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<blockquote data-quote="PixelFree" data-source="post: 1288673" data-attributes="member: 13577">Exactly.&nbsp; In fact, more than this.I think it&#039;s best for the child for the mother to spend at least until they are 5 or 6 (once they are in grade 1) and only then some easy part time (10-15 hour a week) job, some &#039;work from home&#039; thing like babysitting/tutoring (Russian language tutor?) OR none at all.&nbsp; This would be mainly to relieve boredom and maintain social relationships at work rather than for the money.&nbsp; Once you subtract any cleaning, eating out/meal costs, childcare and tax you&#039;ll find you&#039;re probably better off just cutting back on expenses slightly.&nbsp; Not to mention how much healthier it is for children to have a mum present.However, when you consider you&#039;ll probably have more than one kid, say 2 or 3 in somewhat close succession, then really you need to plan for her to spend the next 10 years at home full time.Time to be a man and step up.&nbsp; Also, be happy - this is a good thing.&nbsp; Many guys here would love to be in your position.If money is really an issue, checkout the &#039;FIRE&#039; material online and start living more frugally.&nbsp; More basic car, eat at home more, etc.What someone said about abortion having a huge mental health impact is true.&nbsp; For some women, it&#039;s OK, but for some, it can be devastating.&nbsp; I&#039;ve seen it myself more than once.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="PixelFree, post: 1288673, member: 13577"] Exactly. In fact, more than this. I think it's best for the child for the mother to spend at least until they are 5 or 6 (once they are in grade 1) and only then some easy part time (10-15 hour a week) job, some 'work from home' thing like babysitting/tutoring (Russian language tutor?) OR none at all. This would be mainly to relieve boredom and maintain social relationships at work rather than for the money. Once you subtract any cleaning, eating out/meal costs, childcare and tax you'll find you're probably better off just cutting back on expenses slightly. Not to mention how much healthier it is for children to have a mum present. However, when you consider you'll probably have more than one kid, say 2 or 3 in somewhat close succession, then really you need to plan for her to spend the next 10 years at home full time. Time to be a man and step up. Also, be happy - this is a good thing. Many guys here would love to be in your position. If money is really an issue, checkout the 'FIRE' material online and start living more frugally. More basic car, eat at home more, etc. What someone said about abortion having a huge mental health impact is true. For some women, it's OK, but for some, it can be devastating. I've seen it myself more than once. [/QUOTE]

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