My 2c:
In my opinion, the many informed, intelligent, non-"normie" Christian men who post on this forum, in general, are what makes this forum so unique and special. This is the "Ladies Forum" subforum, but as women are not allowed to post in the Men's Forum, I see this subforum as a place where Christian women can get input from
both genders. Not all of us women have trusted male Christians in real life that we can ask
some of these questions to *, with the additional advantage of anonymity. The vast majority of my interactions with the men on this forum have been respectful, informative and helpful.
*(For example, in the recent "focus on jews" thread I learned some things that I can definitely not ask anyone in person - I can't exactly go up to the pastor and be like "let's discuss how some of your teachings
may be in error".)
Regarding intimidation, here is my probably unpopular opinion: The men's presence is
needed in order for this to not become "clique-y", as female-only places often are. The female-only dynamic of a "dominant" female with other females attempting to stay on her good side (therefore possibly censoring their opinion) is a real thing. Men being present disrups that dynamic, thankfully.
I have lurked on this site since long before the Ladies subforum existed. I did not join because while reading through those old threads at the time it did seem that dissenting opinions were not really welcome. In the thread announcing the creation of the subforum it appears others noticed this too, with still others saying that women tend to find the acceptable opinion to agree on and that this is a
good thing (I'm paraphrasing).
I have created a subforum here called the Ladies Forum (it is located towards the bottom of the main forum listing) which both men and women can post in. I have made this decision because there is a growing number of Christian women following me who could use a platform to seek advice or...
www.rooshvforum.com
As an adult convert, I felt very intimidated around a group of women who grew up Christian, and seem to have similar backgrounds, opinions, etc. Among the men there appears to be more members who found God more recently in their lives, and repent of past sinful lives, so I suppose that is more relatable to me. I realize that this is a problem with
me that is not the fault of any other posters, but I'm just explaining my rationale.
Also, once again it could just be me, but I find threads in which the majority of the posts to be only from women to be intimidating. On a recent thread (not the new women-only one) I saw that it was mostly just women posting and I felt intimidated to contribute. For me it is difficult to separate my "online personality" from my real life one, and I have always been one of those women that didn't fit in with other women
at all. As a Christian woman this is something I must work on, but it is an uphill battle.
Regarding possible fake or larp accounts, I just have to say that I've noticed that what some posters say doesn't add up. But could they just be extremely forgetful, even of significant life experiences, or are they pretending to be someone they're not? Friendly tip: if one is going to make up stories, perhaps make sure what is said does not directly contradict something posted the month before. At least put some effort! (But preferably just stop.)
