Older Guys: What Are Your Challenges Dating Younger Women?

[velkrum]

how do you cope now with these girls constantly looking at their phone while they're out with you?

Multiple women checking their phones indicates you may NOT be an attractive man.

Women sometimes have their friends perform an "emergency exit text/call" allowing them too abruptly leave and never speak to you again; if she likes you she will apologize, turn off the phone, and focus on you for the rest of the date.

Constant cell phone checking means women are not interested in looking at you. You either enjoy the rest of the date (as much as you can) or politely end it.

When the date is over you will need to regroup and really start to focus on ways to improve your attractiveness. I would hold off on dating until you start receiving positive attention from your looks.

• Hygiene (Teeth, Nails, Body Odor, perineal care)
• Scent
• Hairstyle + Facial hair + Body Hair
• Muscular physique
• Skin care (Cleansers, Toners, Serums, Moisturizers, Sunscreen)
• Style/Clothing

If you have not mastered any of the topics above then you are not ready for dating (despite how nice, smart and intellectual you think you may be).

 

[R.G.Camara]

For those of you over 40, what have your experiences or challenges been like when dating women under 30?

Do you lie about your age up front?
Do you get along with her friends?
Have you met her parents and what was their reaction to you dating their daughter?
Do you hate her music and constantly fight over the radio dial?
Did you both enjoy the same activities when going out?

One of the girls I dated from a few years back was in her late 20s while I was over a decade older than her. We met through an online dating service. She was a 6.5 at best so I wasn't really that into her and at the time and just wanted some dating practice.

I hated her music and always made her listen to 80s songs instead. She also had this thing about keeping me away from her friends as she didn't trust them around guys she dated. Probably thought I'd cheat on her as the only time she suggested doing something involving her friends was when we went on a double date.

When I first met her, I lied about my age. Weeks later, I revealed it one night at a restaurant before dinner arrived. She said, "Wait...I need a moment to process this." That was followed by a slew of questions about why I lied...etc. She then had to go talk it over with her shrink to see what she said about the whole thing. Her shrink told her the age difference was no big deal so we continued to date until we mutually broke up a few months later.

These days, I'm still unsure about how to handle the age problem. Ideally, I want to just tell the truth up front but I'm at the age now where that will scare off a bunch of the younger ones.

Anyhow, what are your experiences like with these younger women?

Never lie about anything, including your age. It's a sin for a reason.

If a woman's going to disqualify you for your age, so be it. There is decent percentage of woman who will marry significantly older men, so lying gets you nothing you couldn't get somewhere else, but it creates mistrust. If she asks, be honest. If she doesn't, don't worry, she already knows. You can tease or playfully make her guess if she does ask, but don't lie. And trying to remember your own lies so you can keep up the ruse is a losing, exhausting game.

Yes, we'd all appreciate a youthful woman who can bear many children easily, just as all women would prefer a rich, confident, powerful man to be the father of her children, but if you have to deceive to get it you're not getting it, you're stealing it.

Honestly, I'm proud of my age like when I was a little kid or teenager. "I'm 8! I'm 6 and ahalf!" "I'm 30!" I've gotten this far, its fun to celebrate what God has allowed me to live.

"Let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no."

 

[R.G.Camara]

Multiple women checking their phones indicates you may NOT be an attractive man.

Women sometimes have their friends perform an "emergency exit text/call" allowing them too abruptly leave and never speak to you again; if she likes you she will apologize, turn off the phone, and focus on you for the rest of the date.

Constant cell phone checking means women are not interested in looking at you. You either enjoy the rest of the date (as much as you can) or politely end it.

When the date is over you will need to regroup and really start to focus on ways to improve your attractiveness. I would hold off on dating until you start receiving positive attention from your looks.

• Hygiene (Teeth, Nails, Body Odor, perineal care)
• Scent
• Hairstyle + Facial hair + Body Hair
• Muscular physique
• Skin care (Cleansers, Toners, Serums, Moisturizers, Sunscreen)
• Style/Clothing

If you have not mastered any of the topics above then you are not ready for dating (despite how nice, smart and intellectual you think you may be).

Disagree. Most young women 25 and under grew up with screens constantly at the ready to be checked. They don't even consider it rude, its just something they're programmed to do. They need to be taught better, but most simply don't know and are too distracted by bright shiny lights and celebrity gossip. So allow some leeway, they are like Pavlov's dog.

Plus many women use them to feign disinterest in a guy so as not to seem too eager. It's an insane game women are taught to play by our insane society.

Now, if she looks at it completely and doesn't even look at you when she talks, then she's not interested. Simply move along and tell her thank you.

 

[nomadbrah]

Hairline.