Older Guys (40+)

Going strong

Crow
Gold Member
My friend, may I ask if you believe in God?

I'm 46, two failed marriages, and had come to terms with finishing my life alone.

I prayed to God that if it was His will that I live alone, then I'd do the best I could to serve Him in that position.

Without writing a novel here, I'll tell you that the Holy Spirit overwhelmingly directed me to Vietnam. I met my fiancée in a place I never thought possible. We have an 8 month old son that has given me purpose. My fiancée is a devoted Christian, knows the truth about this world, submissive, and dedicated to her role in the hierarchy.

While I led her in sin by having premarital sex (I've repented and will not have intercourse again until married), there is no denying the gifts that the Lord has blessed me with. I had a hard time with having a mixed child, but he's a beautiful boy.

I understand the difficulty finding a good woman in the west and I'm handsome and workout daily. I found that I couldn't connect with many western women on the inside. Thats really where it matters imo.

Don't give up. Pray
You were "46 and single and wanting to find a good submissive wife" , and "the Holy Spirit" urgently sent you to Vietnam??

Well, seems like the "Holy Spirit" has played it safe and wisely with you. For Vietnam/Phils it had to be, indeed.
 
You were "46 and single and wanting to find a good submissive wife" , and "the Holy Spirit" urgently sent you to Vietnam??

Well, seems like the "Holy Spirit" has played it safe and wisely with you. For Vietnam/Phils it had to be, indeed.

I've heard so many stories about Vietnamese women over there being extremely unfaithful to their partners, and essentially, prostitutes for hire. And even the educated and middle class women being that way! And so I am very happy for you finding a good one.

My partner's company sent a work group over to Vietnam, and they were shocked by how attractive women of almost all socio-economic backgrounds hit on them for money.
 

Going strong

Crow
Gold Member
I've heard so many stories about Vietnamese women being extremely unfaithful to their partners, and essentially, prostitutes for hire. And even the educated and middle class are that way.

Replace in the sentence above, "Vietnamese women"with "women educated in the West and posting on Instagram".

I mean, as if Vietnamese women, in general, were more corrupted than Western women... I contend that Western women are, obviously, the most decadent, slutty, vain, rude, Godless and useless creatures, by far, generally speaking and barring a few exceptions.
 

Solitarius

Sparrow
Women are treacherous the world over, you'll always be taking a terrible chance with them. I like to compare marrying one to the following scenario; imagine that there is a man standing in front of you, he's got a double-barrelled 10 bore shotgun with both hammers cocked pointed at your guts. He tells you that the cartridge in one barrel is harmless, it is loaded with gold dust but has no primer or powder, the other however has primer, powder & buckshot. Your invited to guess which barrel has the gold dust, left or right. Whichever barrel you choose will have its trigger pulled at once, if you guessed right you get the gold dust, if not your guts are splattered all over the wall behind you. Perhaps it'd help to flip a coin ha ha.
 

Going strong

Crow
Gold Member
Women are treacherous the world over, you'll always be taking a terrible chance with them. I like to compare marrying one to the following scenario; imagine that there is a man standing in front of you, he's got a double-barrelled 10 bore shotgun with both hammers cocked pointed at your guts. He tells you that the cartridge in one barrel is harmless, it is loaded with gold dust but has no primer or powder, the other however has primer, powder & buckshot. Your invited to guess which barrel has the gold dust, left or right. Whichever barrel you choose will have its trigger pulled at once, if you guessed right you get the gold dust, if not your guts are splattered all over the wall behind you. Perhaps it'd help to flip a coin ha ha.
That's exactly the situation, except the guy with the shotgun will shot both barrels at you, whatever you've chosen. So you'll get some smattering of gold but you'll also get the lead, guaranteed, if you marry a "modern" Instagram woman in a wealthy country.

Depending on which one travels faster in the air, gold grains or lead pellets, you'll get a moment of joy, though, maybe. But the lead is coming, Instagram/Facebook have made sure of this.
 

Blade Runner

Ostrich
Orthodox
The sad truths. I look at those attention whore models/posters occasionally and wonder if they ever think about their own future, or is it that they don't ever consider that they'll look differently in the future, and they aren't actually doing anything of substance. Beyond that, is it that they think fleeting sexual desire/seduction will attract a mate that treats them as anything BUT an object? Do they not understand that if you don't DO anything to help or complement a man, he will never see you as anything but that? I'm sadly guessing they never spend time thinking about any of this.
 
The sad truths. I look at those attention whore models/posters occasionally and wonder if they ever think about their own future, or is it that they don't ever consider that they'll look differently in the future, and they aren't actually doing anything of substance. Beyond that, is it that they think fleeting sexual desire/seduction will attract a mate that treats them as anything BUT an object? Do they not understand that if you don't DO anything to help or complement a man, he will never see you as anything but that? I'm sadly guessing they never spend time thinking about any of this.

Worldly beautiful women in their twenties think subconsciously that they will be young forever! Lol And as nagging thoughts of reality start building, they block them out the best they can...
 

Blade Runner

Ostrich
Orthodox
Worldly beautiful women in their twenties think subconsciously that they will be young forever! Lol And as nagging thoughts of reality start building, they block them out the best they can...
It seems to be the only explanation. What's funny is that they act like they don't know what men are attracted by (their 20s) when older, not having it anymore. The lack of honesty or desire to inform other women not to fall into the same trap/foolishness is the part that bothers me the most, but I know the answer: emotion always dominates for women, not truth (unless directed properly).
 
It seems to be the only explanation. What's funny is that they act like they don't know what men are attracted by (their 20s) when older, not having it anymore. The lack of honesty or desire to inform other women not to fall into the same trap/foolishness is the part that bothers me the most, but I know the answer: emotion always dominates for women, not truth (unless directed properly).

But fortunately, there are more and more formerly feminist women, who are speaking out online about how they were deceived by the philosophy of feminism and its proponents, and had their lives ruined. I think we will see more of this as time goes by and vast numbers of women become extremely embittered.
 
I've heard so many stories about Vietnamese women over there being extremely unfaithful to their partners, and essentially, prostitutes for hire. And even the educated and middle class women being that way! And so I am very happy for you finding a good one.

My partner's company sent a work group over to Vietnam, and they were shocked by how attractive women of almost all socio-economic backgrounds hit on them for money.

Would not surprise me. There was a survey done by Durex as to which nationality was the most unfaithful. Thai women came in second in the world, after Ghana's women.

Maybe they're just more honest.

 

mehdreamer

Sparrow
I joined the 40+ club since yesterday. It feels weird because this is a symbolic cap for most men.
I didn't have a date since 2 years. My last relationship broke something in me..
I am very rusty in terms of social interactions, online dating is absolutely terrible for me and I get no matches worth interest..

10 years ago, online dating wasn't that bad for me.

I still look 30+ ish thanks to my berber genes. My hair is greying but my skin is still decent.
I have no interest for women at my age. I find women in their early twenties a bit immature and I feel no connection with them. My soft spot would be 27-33 and that's the target age I will be looking for
 
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I get about the same about of attention I do at 54 as I did at 24 and 34. Which is zero. If anything it's even less.
Same here Richard.I've never felt like any girls wanted me to approach them.Maybe its the way they are,they want men to approach them so they can feel powerful.And women/younger women feel entitled to the top tier of guys,those with status,money,looks,prowess in sports etc.I've always felt to shy to put myself out there just to be judged by the callous,mercenary female sex.If we suffer here on Earth in this regard then maybe in Heaven we will have a decent young woman,I surely hope so.I never wanted females for sex like many of my friends,I just wanted a nice decent girl to be my companion.Some of the dates I did have seemed put off that I didnt want sex with them right away and would drop me instantly.I sure don't understand this world.Its so different than my parents,grand pararents and great grandparents world.They all stayed married and loved each other and got along well.No fights,no hurtful words,just working together like God intended.This time we are in is awful indeed.
 
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