Well fellas, I can finally browse this thread. I am in the 40+ demographic.
Amazingly, you're the only other person I've really heard say (or type) this, which has always been tremendously important to me. I've gone out with girls that I've enjoyed the company of, but deep down I always said to myself, "I can't be with someone with that name." I know that sounds funny, but I'm dead serious. And I know where it comes from - funny how much impact your parents can have on you.
Sounds to me like you are Low on the SMV scale. If you are an unattractive man you will have to import a girlfriend/wife from a 3rd world country, BUT !! before you do that, please do everything in your power to maximize your looks and your personality, don't be a socially awkward weirdo that is unpleasant to be around.Gents, I am lonely, very lonely. Have any of you given up and just settled? i'm so lonely it might just be good for me to settle for a 45 year old 5. You guys over 45 who can go out with 50 year old women are lucky believe it or not, I consider you guys graced. I knew a couple of guys like that , I couldn't believe the women I saw them with, and now, I realize that they were the fortunate ones.
If you have not mastered any of the topics above then you are not ready for dating (despite how nice, smart and intellectual you think you may be).
- Hygiene (Teeth, Nails, Body Odor, perineal care)
- Hairstyle + Facial hair + Body Hair
- Muscular physique
- Skin care (Cleansers, Toners, Serums, Moisturizers, Sunscreen)
DudeI just turned 48 and don't know if I'll ever date again. Looking out at the current landscape, there isn't much out there. I feel really bad for the younger guys coming up in this toxic culture.
I have the same feeling about a specific name.Amazingly, you're the only other person I've really heard say (or type) this, which has always been tremendously important to me. I've gone out with girls that I've enjoyed the company of, but deep down I always said to myself, "I can't be with someone with that name." I know that sounds funny, but I'm dead serious. And I know where it comes from - funny how much impact your parents can have on you.
A better question would be: what do you really get out of dating?Dude
That's the wrong attitude.
Why shouldn't you date again?
Yes - selection is not good, but from my experience you may probably look further and try new grounds.
I'm almost your age and don't see any issue.
I was 59 (and I’m not rich and I’m average in looks and build, but I am intelligent and well-read) when I went out with a reasonably beautiful woman age 32 also living in France. I think it’s down to the mindset. I went out with her to have fun and to get over my previous girlfriend with whom I fell in love. I recognised that with the age difference it was not likely to work. We enjoyed our times together. And she opened the opportunity to my going out with a very beautiful woman (not just external beauty) age 49 with whom we’re looking forward to marry )))Once you get into your late 30's and above , unless you are in good physical shape and a good looking guy and/or have considerable amounts of money/power/influence/fame chances are that you will not be picking up too many women in the age range of 20 -30.
It's possible , but its also alot more difficult.
What you are also faced with is a plethora of desperate single mothers , divorcees (with or without kids) trying to latch onto a man , unatractive/obese women that noone wants , women with personality disorders that have been on the "fucked and dumped" cycle, and the plain crazy.
A better question would be: what do you really get out of dating?
I'm just saying many times that is the case. I worked for a company years ago where all of the young women swooned over this guy who was a total dirt bag. Nothing about this guy was attractive and he had sex with every hot young woman in the place. Turns out they were having sex with him because he gave them free drugs to do so.Cynic ...
I'm biased towards certain names too. I always wanted to date a Heather, but for some reason I can never meet them. Usually, the girls I end up clicking with have lame, un-sexy names like Cathy...and I can honestly say that it irks me.