NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious

Aside from noticing more energy to do stuff, and more aggressive impulses... I ran into an old friend who gave me her number last week before I slipped. Since quitting again she actually contacted me today and made an excuse to visit while I was cutting the grass.
Granted, I'm not going to pursue it but it's nice to know that positive effects are happening whether or not I want to notice them.

I have had issues making it to 30 days. I think once I can, I'll break new ground in my life. I can't honestly think of one single instance in my life except before I knew how to do it, where I haven't fapped once in 30 days straight.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
It might help to give yourself an arbitrary reward if you make it to 30 days. Something simple like a nice meal, a piece of chocolate cake, or a glass of wine. Even the smallest "carrot on a stick" can help you make it to the finish line.
 
It might help to give yourself an arbitrary reward if you make it to 30 days. Something simple like a nice meal, a piece of chocolate cake, or a glass of wine. Even the smallest "carrot on a stick" can help you make it to the finish line.
When I first took this quest seriously was around the time I had hired a coach. She suggested something similar, but it was one day every couple of weeks I would be 'allowed' to do it. I think that's part of the reason I can't get past the 30 day mark yet.
Delaying gratification in general has been a problem for me in the past. I need a better reward. The nice meal could work.... and I was thinking at the grocery store today about buying some ribs. I passed ultimately because they're expensive, I'm poor, and out of work at the moment--but if I bought some left them in the freezer when they went on sale say, I could probably keep eyeballing them until I can make it to say... 6 weeks. I like to challenge myself.
 
Evening came and morning came, the 6th day. Another good night's rest, up early even though I'm out of work.
Almost caved yesterday, but thankfully having roommates actually deterred me when one of them did it. You know how that you can always smell that stank when someone near you does it.
 
I hope I am not the only one still on the wagon. I don't wanna turn this wagon around and pick all your asses back up again--but I will if I have to.
Week 1 down. Past few days home alone with 3 female asian exchange students, 22-24. And they like their vibrators... it wasn't easy the past 2 days but I'm starting to see it less as a temptation and more of a lack of personal strength. It's keeping me grounded and determined.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
I hope I am not the only one still on the wagon. I don't wanna turn this wagon around and pick all your asses back up again--but I will if I have to.
Week 1 down.
Great job. Keep it up. I'm staying strong. My three month anniversarry is in a few days, so I'm keeping that milestone in sight.

Past few days home alone with 3 female asian exchange students, 22-24. And they like their vibrators... it wasn't easy the past 2 days but I'm starting to see it less as a temptation and more of a lack of personal strength. It's keeping me grounded and determined.
WTF? Get out of there.
 
WTF? Get out of there.
Hahahaha, I got a good laugh at that.
If only I could. They're like a living porno, pretty sure they're just into girls. Never any boys up there, ever; and I've lived here for... 2+ years. The homeowner is the oldest, the most mature, and while I find her attractive for some good reasons the chemistry and timing aren't right.
They keep it very subtle though. Also they tend to sleep all day and stay up all night, the opposite of me. They were up at 4:30 when I considered getting out of bed but settled for a piss and went back to sleep.

I'm not right for a wife yet, but it's nice to live with someone who reminds me of what my ideal wife might look like. I imagine though, as I change, that ideal will as well.
 
Interesting observation: I started deleting some pr0n today--like the good stuff, the backup copy so if I wanted it again I have to search it up and find it or pay for it somewhere. 3 days ago, that was unthinkable and now it wasn't only easy but felt kinda good. I'm gonna go delete some more.
 

!!!???!!!

Sparrow
Day 1.
Damn that horse, gave me a toss. Better get back on it.
Sorry to hear that brother. I find this thread very motivational and it's kept me going. I haven't cracked yet. I encourage you to think of yourself as the type of person that simply doesn't engage in that sort of action, rather than counting the days. It's worked for me, it might work for you.

Remember why you started this in the first place :)
 

Kurgan

Kingfisher
Tomorrow, I will have reached 65 days of no masturbation. I'm in shock that I was able to go this far, I realize now I feel more motivated to do things like take classes in LinkedIn Learning for programming, Microsoft Office and I've been trying to exercise daily when it's nice out. I took a ride this morning and it felt like now I feel like I could do anything.

But I remember too before I discovered masturbating, I was more creative and willing to do things. It's just a matter of devoting time to other things.
 
Yeah the morning salute doesn't make it easier first thing. But thankfully, I've found ignoring it (or pissing through it) is the simple yet effective way to get rid of it.
So far since getting back on it's been pretty easy compared to last week's stretch. When trying on my own I might have used falling off as an excuse to say to hell with trying but now I'm doubling down. Going to keep trying to beat my streak. Err, no puns intended.
 

Mr Gibbs

Sparrow
Dunno if this’ll help but I’ve been struggling keeping off tinder and bumble, not like I get a bunch of matches anyways, and the thought of “oh we’re in quarantine so this is the best way for now” keeps creeping in my head. So I re-download, see a girl that I’m particularly interested in 9 times out of ten there’s very sexual pictures with access to her instagram and you know the rest. So I deleted them again and now im reading proverbs and this verse stuck out to me,
proverbs 26:11 Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who reverts to his folly
Just thought I’d share with this thread
 

!!!???!!!

Sparrow
Dunno if this’ll help but I’ve been struggling keeping off tinder and bumble, not like I get a bunch of matches anyways, and the thought of “oh we’re in quarantine so this is the best way for now” keeps creeping in my head. So I re-download, see a girl that I’m particularly interested in 9 times out of ten there’s very sexual pictures with access to her instagram and you know the rest. So I deleted them again and now im reading proverbs and this verse stuck out to me,
proverbs 26:11 Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who reverts to his folly
Just thought I’d share with this thread
So brutally true. Thank you buddy, and hope you kick this.
 
Interesting observation: I started deleting some pr0n today--like the good stuff, the backup copy so if I wanted it again I have to search it up and find it or pay for it somewhere. 3 days ago, that was unthinkable and now it wasn't only easy but felt kinda good. I'm gonna go delete some more.
This is where I went wrong before. I'm not going anywhere near my collection again until I have a month under my belt and even when I do, I may ask a friend to be in the room with me so I don't get tempted to do anything stupid.
I had a few different spots where I found some, began deleting several and came across one in particular I couldn't help but watch... and the inevitable happened. But I'm back at a week again come Sunday. I am finding this week easier than last. In a way challenging myself to beat a streak is going to help.
proverbs 26:11 Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who reverts to his folly
Great verse.
 
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