NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious

If you crack you have to post the type of porn you PMO'd too. Hear me out, I'm not insane. How many of us have struggled with escalating fetishes? Making it secret increases the shame IMO, so posting about it publically will make you feel less alone, less isolated. Or maybe it's not a good idea, I dunno, it's just a thought.
I don't think that's a great idea. Using myself as an example: I got to the fetish stage. I have no shame with what I enjoyed as much as the fact I fapped and lost self control. Adding specifics just makes the whole idea kinda gross and borders on becoming a fetish itself.
Just my 2 cents on the idea.

Monthly challenges, accountability check-ins, memes, motivation, etc.
I like the idea of if you participate and cave that you have to own it to the group though. Using myself again: when I have posted about it I always got encouragement and positive suggestions to help next time.
 

Rob Banks

Pelican
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They do a lot more stuff on the /r/nofap page. Monthly challenges, accountability check-ins, memes, motivation, etc.
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I was a member of the official NoFap forum for a little over a month before quitting and deleting my account.

I would try to give people advice, but I would get shouted down and ridiculed any time I said anything about God or traditional (i.e. Biblical) sexual morality. I even got a lot of pushback for saying that masturbation in general (even without porn) was bad. Ironic for a movement that calls itself "no fap," right?

The last straw for me was when I responded to a man who said he was not gay but that he can only get aroused to gay porn, and that he actually ended up having gay sex with men in real life too. He was was quick to add "not that there's anything wrong with being gay, of course."

I responded by quoting the italicized portion and saying "OP, this kind of thinking is part of your problem. Shame is healthy." only to have my post taken down and receive a warning from moderators for my "homophobia."
 
Hey guys - what would take this thread to the next level?

They do a lot more stuff on the /r/nofap page. Monthly challenges, accountability check-ins, memes, motivation, etc.

Just wondering what you guys would like to see here.
Doing stuff like this is compulsory in nature and doesn't benefit anyone in the long run. Do it for the greater good it causes first for yourself, then everybody else. What made NoFap impossible for me was obsessing over it. I could go on the longer I did not make a great deal out of it. Abstaining because it feels right not because you have to, helped me more out than reading or posting on forums.
 
Ah masturbation without porn. Time to triple down.
I have stumbled, but not fallen; but I start anew again reminding myself that change takes patience and discipline.

No porn wasn't good enough for me. I had a fleshlight--emphasis on had. Today it went to the curb and tomorrow morning it's on it's way to the dump with the rest of the trash where it belongs. Better it, than me; when God decides to burn His pile of it I'd rather not be part of it.
 

((()))

Pigeon
I've been under terrifying demonic possession lately.

Last night I dreamt that I had an irrrestible urge to fap, and so I did. Everything felt very realistic, and the strong lethargic feeling of after-fap was the same in my dream as it was in real life.

After waking up, it took me half an hour to realise that it was just a dream. That's how real the Démons were.

I thanked God my briefs were intact and prayed three Hail Marys for the purification of my soul.
 

Mr Gibbs

Robin
If you crack you have to post the type of porn you PMO'd too. Hear me out, I'm not insane. How many of us have struggled with escalating fetishes? Making it secret increases the shame IMO, so posting about it publically will make you feel less alone, less isolated. Or maybe it's not a good idea, I dunno, it's just a thought.
I just cracked, was going on about 2 weeks and I saw a vid which I won’t post (trust me if you’re on NoFap you shouldn’t watch it) about an some stupid antifa girl who’s insanely hot and from then in i can’t help but watch like 18-25 y.o. Girls on tik tok vids. It’s too much lol. I keep telling myself don’t look at these hot young girls and I never listen it’s like the animalistic part of my brain activates and all sense of self control and accountability is lost from my mind. I don’t know what to do anymore. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Period. And this is coming from an ex marine who’s tried out for SF (MARSOC) and currently training to be a green beret. 12+ mile rucks, carrying heavy machine guns, sprinting in full plate carrier w/ ammo, guns, chow/water, staying up all night on post. But this... this is almost unreasonably challenging comparatively. Because at least with the excruciatingly hard physical stuff you know it’s gotta end at some point, this is pure evil it’s like a part of me has been hijacked and controlled. I feel utterly debased rn. What do you do after you fap for the fourth time in a weekend? I’m going for a bike ride and trying to stay of the internet for the rest of the day. Lord have mercy this stuff is evil.
 

Hermetic Seal

Kingfisher
Gold Member
Just hit 30 days. I've gone a couple months without porn before, but never more than two weeks without masturbation. It's going really well so far. I think I can keep going strong until our baby is born, then it's probably going to be tough for a while until regular sex resumes, I guess. Will keep giving weekly updates.
 

open source

Sparrow
Gold Member
Day 48 checking in.

If RVF allowed you to change your username, I'd switch to this in a heartbeat.
You can buy the gold membership and change your username.

Hey guys - what would take this thread to the next level?

They do a lot more stuff on the /r/nofap page. Monthly challenges, accountability check-ins, memes, motivation, etc.

Just wondering what you guys would like to see here.
Don't have suggestions but I like this idea.
 

Hermetic Seal

Kingfisher
Gold Member
You can buy the gold membership and change your username.
Thanks for the info, I knew about Gold Membership but didn't realize name changes were a possibility with that. I get so much value from the forum and Roosh's work that I'd be happy to sign up for it sometime soon.
 

BlastbeatCasanova

Kingfisher
I made it 17 days, a new record since my last try in 2015 (something like 25 days). It feels good to exercise willpower over your mind and your body. NoFap + cold showers + running really made me feel energized and focused, I had a great month work-wise after being on lockdown for the Scamdemic
 

Hermetic Seal

Kingfisher
Gold Member
Something that helped me is deleting Instagram off of my phone. I still have it on my secondary phone, but I keep it in my desk and only check it 1-2 times a day. (I use Instagram to follow a couple of hobby-related things.)

I realized that I was twitch-checking Instagram all the time when bored and the "Explore" tab was often showing me triggering sexual content. Now I've cut that down to zero, while still being able to check the app and make posts when I want to be intentional about it. I don't have Facebook on my phone at all and have never used Snapchat, TikTok, etc. No Reddit client on my phone, either. Getting this stuff off of your phone is one of the best moves you can make to reduce temptation. As an added bonus, I've been using my phone way less lately.
 

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Pigeon
I just cracked, was going on about 2 weeks and I saw a vid which I won’t post (trust me if you’re on NoFap you shouldn’t watch it) about an some stupid antifa girl who’s insanely hot and from then in i can’t help but watch like 18-25 y.o. Girls on tik tok vids. It’s too much lol. I keep telling myself don’t look at these hot young girls and I never listen it’s like the animalistic part of my brain activates and all sense of self control and accountability is lost from my mind. I don’t know what to do anymore. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Period. And this is coming from an ex marine who’s tried out for SF (MARSOC) and currently training to be a green beret. 12+ mile rucks, carrying heavy machine guns, sprinting in full plate carrier w/ ammo, guns, chow/water, staying up all night on post. But this... this is almost unreasonably challenging comparatively. Because at least with the excruciatingly hard physical stuff you know it’s gotta end at some point, this is pure evil it’s like a part of me has been hijacked and controlled. I feel utterly debased rn. What do you do after you fap for the fourth time in a weekend? I’m going for a bike ride and trying to stay of the internet for the rest of the day. Lord have mercy this stuff is evil.
Wishing you the best of luck in becoming a green beret, I'm training to become one in my country as well. Shit is really hard, but I think we both agree that all those rucks and runs with full equipment got nothing on NoFap/NoPorn.

And so I failed again today, and tomorrow morning I will run as fast as I can to that chapel on the hill 10km away from home to purify my soul. I feel like absolute shit, so I hope by exerting my body to the maximum this feeling will become a long lost memory.

How can I remind myself of that awfully lethargic feeling that results after fapping? I know the feeling, I know it's a horrible feeling, I know the short-term high is not worth the long-term zombified brain fog. But I still do it.
 
How can I remind myself of that awfully lethargic feeling that results after fapping? I know the feeling, I know it's a horrible feeling, I know the short-term high is not worth the long-term zombified brain fog. But I still do it.
You will always forget the feeling, no matter how hard you try to remember it. What helped me is not making a big deal out of it and not feeling guilty or shame when you become weak. We are all only men, after all. If you remove the deep-rooted guilt and stop giving a damn about obsessing about sex, genitals or whatever goes with it, you stop the sin of self-pollution, or at least reduce it significantly. That's how it worked for me after more than two years of trying to quit. I managed to abstain three months straight every year and in the third year my desire for laying hand on myself disappeared.

To make it short: determination and not giving a fuck (literally).
 

Psalm27

Robin
Gold Member
I have been without fapping for about 8-9 months now. All glory to God. Masturbation is sin and I want to be pleasing to God, this has helped me quit doing that. Another thing that helped me was that I was in an environment with no to minimal privacy for an extended period of time. Avoiding sexually triggering imagery also helps, that includes (((Hollywood))) movies and TV shows which seem to very often have sex scenes or something sexual in practically every movie/episode.

Just my 2 cents.
 
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