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<blockquote data-quote="ph80" data-source="post: 1565947" data-attributes="member: 24511"><p>Here's the thing. you are TWENTY THREE YEARS OLD. When I was 23, I thought my life was ending because I wasn't successful and also addicted to pornography like you.</p><p></p><p>However, now that I'm 38, in hindsight, from 23 on you have SO MUCH LIFE left to live. You are VERY YOUNG. it may not feel like it, but when you enter your 30s the age of 23 will seem like a young pup. And you can still enjoy your life immensely in your 30s. In fact, now is the best time of all to focus on what's right.</p><p></p><p>Here are the ONLY THINGS that matter at 23: developing a career, finding a long-term partner, and living your life in good Christian faith. You need to start on the first one immediately, and the second one keep in the back of your mind until it happens, and work on the third throughout your life.</p><p></p><p>And don't be distracted by women and getting laid. It's actually not that important in the long run. When I was in my 20s I was obsessed with getting laid or not getting laid, and all of the pretty girls around me, but now, in my late 30s, I realized that all that stuff is just a waste of time. Sex is actually not that big of a deal. Media makes it into a much bigger deal than it is. All the pretty girls around you? They're going to hit the wall in 10 years and not even look that pretty. But in 10 years you could be banking a six figure salary, building wealth, and raising a family with a woman who supports you and cherishes you. But ONLY if you focus 100% on that right now and don't get distracted by shit that doesn't matter: getting laid with loose women, playing video games, masturbating to pornography, listening to hip hop music, traveling the world aimlessly, etc.</p><p></p><p>Other guys your age will try to distract you, or make fun of you for not going to clubs, and not getting "laid" with loose, promiscuous women, but these things don't actually matter. They're tricks played on you to distract you from your true purpose. Casual sex is like eating potato chips - unsatisfying and bad for your health. Pornography is just casual sex projected onto your computer screen. The only sex that matters is sex you have with a long term partner with whom you have a strong emotional and spiritual bond. Casual sex and pornography spoil you for that. Other guys will make fun of you for thinking this, but in the end they will ALL regret it.</p><p></p><p>EVERY SINGLE MAN WHO WAS A "PLAYER" OR GOT LAID ALOT IN HIS 20S and even 30S THAT I'VE MET ENDED UP DEPRESSED AND BROKE. I was shocked when I realized this, but I've met many "naturals" and guys who had tons of sex, and in the end, when they're 40 years old, they have nothing to show for it, nobody gives a SHIT what their lay count was, and women find them usually creepy and gross. The only exceptions are guys who managed to also build a career and some long term relationships despite being players, and at the point, they succeeded in spite of their casual sex flaw.</p><p></p><p>You're 23 years old. I would give ANYTHING to be in your position again, knowing what's actually important in life. And I'm telling you right now the most important things in life are simply: building a career, starting a family with a good woman, and building your faith in God.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ph80, post: 1565947, member: 24511"] Here's the thing. you are TWENTY THREE YEARS OLD. When I was 23, I thought my life was ending because I wasn't successful and also addicted to pornography like you. However, now that I'm 38, in hindsight, from 23 on you have SO MUCH LIFE left to live. You are VERY YOUNG. it may not feel like it, but when you enter your 30s the age of 23 will seem like a young pup. And you can still enjoy your life immensely in your 30s. In fact, now is the best time of all to focus on what's right. Here are the ONLY THINGS that matter at 23: developing a career, finding a long-term partner, and living your life in good Christian faith. You need to start on the first one immediately, and the second one keep in the back of your mind until it happens, and work on the third throughout your life. And don't be distracted by women and getting laid. It's actually not that important in the long run. When I was in my 20s I was obsessed with getting laid or not getting laid, and all of the pretty girls around me, but now, in my late 30s, I realized that all that stuff is just a waste of time. Sex is actually not that big of a deal. Media makes it into a much bigger deal than it is. All the pretty girls around you? They're going to hit the wall in 10 years and not even look that pretty. But in 10 years you could be banking a six figure salary, building wealth, and raising a family with a woman who supports you and cherishes you. But ONLY if you focus 100% on that right now and don't get distracted by shit that doesn't matter: getting laid with loose women, playing video games, masturbating to pornography, listening to hip hop music, traveling the world aimlessly, etc. Other guys your age will try to distract you, or make fun of you for not going to clubs, and not getting "laid" with loose, promiscuous women, but these things don't actually matter. They're tricks played on you to distract you from your true purpose. Casual sex is like eating potato chips - unsatisfying and bad for your health. Pornography is just casual sex projected onto your computer screen. The only sex that matters is sex you have with a long term partner with whom you have a strong emotional and spiritual bond. Casual sex and pornography spoil you for that. Other guys will make fun of you for thinking this, but in the end they will ALL regret it. EVERY SINGLE MAN WHO WAS A "PLAYER" OR GOT LAID ALOT IN HIS 20S and even 30S THAT I'VE MET ENDED UP DEPRESSED AND BROKE. I was shocked when I realized this, but I've met many "naturals" and guys who had tons of sex, and in the end, when they're 40 years old, they have nothing to show for it, nobody gives a SHIT what their lay count was, and women find them usually creepy and gross. The only exceptions are guys who managed to also build a career and some long term relationships despite being players, and at the point, they succeeded in spite of their casual sex flaw. You're 23 years old. I would give ANYTHING to be in your position again, knowing what's actually important in life. And I'm telling you right now the most important things in life are simply: building a career, starting a family with a good woman, and building your faith in God. [/QUOTE]
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