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<blockquote data-quote="skullmask" data-source="post: 1573998" data-attributes="member: 18968"><p>I would have to say that [USER=24619]@LoveofChristCompelsUs[/USER] gives some good advice and I recommend following it. I really can't add much to it other than I will pray for you overcoming your troubles. I thought of suicide seriously once many years ago, but decided not to and I am glad I chose to live. I wasn't a Christian at the time but how I got over it was, I thought about how it would make my parents sad if I did it, and it was enough to stop me. You're gonna die soon enough just from old age, why rush things and cause others to suffer needlessly? My situation improved and there's no reason your's wouldn't improve too. I mean you're 23 years old.</p><p></p><p>As a personal example for the power that God gives us, I occasionally suffer from sleep paralysis. I will wake up, but my body is still asleep. I also feel like there's someone in the room with me. It's pretty terrifying. Before I was saved, I would struggle to force myself to open my eyes and wake up, but always fail. I could never will myself to fully wake up. But then one night when I was suffering from this and struggled to wake up I remembered that I'm with Jesus now. So I stopped struggling and called upon God, asking him to please wake me up. I didn't even finish my sentence and was immediately awake. The main thing was, I stopped trying to overcome this problem through my own power and put things fully in the hands of God. I think that was what [USER=24619]@LoveofChristCompelsUs[/USER] was talking about regarding your method of prayer. I think that the pitfall of constant prayer is that it can become more of an effort thing. It's like the idea that if you just <em>pray harder</em> then the situation will improve. But the paradox of that is that's just another form of relying on your own strength rather than the strength of God.</p><p></p><p>God made us to do productive work. When we are idle is when Satan gets to work. Try to find things to do that are productive with your time. Get away from the computer if it's leading you to sin. There's nothing wrong with sexual desire per se, God himself commanded us to be fruitful and multiply immediately after creating us in Genesis 1. The problem is as a society we have twisted the normal sexual desire that God gave us to something we do only for our own pleasure rather than for the purpose that God originally intended. </p><p></p><p>It sucks that Canada is such a mess right now. But since you did your OP we've had the freedom truckers lay siege to Ottowa and already the provinces are starting to back down. Stay faithful and don't give up. As far as things to do one thing I'd recommend is finding volunteer opportunities. Just find something to do that helps other people. Learn a skill and use it to help others. Finding a fun hobby is good too. Me personally I've been getting much more serious about archery lately. I like to build my own arrows and have the fletching jig and tools to build and repair them. At the archery club I'm the guy that people go to when they need an arrow fixed or if they need a new batch made up. I also have tools for adjusting nock rings and checking things like brace height, etc. Try to become the person that people go to when they need help with something. The more you do that the less you will be that person who sits in front of the PC all day looking at smut and feeling ashamed of himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="skullmask, post: 1573998, member: 18968"] I would have to say that [USER=24619]@LoveofChristCompelsUs[/USER] gives some good advice and I recommend following it. I really can't add much to it other than I will pray for you overcoming your troubles. I thought of suicide seriously once many years ago, but decided not to and I am glad I chose to live. I wasn't a Christian at the time but how I got over it was, I thought about how it would make my parents sad if I did it, and it was enough to stop me. You're gonna die soon enough just from old age, why rush things and cause others to suffer needlessly? My situation improved and there's no reason your's wouldn't improve too. I mean you're 23 years old. As a personal example for the power that God gives us, I occasionally suffer from sleep paralysis. I will wake up, but my body is still asleep. I also feel like there's someone in the room with me. It's pretty terrifying. Before I was saved, I would struggle to force myself to open my eyes and wake up, but always fail. I could never will myself to fully wake up. But then one night when I was suffering from this and struggled to wake up I remembered that I'm with Jesus now. So I stopped struggling and called upon God, asking him to please wake me up. I didn't even finish my sentence and was immediately awake. The main thing was, I stopped trying to overcome this problem through my own power and put things fully in the hands of God. I think that was what [USER=24619]@LoveofChristCompelsUs[/USER] was talking about regarding your method of prayer. I think that the pitfall of constant prayer is that it can become more of an effort thing. It's like the idea that if you just [I]pray harder[/I] then the situation will improve. But the paradox of that is that's just another form of relying on your own strength rather than the strength of God. God made us to do productive work. When we are idle is when Satan gets to work. Try to find things to do that are productive with your time. Get away from the computer if it's leading you to sin. There's nothing wrong with sexual desire per se, God himself commanded us to be fruitful and multiply immediately after creating us in Genesis 1. The problem is as a society we have twisted the normal sexual desire that God gave us to something we do only for our own pleasure rather than for the purpose that God originally intended. It sucks that Canada is such a mess right now. But since you did your OP we've had the freedom truckers lay siege to Ottowa and already the provinces are starting to back down. Stay faithful and don't give up. As far as things to do one thing I'd recommend is finding volunteer opportunities. Just find something to do that helps other people. Learn a skill and use it to help others. Finding a fun hobby is good too. Me personally I've been getting much more serious about archery lately. I like to build my own arrows and have the fletching jig and tools to build and repair them. At the archery club I'm the guy that people go to when they need an arrow fixed or if they need a new batch made up. I also have tools for adjusting nock rings and checking things like brace height, etc. Try to become the person that people go to when they need help with something. The more you do that the less you will be that person who sits in front of the PC all day looking at smut and feeling ashamed of himself. [/QUOTE]
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