NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious

Rob Banks

Pelican
I think this is telling. I don't think we can compare a substance addiction to the drive to have sex. We are given that drive to motivate us to form families and procreate. That won't, and shouldn't go away.

On the other hand, a pornography addiction is similar to drugs. The urges to watch porn DO go away, but are replaced with healthy thoughts of the desire to procreate with a woman.

I haven't watch porn in years, but I do suffer from fantasizing about women I am texting with online in a sexual manner.
Yes, our sex drive is normal and we need it to procreate, but being able to suppress (for lack of a better term) this drive is necessary in order to please God and be a truly strong man.

Catholic priests and monks (at least the good ones) go their whole lives without sex or masturbation. I doubt they are constantly struggling with urges.

I’m not saying we should all be celibate for life, but if a priest is able to do it for his entire life then I should be able to do it for a few months or years.
 

Mr Freedom

Sparrow
I wonder if foods play a role in the urge to masturbate?

I do find on some days I find that If I eat sugary foods, soda drinks and high protein foods it will lead me to feel more horny. And thus a good chance of relapsing. Eating before going to sleep causes me to have major urges when I wake up as well. I guess the energy from food has to be expatiated some how.

What if fasting is the answer? I spoke to a Muslim friend of mine about masturbation and we had a good discussion which led me to finding this quote:

“O young men! Whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever is not able to do that then let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Nikaah, 4677). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoined fasting . So you must also pay attention to the commands of the Allaah, such as lowering the gaze and keeping away from places where men mix with women.
Whenever I get urges I have started to either exercise or fast as a solution.
 
The key is that the desire for excessive masturbation is usually from blockages to the manifestation of the true you to the world.

Manifesting yourself can take infinite forms. If you’re spending your days running, hiking, creating, teaching - whatever your true activities are, then you know from experience you won’t have time or much desire to block off an hour to peruse etc.

Find your activities and do them to sublimate your energy and not throw it away.
 
Keep in mind...

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"Dozens of women came forward in the last week about abuse on porn sets, and performers say it's just the beginning."


"In a culture where porn is largely celebrated and largely believed to be an exploitation-free and harmless habit, it’s important to give visibility to reports that showcase the exploitation, abuse, and coercion that are ingrained within the industry. It’s especially important to give visibility to these reports when they show up in widely-read publications."

 

westernman

Pigeon
Same. Let me know if you have found any ways to over come it (other than limiting texting).
Honestly, I just tell myself masturbating is for the weak, and text girls as usual. It might sound stupid, but listening to Owen Benjamin describe "squirt boys" is weirdly motivating to stop.. Haha.

I am not on board with cutting out pursuing women. that seems very very unnatural to me. I will continue to text and pursue women
 

westernman

Pigeon
What do you guys think about the factor of loneliness? I think that is by far the biggest source of lustful desires.

Call me what you want, but I see this as god saying "be fruitful and multiply". An otherwise healthy inclination is corrupted by pornography and the internets illusion of connection
 
What do you guys think about the factor of loneliness? I think that is by far the biggest source of lustful desires.

Call me what you want, but I see this as god saying "be fruitful and multiply". An otherwise healthy inclination is corrupted by pornography and the internets illusion of connection
But are you pursuing women with serious intent, to find a life companion? Or are you just looking for women to temporarily satiate your sexual desires? And regarding loneliness, you can be in a relationship and still be lonely. You need to be in a good place in your mind/soul, to have a healthy relationship with a hopefully psychologically healthy woman. It will take that to deal with the God given loneliness that you feel.
 

Cranmer

Newbie
What do you guys think about the factor of loneliness? I think that is by far the biggest source of lustful desires.

Call me what you want, but I see this as god saying "be fruitful and multiply". An otherwise healthy inclination is corrupted by pornography and the internets illusion of connection
I think loneliness is certainly a big factor, I find that mixed with the ease of accessibility to the material the most dangerous.
 
'NOTHING COULD BE MORE NATURAL' Kinky mum-of-three watches 60 hours of porn films a week leaving teenage son with household chores while she’s upstairs having ‘me time’


 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
'NOTHING COULD BE MORE NATURAL' Kinky mum-of-three watches 60 hours of porn films a week leaving teenage son with household chores while she’s upstairs having ‘me time’


Three kids with three different fathers. Color me surprised!
 
'NOTHING COULD BE MORE NATURAL' Kinky mum-of-three watches 60 hours of porn films a week leaving teenage son with household chores while she’s upstairs having ‘me time’

This looks a lot like a fake story. The alleged facts fit incredibly well with the mainstream narrative intended to keep us in slavery.

It's in the "George Orwell" vein : as in "War is peace, Slavery is freedom", you have "porn is natural", "addiction is healthy" etc. They're overdoing it a little bit in my opinion, with all those "nothing could be more natural ..."
and "Every 17-year-old in the world watches porn". The lady doth protest too much, as E. Michael Jones would say ...

On the other hand, the story might be partially true, as the woman does look psychologically messed up on the photos.
 

Rob Banks

Pelican
...the story might be partially true, as the woman does look psychologically messed up on the photos.
Her physiognomy is spot on. Lines up perfectly with what you'd expect (only worse and more off-putting).

Her kids will (and probably already do) have severe psychological problems when it comes to sex and pair bonding.
 
Fed Up Mom Calls Cops On Porn-Watching Teen

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The news piece does not say if there is a husband/father in the home, but I suspect there is not. I personally think she did the right thing calling the police considering how supposedly he was getting very out of control and repeatedly acting out, which included stealing. I hope the officers who responded had the right personal background to have a good heart to heart with the young man.

 

Rob Banks

Pelican
Fed Up Mom Calls Cops On Porn-Watching Teen

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The news piece does not say if there is a husband/father in the home, but I suspect there is not. I personally think she did the right thing calling the police considering how supposedly he was getting very out of control and repeatedly acting out, which included stealing. I hope the officers who responded had the right personal background to have a good heart to heart with the young man.

Calls cops on son for viewing porn.

Shows entire chest (including lots of cleavage) in Facebook pic published on news site.
 
Why Millennials Love Anime and Hentai Pornography

What parents need to be aware of when it comes to Anime porn.


"For children and young adults who are a growing segment of the viewership, their understanding of healthy sexuality can be distorted as imagery of sexual violence, abuse, and degradation are merged with entertainment. One 16-year-old girl explains her experience watching Hentai: "As an innocent girl who had rarely seen a naked body, the exaggerated childlike women and bold, confident men portrayed in the cartoons ensnared me at once. I was drawn in by the fantasies. The more I watched, the more violent ones I saw, the darker my thoughts about sex and relationships became. BDSM, rape, abuse…all became appealing to me."

"As a psychotherapist who specializes in sexuality, one trend I've seen over the years is how prolonged viewing of sexualized cartoon images like Hentai can eventually impact one's arousal template. In other words, what they used to find arousing may no longer be enough and the more deviant forms of sexualization become the new norm of arousal."

 
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