NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
Kurgan said:
I'm proud to say tomorrow, I will have reached 30 days of NoFap. The longest I've done was 45 days, I found I do a lot more things to improve myself now that I also have the week off.
Great work. With this challenge, it's worthwhile to celebrate every victory. If you're a recovering daily wanker like myself, even going one week without a nut is a massive accomplishment.

Just don't rest on your laurels and start getting lazy. On to the next month :banana:
 
Judging by my browser history, I'm currently on a 10-day NoFap streak. I've had multiple 10-14 day streaks within a one-year period, my highest being 18 3/4 days last December. When I break a streak, I do it in grand fashion over the course of a few days. I broke 2 streaks recently due to extreme circumstances (surviving a tornado, dealing with life changes during COVID-19). This time I've been turning to the Lord. He's the only One who will get me past my grief over losing this stage of my life and who will ultimately save me. I must continue devoting myself to prayer so that I may cope with the reoccurrence of thought sins which spring up whenever I curb external sin.
 

Kurgan

Kingfisher
redbeard said:
Kurgan said:
I'm proud to say tomorrow, I will have reached 30 days of NoFap. The longest I've done was 45 days, I found I do a lot more things to improve myself now that I also have the week off.
Great work. With this challenge, it's worthwhile to celebrate every victory. If you're a recovering daily wanker like myself, even going one week without a nut is a massive accomplishment.

Just don't rest on your laurels and start getting lazy. On to the next month :banana:
Don't worry, I've been relaxing and I think I will beat the 45 day record I have now for No Fap. The first time, it was cold turkey for Lent 2015 and I had a lot of pent-up energy and someone noticed I was more aggressive in my voice.

This time, I'm putting the energy to good use. I took classes in Excel, VBA and Macros and will take courses in programming. I still want to get into an analyst role.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
How's everyone doing with being locked up in quarantine?

This has been a challenging time but I've re-committed to no social media. Without that tempter, it's much easier for me to stay clean.
 
I'm on a decent streak, must be a few weeks by now. Luckily I'm still working amidst the lockdown. I find I have a lot more rage and I've been getting stuck ruminating whenever someone slights me or disrespects me, no matter how minor or trivial. If anyone has any tips to deal with this I'd like to know. I used to just smoke weed but that's not an option for me anymore.
 
The gym has always relaxed my demons, it is the one thing that I miss the most. Try bodyweight exercises if every other option is closed. Plan B was the park to do some pull-ups but that got closed too. Running also helps. Use the energy in a constructive manner. Testosterone makes us do stuff, that is what it is for.
 

Sooth

Pelican
Gold Member
forestdweller said:
I'm on a decent streak, must be a few weeks by now. Luckily I'm still working amidst the lockdown. I find I have a lot more rage and I've been getting stuck ruminating whenever someone slights me or disrespects me, no matter how minor or trivial. If anyone has any tips to deal with this I'd like to know. I used to just smoke weed but that's not an option for me anymore.
Pray to God that He may take your burden of pride and replace it with the virtue of humility, then build you back up to become someone who is confident but doesn't suffer the opinions of others.

The root of your problem exists in a different dimension. There is no amount of body weight exercises that will pull that weed.
 
Thanks Sooth. That sounds like my problem to a tee. Perhaps high testosterone and no drugs amps up my aggression also. Energy is energy, better put it to good use!
 
I've built some good streaks over the last few years, but I always relapse. Sometimes to porn, which is the worst, and sometimes I just masturbate, which is still a sin but it does not feel as disgusting afterwards. The stress from the Coronavirus and other life factors lately spiraled into a relapse. I have to take full responsibility for that and move on.

This feels embarrassing to admit, but I know others here are in the same boat. After fapping pretty much daily (or more) for 15 years, since I was 13 or so.... even having two week streaks or so is progress. However, I want to completely eliminate this bad habit. I've quit booze and cannabis no problem but this one is really tricky. I wish all the best to everyone here on overcoming this sin!
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
Knight.of.Logos said:
I've built some good streaks over the last few years, but I always relapse. Sometimes to porn, which is the worst, and sometimes I just masturbate, which is still a sin but it does not feel as disgusting afterwards. The stress from the Coronavirus and other life factors lately spiraled into a relapse. I have to take full responsibility for that and move on.

This feels embarrassing to admit, but I know others here are in the same boat. After fapping pretty much daily (or more) for 15 years, since I was 13 or so.... even having two week streaks or so is progress. However, I want to completely eliminate this bad habit. I've quit booze and cannabis no problem but this one is really tricky. I wish all the best to everyone here on overcoming this sin!
Welcome aboard. Looking forward to hear about your progress.
 
Im not sure whether to post this in the dream interpretation or the nofap thread (or anywhere). I had a dream I was making out with a girl I dont know and I coomed (irl) and she laughed at me and then I woke up.

Urges are strong this morning but I'll persevere. Hopefully I'm not too drained from that but whatever not a big deal.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
Wet dreams are pretty natural. Try not to let them worry you.

When I was previously doing NoFap (2016-2018), I was still having sex. So, I was getting that release from sperm buildup. Now that I'm practicing celibacy, there's no release, so I have been getting wet dreams. It's not frequent, but it still happens.

When it happens it's tempting to masturbate or watch porn. You figure "well, I've already ejaculated, why not?" The answer is because wet dreams aren't technically relapsing. Unless you are forcing these dreams (by fielding impure thoughts or consenting to rubbing yourself), then it's just your body opening up the valve a bit. It's also tempting to think "hmm how can I stop these wet dreams from happening?" Unfortunately the only solution is to ejaculate through masturbation or sex. As single men, there's really no answer but pushing through. Don't let Satan rationalize your temptations in the name of stopping wet dreams or something silly like "prostate health."
 

Mikeyd03

Sparrow
Have had a few relapses during this quarantine period.

Goal is to finish April clean. A couple of things discussed in my accountability group.

1. Recommit to yourself every 12 hours: “I will not watch porn for the next 12 hours.”—mentally it’s easier to commit to something for shorter times (although I committed to rest of April above). Break it down.

2. When you have an urge do some mental math. 9x9=? 100/5=? Doing math activates the frontal cortex of your brain (associated w/ long term planning/discipline)...I have started doing this...it helps (even if it is placebo).

Good luck fellas
 

Mountaineer

Kingfisher
Gold Member
Knight.of.Logos said:
The stress from the Coronavirus and other life factors lately spiraled into a relapse.
Quite the opposite here. The stress from this crisis completely nullified any impulse to fap. I don't give a fuck about girls now, there are more important matters. I'm eager to make it last. :banana:

And if I feel anxious I jump in my car and go on a hard mountain drive, that equalises and depressurises my mind without fail.
 

Batman_

Woodpecker
Went about 2 months at the start of this year and about a month recently, but fell into the trap again last weekend.

I've been trying to give up porn for over 8 years, having first recognized my severe addiction to it when I was still fairly young. Even after all these years, it's still a struggle.

At the end of the day, there are no sneaky rationalizations or anything of that sort, I simply end up saying "fuck it" and do it despite knowing absolutely nothing good will come of it. I go long enough between relapses that it becomes difficult to see how it's effecting me in the short to medium term, even though I know it's pure poison and has to be eliminated for good.
 

Batman_

Woodpecker
Mikeyd03 said:
Have had a few relapses during this quarantine period.

Goal is to finish April clean. A couple of things discussed in my accountability group.

1. Recommit to yourself every 12 hours: “I will not watch porn for the next 12 hours.”—mentally it’s easier to commit to something for shorter times (although I committed to rest of April above). Break it down.

2. When you have an urge do some mental math. 9x9=? 100/5=? Doing math activates the frontal cortex of your brain (associated w/ long term planning/discipline)...I have started doing this...it helps (even if it is placebo).

Good luck fellas
If you want to increase activity in the prefrontal cortex, hands down the best thing to do is meditate. It is literally the antidote to porn addiction, which literally causes hypofrontality. But, it can take considerable focus and discipline to meditate with regularity.
 
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