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<blockquote data-quote="Knight.of.Logos" data-source="post: 1566573" data-attributes="member: 17234">I can relate to a lot of what your saying, although I don't think I had quite as many challenges as you did and at such a young age.&nbsp; I struggled with depression and isolation when I was younger, and my parents moved a lot so when I made friends, I'd eventually have to start over and that was difficult.Without having money is an obstacle, but you can at least do some push ups and bodyweight squats in your room.&nbsp; Look at other bodyweight exercises.&nbsp; Go for walks -- they are very helpful especially if it is a nice setting.&nbsp; Drink more water, that is cheap enough.&nbsp; Healthy food isn't that expensive.... you can get vegetables at farmer's markets and even places like Aldi and Walmart have fairly cheap organic vegetables.&nbsp; Meat is pricey, but beans and rice are cheap enough.&nbsp; Learn to cook, you'll save a ton of money and have much healthier food than from eating out.You said you are going to church which is a good step.&nbsp; Is it one you like?&nbsp; I wasn't that into going to church until I became Orthodox, and now it is a highlight of my week.&nbsp; Prayer is important too, as many others have said.Read some books too.&nbsp; You can always get stuff from a library if money is an issue.&nbsp; Learning new things is good for the brain and will give you something to do besides porn.&nbsp; I've struggled with porn too.. but eventually it gets easier.&nbsp; All the times I have relapsed were due to stress + boredom, so I try to stay active and do things to take away my stress (prayer, going for walks, drinking herbal tea, talking to people, etc.).Getting a job can not only help you out financially, but it can build confidence and help you meet people.&nbsp; You might have to try out a few before you find one you like.People often think their problems are totally their fault, and internalize them, but often they stem from environmental factors and our lifestyle.&nbsp; We can change our lifestyle, and that will help tremendously.&nbsp; We can't change our upbringing, but we can change our environment moving forward and change the way we think about our upbringing (forgiving others, looking at suffering as a path to salvation, etc.).</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Knight.of.Logos, post: 1566573, member: 17234"] I can relate to a lot of what your saying, although I don't think I had quite as many challenges as you did and at such a young age. I struggled with depression and isolation when I was younger, and my parents moved a lot so when I made friends, I'd eventually have to start over and that was difficult. Without having money is an obstacle, but you can at least do some push ups and bodyweight squats in your room. Look at other bodyweight exercises. Go for walks -- they are very helpful especially if it is a nice setting. Drink more water, that is cheap enough. Healthy food isn't that expensive.... you can get vegetables at farmer's markets and even places like Aldi and Walmart have fairly cheap organic vegetables. Meat is pricey, but beans and rice are cheap enough. Learn to cook, you'll save a ton of money and have much healthier food than from eating out. You said you are going to church which is a good step. Is it one you like? I wasn't that into going to church until I became Orthodox, and now it is a highlight of my week. Prayer is important too, as many others have said. Read some books too. You can always get stuff from a library if money is an issue. Learning new things is good for the brain and will give you something to do besides porn. I've struggled with porn too.. but eventually it gets easier. All the times I have relapsed were due to stress + boredom, so I try to stay active and do things to take away my stress (prayer, going for walks, drinking herbal tea, talking to people, etc.). Getting a job can not only help you out financially, but it can build confidence and help you meet people. You might have to try out a few before you find one you like. People often think their problems are totally their fault, and internalize them, but often they stem from environmental factors and our lifestyle. We can change our lifestyle, and that will help tremendously. We can't change our upbringing, but we can change our environment moving forward and change the way we think about our upbringing (forgiving others, looking at suffering as a path to salvation, etc.). [/QUOTE]

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