Location independence and loneliness.
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Cheetah said:
I enjoy it myself. I have a hard time working in environments like cafes. I end up watching people moreso than working. I would still advise you breaking up your day so you're around people even if it is getting a cup of coffee and making some conversation with people you run into.
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A few tips if you're feeling you need more company:
If you're staying somewhere for a while:
- Turn girls you approach that aren't DTF into friends and you can build a social circle very quickly (this was mentioned before).
- Stay friends with the girls you slept with. They won't always go for it but sometimes they will.
- Meet expats BUT do not base your friendship with them around pickup, because unless you are a perfect match as wings, the friendship will end very very quickly. Do other stuff with them.
- Keep in touch with back home (friends, family) via voice and video rather than text chats.
If you're moving around very often:
- Stay at a hostel. If you're annoyed sleeping at the dorms then book the private room. There's still the common room to meet a lot of travelers, and also if you stay at a private room then you can bring a girl there.
Caveats are that a hostel (even at a private room) is not nearly as comfortable as a hotel room or a flat, and you may have trouble bringing girls even to your private room as most hostels are very anal about strangers coming in, let alone at night. A private room at a hostel also costs as much as a 3 star hotel or as much as an airbnb flat often times.
If you're staying somewhere for a while:
- Turn girls you approach that aren't DTF into friends and you can build a social circle very quickly (this was mentioned before).
- Stay friends with the girls you slept with. They won't always go for it but sometimes they will.
- Meet expats BUT do not base your friendship with them around pickup, because unless you are a perfect match as wings, the friendship will end very very quickly. Do other stuff with them.
- Keep in touch with back home (friends, family) via voice and video rather than text chats.
If you're moving around very often:
- Stay at a hostel. If you're annoyed sleeping at the dorms then book the private room. There's still the common room to meet a lot of travelers, and also if you stay at a private room then you can bring a girl there.
Caveats are that a hostel (even at a private room) is not nearly as comfortable as a hotel room or a flat, and you may have trouble bringing girls even to your private room as most hostels are very anal about strangers coming in, let alone at night. A private room at a hostel also costs as much as a 3 star hotel or as much as an airbnb flat often times.
This is an interesting topic.
The location independent lifestyle seems very appealing but it definitely has drawbacks.
If I were to live it, I would definitely go for living in 2 to 3 cities year round. That allows you to maintain friendships and relationships in each of the cities.
I lived twice as an expat in two Asian cities. I agree with what Malo said above. It is very easy to make expat friends if you live in a city with a big enough western population. It is one of the big appeals of the expat life. However, you will also find that most of these relationships are shallow. I strongly suggest that you make one or two real friends among those expats, otherwise you're bound to get lonely.
It still surprises me that we are indeed social beings and we cannot stand being alone for a prolonged period of time (for me at least). I like being lonely, but I will crave company after a few days.
The location independent lifestyle seems very appealing but it definitely has drawbacks.
If I were to live it, I would definitely go for living in 2 to 3 cities year round. That allows you to maintain friendships and relationships in each of the cities.
I lived twice as an expat in two Asian cities. I agree with what Malo said above. It is very easy to make expat friends if you live in a city with a big enough western population. It is one of the big appeals of the expat life. However, you will also find that most of these relationships are shallow. I strongly suggest that you make one or two real friends among those expats, otherwise you're bound to get lonely.
It still surprises me that we are indeed social beings and we cannot stand being alone for a prolonged period of time (for me at least). I like being lonely, but I will crave company after a few days.
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