Marrying A Woman With Mental Illness

Roosh

Cardinal
Orthodox
Originally posted on RooshV.com

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Diagnosable mental illnesses are so commonplace that it’s inevitable for a single man to meet a woman who is “mentally ill.” Should he still consider her as a wife or try to find another woman? This is a difficult decision that must involve God, his priest, and Christian family and friends. I want to offer some practical guidance on discerning between mild mental illness and the more severe kind that can easily wreck a marriage.

Every woman will have passions​


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Every man and woman born in this fallen world will have severe problems with their passions until they are purified by the Holy Spirit. Maybe you are prone to lust like I am. Maybe you are of a Mediterranean or Middle Eastern ancestry and are prone to daily bursts of anger. Maybe you are prone to intoxication. Maybe you are prone to pride, sloth, gluttony, or greed. We all inherited a mix of passions from our ancestors that, while unpleasant, sanctify us when we struggle against them with the help of Lord Jesus Christ, but we don’t instantly become saints after baptism. For some of us, the passions remain for an extended period of time, declining ever so slowly. It is guaranteed that you will meet a woman, whether Orthodox or not, who has a thorn in her flesh in the form of a passion that—if unbridled—can cause serious damage to any relationship.

When evaluating a woman with an active passion, you must ask yourself several questions. Is she actively struggling against the passion? Has the passion’s control over her declined from its peak? Have you witnessed her try to correct herself in the middle of experiencing an attack of the passion? If her passion does not improve, how will it impact a marriage with children? With your life experience and faith, can you handle her passion without risking your salvation?

As a man of Middle Eastern descent, I am most familiar with the deadly combination of pride and anger. Many of my family members have it, and I have it as well. This translates into a persistent attitude of I-am-rightism that starts with an assertion and rapidly progresses into shouting, physical fighting, and an oath never to speak to a friend or family member again. I’ve witnessed one of my relatives get into multiple physical fights that, from my perspective, were not warranted, and countless more verbal arguments, to the point where going out in public with that person is difficult. With the help of Christ and much prayer, I’ve been able to block many angry thoughts from exiting my mouth. Sometimes, however, I am tired and my spiritual guard is low, so I deliver invective that hurts someone’s feelings. Any woman that is thinking of marrying me must evaluate me for this problem and make a decision on whether she can handle it.

Since I have so much experience with pride and anger, I believe I can handle it in others. As long as a woman is not regularly getting into fistfights, her anger will likely be less than what I’ve already experienced, and therefore something I can work with. But how about a woman who is slothful? I do not have experience with slothful women. My mother is consistent with cleaning the home and cooking. She anticipates my needs and does things before I have to ask. It would not make sense to me if my wife claimed she was “too tired” to cook me a meal, or needed a “day off” from being a mother. In the face of such sloth, I would get angry and think my wife is lazy, and she’d respond with anger and more sloth, and certainly our marriage would be in trouble. It would be most ideal for a woman to complement my faults with strengths of her own, but whatever the case, I must be able to envision handling her passions within the context of marriage.

We all fall short of spiritual perfection, so occasionally we will display passions, but a woman you’re considering for marriage should be aware of her passions and actively struggle against them, or those passions will dominate the relationship and threaten the marriage. If you do identify passions in a woman, that is not reason enough to dismiss her, because every woman will have a passion of some sort. What you should consider is if her specific passion is something you can endure. During your courtship, get to know her well enough to witness the passion and how it impacts both you and the relationship. Woe to the man who thinks his future wife does not have any passions! In secular dating, it’s very easy for a woman to present her best foot forward, hide her flaws, and hypnotize a man with pleasurable fornication (a passion on its own). As Orthodox Christians, we do not have sex before marriage, as I advise against even hugging the woman you’re courting.

Mental illness or immaturity?​


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To have a passion is not to be mentally ill. With that we arrive to the problems of definition and diagnosis. The medical industry has so broadened the definition of mental illness (to dose people on lucrative pharmaceutical drugs) that a huge percentage of the population is “verifiably” mentally ill. The diagnosis has become so common that saying “You’re mentally ill” is hardly an insult these days. As men we have to discern between a broad definition of mental illness that is common and genuine mental illness.

Many women on anti-depressant medication take it because they are “sad.” Winter came around and they weren’t having fun in life so the doctor eagerly prescribed them pills. Another woman was “tired” from her busy schedule and didn’t get “enjoyment” out of casual sex and other secular activities. Another woman started being “depressed” when she couldn’t find an office job she enjoyed. In cases like this, I believe the problem is not mental illness but a lack of Orthodox faith and coping mechanisms to the normal stressors of life. By the time we reach adulthood, we should have a toolbox of ways to deal with difficulties. What used to be “common sense” to people of the past, like daily prayer, is now either a strange revelation or “lifehack” that needs to be learned from a book or Dr. Oz, and if it is not learned, a host of negative feelings arrive that a woman doesn’t know how to address. Unlucky for her, the doctors are all too quick to give her psychotropics, and so she becomes dependent on the drugs without ever properly maturing. Her problem is not mental illness but immaturity. She’s a child in an adult body, and never learned the things that human beings in previous eras learned (men are no exception to this problem). Her misguided trust in the medical industry has not solved the root problem but merely kept her in an immature state.

Should you marry an immature woman who is on anti-depressant drugs? How about if she took them in the past but does not take them anymore? Will a woman with anti-depressant medications in her bloodstream negatively affect a gestating baby? Is a woman who has the coping mechanisms of a child ready and eager to learn maturity from you?

When evaluating such a woman, you will have to test her for increasing maturity, responsibility, faith, and perseverance. If she doesn’t have the basic qualities an adult should have, and she has to learn them during the marriage, expect rough patches. Without children, the marriage may proceed pleasantly for a time, but once children come—and understand that having and raising children are the most difficult things a woman will ever do—any immaturity that you overlooked will boil to the surface. Just like with a woman who has passions, an immature woman should be self-aware enough to recognize her immaturity, dive into the Orthodox faith and practical self-improvement to plug in harmful gaps to show you moments of undeniable maturity during the courtship. On the other hand, if she gives you a take-it-or-leave-it attitude, and declares that she is fine just the way she is and will change for no man, you have all the information you need.

Severe mental illness​


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It is my opinion that most people diagnosed with mental illness are merely immature, but there are people with what I’d call “severe mental illness.” How do you discern passions, immaturity, and severe mental illness? Passions are connected to our fallen human nature and are generally pursued to please the flesh. Over-eating, having sex, and being lazy feels good on the body. Being angry and prideful makes one feel superior and can be perceived pleasurably in the mind. The passionate person gets something tangible out of their passions. Immaturity is linked more to improper upbringing, harmful medical intervention, bad education, ignorance of Christian spiritual life, and maladaptive coping mechanisms that are not directly related to feeling bodily pleasure. No one would be proud of being immature, but many people are proud of their passions, as I was proud of my sexual passions, bragging about it online for many years. Severe mental illness, on the other hand, begins to involve brain dysfunction, heavy demonic influence (including possession), self-harm, and a disconnection from reality, to the point where the sufferers lose touch with the self and have reoccurring mental episodes where they cannot control their mind or body. With passions, immaturity, and mental illness, there is overlap, and it is not difficult in modern times to find a woman or man who is badly afflicted in all three areas.

When someone with severe mental illness is not experiencing an episode (often called a “mental breakdown” or a “psychotic break”), they may present as merely immature or even entirely normal, but during an episode, the engine grinds to a halt. They may not be able to take care of themselves and must be continuously watched over to prevent them from committing self-harm. They are “incontinent,” not digestively, but of emotions and bodily movements. They do not want to use horrible language on you but they do because they cannot control their speech. They don’t want to starve, but they must be fed by a caretaker because they can no longer cook for themselves or remember to eat. They do not want to kill themselves, but they have a compulsion to grab a knife and start cutting. Voices and demonic thoughts in their head are telling them to do things that they do not want to do (the Holy Fathers would have something to say about what’s really going on in such a case). It’s the total lack of control during an episode that justifies the diagnosis of “severe mental illness.”

I once witnessed a person during a mental break lose awareness of if he was thinking in his head or speaking aloud. The line between inner monologue and speech was eradicated. I once witnessed a person who took on the countenance of a growling beast and used all their human power to make an attempt on their life (thankfully he was stopped). I witnessed a person who did not want to laugh but could not stop laughing for hours and hours. These are not instances of someone succumbing to passions, or merely being sad, but a disconnection from material reality, whether demonic or not. In the context of being married to such a person, this is a hard trial that the Church teaches is ultimately salvific for the sufferer and those who have to take care of them, assuming the healthy spouse doesn’t come apart themselves. It’s a humbling condition that forces everyone involved to lean more on God, strengthening their faith in the process, but the decision to involve yourself with such a person should not be taken lightly, because if you take on more than you handle, you can spiritually harm both your spouse and yourself. You must know what you’re getting into lest you end up losing your soul.

How to screen women for mental health issues​


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If you’re attempting to meet and date secular women, you will never possess an honest portrait of her mental health history. There is no barrier for secular women to lie or omit information in order to gain advantages or favors in this life, so she will only reveal damaging truth if she believes you will find out somehow or if she’s convinced you “love” her so much that you wouldn’t leave her because of emotional reasons or sunk costs. Orthodox Christian women, I’ve found, are way more honest, and will reveal damaging facts of their lives, but subconsciously they may downplay the severity or leave out small details that reveal the true extent of their problems. No matter who you are dealing with, you will have to read between the lines to complete the picture, and attempt to gently verify that picture to arrive at the truth. The weaker a woman’s faith, the more investigation and filling in you will have to do.

Before entering a courtship with a woman, I’d ask her the following broad questions:

1. Do you take anti-depressant or psychotropic medication? Have you taken them in the past? How long did you take them?

2. Have you ever cut yourself with a sharp instrument or otherwise hurt yourself? (If yes, continue by asking her if she’s ever made an attempt on her life.)

3. Have you ever had a mental breakdown where you needed medical care to get back to normal? Have you ever needed emergency mental care?

If she answers yes to any of these questions, I’d tactfully retrieve a full medical history from her. Beforehand, I would tell her that I’m asking these questions to discern if I can handle whatever problems she has, and that I’m not judging her for having a condition, because I surely have problems as well that I insist on divulging. If she doesn’t want to answer your questions then either she doesn’t yet trust you or she’s not serious about giving a potential husband the full truth of who she is.

An ideal scenario for a woman with mental illness is that the problem has since been resolved with maturity and faith without re-surfacing in several years. Perhaps she graduated from college, had trouble adapting to adulthood, was regularly sad (but had no mental breakdowns), took anti-depressants for one year, and then stopped taking them. In such a case, the drugs were a bridge from an immature to a mature state, and may not be a sign of severe illness, but rarely is a woman’s medical history so open-and-shut.

A sign of a more challenging condition is visible scarring on her arms and legs, long-term use of psychotropic drugs that continues to the present, and a history of multiple mental breakdowns that required emergency psychiatric care. A woman who suffers from these problems is deserving of Christian friendship and love, and should not be shunned, but you must carefully contemplate upon prayer and the seeking of spiritual guidance if you are able to handle such a heavy cross. It’s important to understand that mental episodes are often triggered by stress. If you observe a woman with a rough history but who is currently faring well, it’s likely because she has removed the stresses from her life. The problem with marriage is that, once children enter the picture, the stresses are nonstop. Even for mentally healthy individuals, marriage is exceedingly difficult (you may marry a woman with a clean mental bill of health, with no prior history, who goes on to have mental breakdowns after childbearing). Personally, I would assume that any woman you marry will show an increase in mental dysfunction during the marriage, some more and some less.

Within a marriage, a woman has her prescribed duties. She cleans the home and cooks (if she’s a housewife) and does most of the child-rearing. When a woman has an episode, she will be unable to do most or all of her duties. She will also be unable to fully take care of the children. Not only do you have to do the work she was doing, not only do you have to do the motherly childrearing, but you also have to take care of her as if she were a hospital patient. And you will not know for how long the episode lasts, but even if she comes out of it quickly, she will need extra time to fully heal. The effects of an episode could last for weeks and months. Can you see how marrying any woman without having strong faith is a foolhardy endeavor? Without complete trust and reliance in God, you will not be able to endure a mental health emergency, and will simply hand her off to the psychiatrist to dope her up while you resort to alcohol or other flawed coping mechanisms, even infidelity.

By highlighting the risk of marrying a woman with mental illness, I do not attempt to deny them love from a man. Instead, I share these points so men have all the information they need in making the best decision they can, because if they get into a marriage they can’t handle, and if a woman has children that she cannot handle, they both will be worse off than they started and may lose the faith they have. Writings of the Holy Fathers are persistent in advising us not to test God by doing more than we can bear. Any decision to marry a mentally ill woman must be made with the truth of her condition and help from God. I do believe, however, that the more difficult woman you marry, the more blessings and rewards you receive from God if you are able to maintain the faith, but that’s a big if.

Conclusion

I desire an easy marriage. I want to find an exceedingly beautiful woman who is mature and completely healthy with fewer passions than myself. I want a marriage that lacks the trials I see in other marriages, where I can focus on my writing in peace and expect my wife to be a superhero who takes care of the home and children without any fuss. This is a fantasy. Marriage, even with a picture-perfect woman, is difficult, with good days and bad days, and any holes you have in your faith will quickly reveal themselves as you deal with innumerable trials that you never would have expected no matter how thoroughly you vetted her. Whatever the case, my decision to marry a woman must first and foremost involve God. I must pray to Him to enlighten me, to place the right woman for my salvation before me, and to help me endure whatever is to come.

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DanielH

Ostrich
Moderator
Orthodox
I think, unfortunately, this meme represents the future for perhaps most zoomers who will get married. Of course the "supportive calm bf" will have his own struggles and passions, likely less visible than his gf/wife. I pray this situation will lead to collective repentance where both parties mature, and not a continuation or amplification of abuse cycles.
 

BasilSeal

Kingfisher
Catholic
Gold Member
When I was in my early 30s and looking for my future wife, I always worried about women that I met that did not seem to have any personal interests of their own, that did not have any particular passions at all. Neither reading, crafting, cooking, charity work, housekeeping, anything. Even if it was nothing I had any interest in, to see that someone was passionate about learning and trying new things was a real rarity. This was nearly two decades ago, before the worst of online interactions laid waste to so much of what it means to live your life, and have real world experiences. Is this mental illness, or the result of having so much in life come without effort or understanding? I think that when your mind is idle, when you're not motivated by hobbies, passions, or interests of any sort, the results are manifest in so-called mental illness (and this goes for men as well). Tragedy is around every corner, because life's challenges are completely without meaningful context or perspective. There is no appreciation of what is easy or what is hard, what is joy or what is true sorrow. And, doctors are all too happy to prescribe a solution for idleness and the resulting lethargy, sadness, or despair that results from it.
 
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SaintPiusX

Robin
Trad Catholic
Excellent article, Roosh.

My wife's has a bad temper. I'm cold, mean, and sharp with my words. The combination of these passions created significant problems early in our marriage. My wife's temper was triggered easily by my indifference, which I would then see as a personal attack. I would respond by coldly striking with the rhetorical knife, which would inflame her anger further, which would cause me to attack her more deeply. I lost count of the amount of times that this cycle nearly destroyed our marriage. It didn't really improve until we started attending the traditional Catholic Mass and spent every couple of weeks with a priest. The Church and the priest were the father figures neither of us had, and it provided us stability and a common understanding of what's acceptable behaviour in a marriage.

Now when we have a conflict, my wife actively tries to manage her anger through communicating her insecurity and feelings, and I try to avoid being mean and cruel by being more open. It hasn't been perfect, and sometimes we revert to our old habits, but fights happen much less often and to a less severe outcome. We also both understand that any marriage dispute needs to be resolved for our children and for our souls, so we are both more likely to put our feelings to the side and reconcile. I honestly don't think it's possible to have a long term marriage outside the Church.

If you marry fairly young (late teens and early twenties), I think that there's hope if both sides are willing to work on it and commit to God. As you get older, it becomes much more difficult, as a person's habits and passions become hardened. With that said, and as Roosh argued in a previous article, a person will only attract their mirror image. If you are a man who has been pious and good your whole life, then you should settle for nothing but a woman who has been pious and good her whole life. However, if you are like myself, and you sinned grievously for decades, then you are going to get a woman who did the same. Your marriage will be difficult because a truly blissful marriage is only for men and women who have spent their life serving God.

Regarding discerning whether a woman has a mental illness, my recommendation is to listen to a woman you are courting for 30 minutes uninterrupted. I encourage you to speak as little as possible in the 30 minutes, but to listen and judge intently. In such a conversation, a woman will always tell you a lot about themselves, including how they see the world and how they process emotions. If you are truly listening and judging, you should be able to pick up fairly quickly if the woman has a real mental illness. I remember speaking to a woman through my employment that cold called me. In the course of a 30 minute conversation, she transformed, without any external reason, from being calm, to screaming at me, to crying hysterically, and then back to normal. Throughout the conversation, I rarely spoke. She willingly told me inappropriately details about her life, and she also told me, straight up, that she has been diagnosed with BPD. Many men that say they are "bamboozled" by women don't actually listen to them and are simply deploying "game" for the purpose of fornication.
 

Viktor Zeegelaar

Crow
Orthodox Inquirer
The past system was set up for mental illness to stay deep down far away from us, as we would live a peaceful and stable life. Now literally everything is done to make us as mentally sick as possible with devastating hookup culture, everlasting social media pressure, attention destroying tictoc videos which many young females watch more than 8 hours a day. No stability, rapid tech, social and cultural changes all the time, pressure on women to have it all and live an ecclectic life, ending sad, with empty hands, wine and a cat and a dog. It's with reason 25 percent (!) Of women are on prescription pills, especially 40s and 50s. Never at ease, never comfortable, always chasing, comparing, jealous, never "happy" and satisfied, racked up emotional trauma from failed relationships, delusional ideas of self worth and how "special" they are. The Kraken has been released and what was in the depths where we wouldn't go to has been brought to the surface and is exacerbated more by every day going by.
 

PineTreeFarmer

Woodpecker
Woman
Orthodox Inquirer
I married a man with mental illness. His dad used to compare him to a person who would burn his own house for firewood. Luckily, he is in recovery, but he will never be able to come home to us.
Our nearly ten years without him have been blissfully uneventful. When I think about all of the ways the children could've been damaged by anger, domestic violence and inability to prioritize family, I thank God for having provided a safe harbor for us.
As far as mentally ill women, I think of them the same way as I do my ex-husband; trying to burn their own home for something to keep them "warm."
Usually it's some sort of emotional absence or lapse in care.
In the case of my marriage, my husband was an only child who was unable to contextualize himself as a member of a family who had to give back or look out for someone else. I think the most important thing is being able to give back to others emotionally and physically in a relationship. If you don't have your own emotions and time to spare, there's nothing to share.
 

christie2

Woodpecker
Woman
Other Christian
Excellent and thorough article.

Redpill teaches us to completely avoid mentally ill partners.
This article helps the person who is considering ignoring the redpill.


I have seen it written that our Orthodox church is like a hospital and I have had several people remind me of this in person from four locations I've attended/worshipped at.
My advice is to remain open to marrying a lady that hasn't come into Orthodoxy, yet, but will soon in order to marry you.

Further advice is to ensure an immediate and tight bond of 'apprentice-to-magistrate" relationship is formed between your mother and the young prospect.
Especially if there's current whole reliance on the mother-acting-as-current wife situation going on between the evaluating potential husband and his mother.

The best chance at training the young girl to be the desired wife, will have to come from his mother, not the fiance. The mother can be influenced to do this, especially if she owes you reparations for child abuse.

Now, to convince his mother that this or that girl is a good candidate for apprenticeship.
Its next to impossible, as the mother will lose her role as pseudo-wife when the apprenticeship is complete.

My opinion is based on my history of a former boyfriend and his old world mother who continue their setup to this day. He is fifty years old next year.
 

Jive Turkey

Kingfisher
Orthodox Catechumen
Good article Roosh. Your output has increased lately, showing you have not been slack in your work. A commendable virtue.

My only point of critique would be items

1, 2 and three. When investigating her mental health, you must not be so direct. I am very direct, and my spiritual father picked up on this. He said to me "Don't talk to her like you are doing a business deal. Wait for the right time and ask her in a gentle manner, otherwise she will think you don't care about her."

So I am sure others on here may be prone to act in a similar fashion. But this was a good and thoughtful read. Very nuanced approach. I liked it very much.
 

PineTreeFarmer

Woodpecker
Woman
Orthodox Inquirer
I've reached the conclusion that a woman's thought processes are so different from a man's that the ability to relate to them past a certain point is impossible.

Because of this, sometimes it takes many years of cohabitation to determine if the woman is mentally ill--or if she's just a woman.
I think it's funny that it's a personality trait when it's a man, but mental illness when it's a woman. And if white women get angry it's mental illness, but if it's an Italian or Colombian woman it's a fiery personality.
 

Roosh

Cardinal
Orthodox
My only point of critique would be items

1, 2 and three. When investigating her mental health, you must not be so direct. I am very direct, and my spiritual father picked up on this. He said to me "Don't talk to her like you are doing a business deal. Wait for the right time and ask her in a gentle manner, otherwise she will think you don't care about her."

So I am sure others on here may be prone to act in a similar fashion. But this was a good and thoughtful read. Very nuanced approach. I liked it very much.
I agree that one should ask with tact, since it is a sensitive subject. Once I've identified a clear problem, however, I am more direct but still compassionate.
 

Mulato_Man_Gabe

Sparrow
Orthodox
I think it's funny that it's a personality trait when it's a man, but mental illness when it's a woman. And if white women get angry it's mental illness, but if it's an Italian or Colombian woman it's a fiery personality.
As the son of a Colombian woman with a temper, the best way to classify that disposition is "terrible". Angry people are never fun to be around, no matter their ethnicity.

Mental illness label is just a catch all to get people to take drugs, outside of the severe examples Roosh listed who actually have serious problems.
 

Ah_Tibor

Pelican
Woman
Orthodox
I think, unfortunately, this meme represents the future for perhaps most zoomers who will get married. Of course the "supportive calm bf" will have his own struggles and passions, likely less visible than his gf/wife. I pray this situation will lead to collective repentance where both parties mature, and not a continuation or amplification of abuse cycles.

That's the empath/narcissist combo. I think it's really common in dysfunctional families where a parent (or both parents) relies on their child for emotional support and then the child becomes the calm, rational one who settles them down (it can also happen if there's a "problem" sibling and the the other child is the "good" sibling, or if a child gets a lot of abuse hurled at them for no reason, and then latches onto someone else).

Of course the narcissist (I hate using terms like that because they get thrown around a lot these days, and I think prideful or self-centered might be better descriptors) is always in the right (and believe themselves to be nice, empathetic etc) and the empath tends to make excuses.
 

Akaky Akakievitch

Woodpecker
Orthodox Catechumen
Thank you Roosh, a sober read. I'm not ready for courtship yet but I will save this article to re-consider in the future when I begin courting a woman, especially noting those three questions you suggest asking about her mental health history and drugs use. There's been a lot to reconsider recently with my approach to the opposite sex, and this is another mature aspect of it.

In the UK, our population hasn't been as deeply wounded by the pharmaceutical drugs epidemic, but we are the 51st state in all but name, so it's only marginally better most likely, and we also suffer from the same hazy mental health diagnoses that you mentioned. It's worth treating anyone I meet here in the same vein, as though they've been subject to the same pharmaceutical propaganda as those of you in the US.
 

Marcie Anderson

 
Banned
Woman
Other Christian
I think it's funny that it's a personality trait when it's a man, but mental illness when it's a woman. And if white women get angry it's mental illness, but if it's an Italian or Colombian woman it's a fiery personality.
Exactly! After reading article & comments I'm thrilled to say I'm so glad to be single & not married to any of these men. Roosh included! To read their mindset on women is truly disgraceful. None of them would be worth of me letting them not only into my life but I would refuse to marry any of them. I'm shock to know their are men out there actually like Roosh & his followers. Wow! Just wow! I'm blessed beyond measure! Praise God above! ☺
 

josemiguel

Robin
Orthodox
if white women get angry it's mental illness, but if it's an Italian or Colombian woman it's a fiery personality.
A Colombian woman getting angry leads quickly to more babies. White girls on average get "hateful" angry far more often in my humble experience, but the white girls I knew were Austenites, so not the best example of white girls.

But I'm Colombian so maybe I'm biased!
After reading article & comments I'm thrilled to say I'm so glad to be single & not married to any of these men.
Thank you for contributing to the Reconquista, I salute your leaving space for my children to reposses our lands!
I've reached the conclusion that a woman's thought processes are so different from a man's that the ability to relate to them past a certain point is impossible.
Ever tried to stop understanding and just enjoy how different they are? Women respond to what you do. I don't need a logical understanding of my wife's brain. I do what a man does, and she responds as a woman does. Things click when one doesn't expect women to act or think like men, saves a lot of conflict.
sometimes it takes many years of cohabitation to determine if the woman is mentally ill--or if she's just a woman.
Don't cohabitate. If a woman will cohabitate without a ring, she is neither wise nor struggling to be free of her sexual passions.

If you marry a mentally ill woman, regular confession helps tremendously. My wife was abused growing up in a broken household with mom's rotating boyfriends. Regular confession has done absolute wonders for her. God heals!
 

The Prime Minister

 
Banned
Orthodox
And if white women get angry it's mental illness, but if it's an Italian or Colombian woman it's a fiery personality.
White women take the most pills. They are not having kids and consider their pets as their "babies" while celebrating their abortions. Latinas get fiery but they're having kids and live a more natural human experience.

Exactly! After reading article & comments I'm thrilled to say I'm so glad to be single & not married to any of these men. Roosh included!
So why are you here? You just joined today too.
 
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