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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Onto" data-source="post: 15592" data-attributes="member: 5218">Calling people, and that would include me, "losers" who want a "pseudo-slave" is really off-base.  That's something I would expect an American woman to say when asked about the subject.By all means though, give your wife the freedom of western culture.  A career, her own friends (guys included), happy hours with her co-workers, girls night out, and all the rest.  See how it goes.  And what's the harm in a TV show anyway?  Or a movie?  It's just a story.  Doesn't mean anything.  It won't raise questions in her or give answers, right?I spoke with a couple ex-pats who have been living in the Philippines for decades who have been married, had children, and divorced.  They told me the courts side with the Father and they don't get divorce-raped.  In fact, they were always able to stay friends with the filipina's and they were often trying to get back together with the guy.  There wasn't any of the venomous, scorch the earth and castrate him kind of mentality you see here in the West.Now that's only two men, so it's a small sample size and things might have changed there since they had to deal with all that.  They were in their 70's.Just looking at the law you posted above, it seems to say the Father will never be able to see his child without the Mother present because that would mean they were separated, right?  That doesn't sound reasonable, but it is what it's saying.It's a subject where there is not a lot of information to be had on the forum.  20 years from now there will be, but it doesn't help us much now.I was speaking with one Pinay last night who I met on my last trip there.  I didn't bang her and she ended up pregnant soon after I left by another foreigner.  She is sick of his drunkard ways and wants to leave him and see what kind of support she can get.  They are not married.  I am going to keep chatting with her so I can try to gain some knowledge about what happens in those situations.There's always a price to pay no matter what we choose.  Whether you import, or export yourself, or wife up Paris Hilton.  I don't know the answer to which is the best approach.The best I can do is gain as much knowledge as possible about myself, other people, relationships and culture in general to use as a guide for finding the right person and situation to raise a family.  Maybe she's in another country, maybe I'll bump into her at the grocery store tomorrow.  I don't know, and there's not much control I have over it.  The only thing I can control is being open to it, whatever that might be.I do see American culture as repulsive so I know I wouldn't want to raise children here and have them become poisoned.</blockquote>

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