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<blockquote data-quote="thebassist" data-source="post: 1095954" data-attributes="member: 3770"><p>I have a suggestion to approach the psychological element of what you're going through. You mentioned that you had already succeeded in the past at losing a good amount of weight, but you messed it up at some point in time and undid your progress. </p><p></p><p>You were doing so well, and then, starting with one moment of weakness, you turned around all of your progress. I'm going to propose a strategy that will help you get through these 'moments of weakness', and give you the strength that you need to persevere. It centers around reminding yourself WHY you are doing what you are doing, something to snap yourself out of the impulsive desires that can lead to relapses of your unhealthy habits. </p><p></p><p>It's quite simple: take out a sheet of paper and grab a pen. On this sheet of paper you are going to write out all of these things that you have mentioned in the OP and more: your disgust with your current appearance, how fucked up it is that you're out of breath after a flight of stairs, how it's affecting your sex life and so on. </p><p></p><p>And most important of all, write down how you will do whatever it takes so that you will never look like this again. </p><p></p><p>When you're writing all of this you should be pouring out every single emotion that you have bottled up inside of you into this, let it serve as a complete representation of your current mental state. </p><p></p><p>Now make sure that wherever you are, you always have a copy readily available. Maybe you might not even need it for a few months, but the first second that you feel a moment of weakness coming on you need to take out that piece of paper, sit yourself down, and read through everything that you wrote again, and remind yourself WHY you have made the choice to improve your life, and ask yourself if going on a binge is worth returning yourself to your own personal hell. This is why it it is so important to pour your heart and soul into writing this: when you are contemplating a relapse, it should return you to the feelings that you felt when you were writing it: the disgust and the sadness, but most important of all, an overwhelming commitment to never, ever have to feel this way about yourself, ever again. Once again I stress: the reason that relapses often occur is that in the moment of temptation, distracted by our cravings we forget the WHY of the changes that we have made to our lives. </p><p></p><p>If you can give yourself this very powerful affirmation of the choices that you have made to change your life, you will be able to get through the moments of weakness, and with time you will find it easier and easier to resist them, until you will never ever be able to forget why you have decided to make this change in your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="thebassist, post: 1095954, member: 3770"] I have a suggestion to approach the psychological element of what you're going through. You mentioned that you had already succeeded in the past at losing a good amount of weight, but you messed it up at some point in time and undid your progress. You were doing so well, and then, starting with one moment of weakness, you turned around all of your progress. I'm going to propose a strategy that will help you get through these 'moments of weakness', and give you the strength that you need to persevere. It centers around reminding yourself WHY you are doing what you are doing, something to snap yourself out of the impulsive desires that can lead to relapses of your unhealthy habits. It's quite simple: take out a sheet of paper and grab a pen. On this sheet of paper you are going to write out all of these things that you have mentioned in the OP and more: your disgust with your current appearance, how fucked up it is that you're out of breath after a flight of stairs, how it's affecting your sex life and so on. And most important of all, write down how you will do whatever it takes so that you will never look like this again. When you're writing all of this you should be pouring out every single emotion that you have bottled up inside of you into this, let it serve as a complete representation of your current mental state. Now make sure that wherever you are, you always have a copy readily available. Maybe you might not even need it for a few months, but the first second that you feel a moment of weakness coming on you need to take out that piece of paper, sit yourself down, and read through everything that you wrote again, and remind yourself WHY you have made the choice to improve your life, and ask yourself if going on a binge is worth returning yourself to your own personal hell. This is why it it is so important to pour your heart and soul into writing this: when you are contemplating a relapse, it should return you to the feelings that you felt when you were writing it: the disgust and the sadness, but most important of all, an overwhelming commitment to never, ever have to feel this way about yourself, ever again. Once again I stress: the reason that relapses often occur is that in the moment of temptation, distracted by our cravings we forget the WHY of the changes that we have made to our lives. If you can give yourself this very powerful affirmation of the choices that you have made to change your life, you will be able to get through the moments of weakness, and with time you will find it easier and easier to resist them, until you will never ever be able to forget why you have decided to make this change in your life. [/QUOTE]
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