russian culture, language, and Orthodox faith, almost exclusively through online internet resources. I read a lot of books during my childhood, so I was familiar with the teachings of atheism, but I started to doubt atheism in my teenager years when I started seeing the corruption of state science, and their blatant refusal to even consider certain interesting fields of study such as consciousness and parapsychology.
I've found that one can keep their faith and still not give up "everything". My way to keep the faith is non participation in society other than working a job, going to the store, and other necessary tasks. I don't consume the big corporate products, mass media, entertainment, etc ... because I am displeased with the consumerism lifestyle. The internet is just a medium just like books, what's important is the content that you use, and your mindset while using such content. So having discretion about what you want to let into your life, and what you want to filter out.
Hello everyone, I just joined here.
To give a brief background to myself, I went to a Anglican CofE primary school (elementary school for USA equivalent) when I was a child, but through my teens I fell away and was athiest and somewhat nihilistic, although I was always disillusioned with what I now understand to be the issues of secular society. I was always very bookish and studious, particularly in history and literature, so I went to university. Of course there I encountered the typical critical theory ideas that I'm sure we're all aware of here (feminism, gender theory, relativism, deconstructionism etc), but I did also encounter church history for the first time, so I was very interested in antique and medieval periods, so this started to reignite my interest in Christianity. I also found Jordan Peterson's bible series interesting and this made me begin to see the value in it again, whereas I had been quite influenced by New Atheism and nihilism as young people tend to do so commonly now. I did become aware of the flaws in Peterson's interpretations however, due to my historical knowledge and Christian analysis of what he was saying. I did also become disillusioned with the humanities in academia too, but I would say that English Literature is in the most impoverished state due to the pervasive influence of the critical theories I referred to above, which cause meaning to be obscured and theses poorly argued. It's a problem in general though tbh.
I've also never been fully convinced of the liberal feminist ideas of empowerment through sexualisation, I think I only briefly entertained the idea, but something was always amiss. This is why I was more sympathetic to radfem/TERF ideas because they have some truth to them, in regard to rejection of trans ideology and refutation of sex work, objectification etc being somehow "empowering" for women. But I don't believe their explanation and solution to the issue is the full truth, and this among other things is why I've been drawn back to Christianity. I did read this forum too before it became Christian, and I think that is a wonderful positive change.
I've felt a change over this Lent and Easter, and I confess that I've begun to believe again. I'm not yet a part of a church congregation yet, but it is something I will be working to, probably to join a catechumen group. I was baptised as a child, but I am not Confirmed. Because of my historical interests, I can really only consider Catholicism or Orthodoxy, but I'm not yet certain of which. There aren't many Orthodox churches near me.
Currently, I have begun to research and read the bible properly, which I have not truly done before (I did read some saints lives and church fathers by virtue of doing a history degree, however that was ultimately as secular approach to historical documents, as opposed to learning theology. But it did begin my respect for them).
Anyway, I'm glad to be here with you all.
To give a brief background to myself, I went to a Anglican CofE primary school (elementary school for USA equivalent) when I was a child, but through my teens I fell away and was athiest and somewhat nihilistic, although I was always disillusioned with what I now understand to be the issues of secular society. I was always very bookish and studious, particularly in history and literature, so I went to university. Of course there I encountered the typical critical theory ideas that I'm sure we're all aware of here (feminism, gender theory, relativism, deconstructionism etc), but I did also encounter church history for the first time, so I was very interested in antique and medieval periods, so this started to reignite my interest in Christianity. I also found Jordan Peterson's bible series interesting and this made me begin to see the value in it again, whereas I had been quite influenced by New Atheism and nihilism as young people tend to do so commonly now. I did become aware of the flaws in Peterson's interpretations however, due to my historical knowledge and Christian analysis of what he was saying. I did also become disillusioned with the humanities in academia too, but I would say that English Literature is in the most impoverished state due to the pervasive influence of the critical theories I referred to above, which cause meaning to be obscured and theses poorly argued. It's a problem in general though tbh.
I've also never been fully convinced of the liberal feminist ideas of empowerment through sexualisation, I think I only briefly entertained the idea, but something was always amiss. This is why I was more sympathetic to radfem/TERF ideas because they have some truth to them, in regard to rejection of trans ideology and refutation of sex work, objectification etc being somehow "empowering" for women. But I don't believe their explanation and solution to the issue is the full truth, and this among other things is why I've been drawn back to Christianity. I did read this forum too before it became Christian, and I think that is a wonderful positive change.
I've felt a change over this Lent and Easter, and I confess that I've begun to believe again. I'm not yet a part of a church congregation yet, but it is something I will be working to, probably to join a catechumen group. I was baptised as a child, but I am not Confirmed. Because of my historical interests, I can really only consider Catholicism or Orthodoxy, but I'm not yet certain of which. There aren't many Orthodox churches near me.
Currently, I have begun to research and read the bible properly, which I have not truly done before (I did read some saints lives and church fathers by virtue of doing a history degree, however that was ultimately as secular approach to historical documents, as opposed to learning theology. But it did begin my respect for them).
Anyway, I'm glad to be here with you all.
Your story seems to me so familiar. I am too rather bookish and "intellectual". I have also become an atheist through the influence of the New Atheists (Richard Dawkins and the like) and the "philosophy" of Bertrand Russell in high school. Feeling superior and intellectual, I went to college (studying history) and became a radical old-guard feminist and a nihilist. After years of disappointment and heartache, a video of Jordan Peterson was the spark that started my waking up. First I became "red pilled" (being still an atheist, but having so-called "conservative values" and a libertarian (watching a lot of Stefan Molyneux). Due to Jordan Peterson I was no longer angry at religion and at my religious forefathers. He opened my heart a little bit. Then Solzhenitsyn made me admire Orthodoxy and feel awe at all the martyrs that died in the Gulag. Step by step, all the things I thought I knew (evolution, Science, progress, humanism, feminism, materialism, classical liberalism, constitutionalism etc. ) fell apart.