Seeker79
Kingfisher
It's humble bragging. She wants to signal to her friends how attractive she is.
Online dating in 2007 vs now: what happened?
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Correct, you aren't protected by anything.
There are very small numbers of religious women at this point (generation) of America that are interested in family/marriage over career in some capacity (especially if they are good looking). It's not all their fault, as it is the current of the culture, but certain people should understand this and try to combat it. That's why it is true that things won't change until you shelve the culture that says women's careers and economic dreams are important; they aren't. At most, they should be a supplement. The natural result of understanding good matchmaking is precisely what all of us have said: 10+ year age gaps with established men who are virtuous and want to marry someone who is worth marrying. Not divorced, not players who had their shot, etc. It's another level of disgusting that they don't even want to marry a good man and not worry about economics. That's how bad it really is and how fake this generation truly is, since anyone with sense knows this charade of women in the workplace, among other things, can't last since by definition it only progresses with the decline of culture and country.
FWIW some aspects of "game" can be helpful especially if you are a noob entering a relationship for the first time. I learnt a lot about holding masculine frame and igniting interest this way and I gained much needed confidence.
However using "game" for casual sex and meeting random women on the street for a couple of hours a day is not helpful at all and ultimately makes an individual part of the problem causing our societies decay instead of trying to fix it.
I probably should have clarified this in my earlier post.
Interesting, what made him think he couldn’t get doxxed by the MSM?
Almost every guy out there who doesn’t live under a rock is aware of the ongoing MeToo movement and the fine line that get you there. It’s especially risky when dealing with bitchy women, as their poor attitude has likely gone unchecked to date. Women like this are very used to getting their way in life and will feel justified in whatever they decide to do with your contact information and communications history. They can do this all on an emotional whim.
YES. This post here. Preach, brother. I'm off all apps too. Can't lose if you don't play. Sometimes, the winning move is to step aside and watch everyone else ride the roller coaster.
What I can say is that niche sites are the best approach for any guy who just wants a happy, healthy, functional relationship. If you're Muslim, go on a Muslim app; if you're black, go on a black dating app; if you're a redneck, go on rednecklove, etc. Sure, it will be impossible to meet a Christian girl as a Muslim guy, or a white guy as a black girl, or a city person as a redneck, when you're on these niche apps, but you will find people who value finding someone from the same culture or ethnic/racial background, and it's a lot less disheartening than trying your luck on Tinder.
I went on Tinder and got 6 matches (minus bots and cam girls) after 6 weeks. I went on an ethnic app for the community I belong to and had 120 matches in the same amount of time. And from those matches, about 20% weren't shy to initiate contact, and I got replies from nearly 75% of all the women I messaged. And I'm still single.
I'm off all apps now because the girls are all the same (same insecurities, same problems, same fears), on these apps. I want to meet someone a little more organically, via church conferences, or connections of mutual friends. I'm even open to meeting someone online via FB or IG if it's not forced and happens naturally. But consider what I'm saying and maybe some of it will be applicable to you
Jünger
Ostrich
Niche site, seems nonwoke looking at their Twitter account
www.rooshvforum.com
Going back to the land
The forum turned in a more spiritual direction for the past few months and didn't see a thread related to this topic, which I find odd cause for me they are connected. I feel like the more you head towards God, the more you want a simple life close to nature. Here is a video that shows...
LawTalkingGuy
Robin
I've found that women who are 8-10 on looks, especially those who know it, typically refuse to use data apps because they have an ego thing going and they cannot bring themselves to admit that their inability to keep the interest of a high-value man is due to the fact that their looks can get the attention of any man but their personality cannot keep a high value man interested and they won't settle for a 5-7 man who might tolerate their nonsensical drama because he is so enamored at the thought of having an 8-10 woman.
I've seen women who are 8-10 on looks, but with a bitter nasty contentious personality [let's rank them a 0-2 on personality] who can get offers for hook-ups, propositioned, casual dates, from anybody and everybody under the Sun, but they never get offers of long-term commitment from the sort of men they want to be in a long-term relationship with, and if they get the offer, they tend to blow it in short order by being too demanding and high maintenance.
LawTalkingGuy
Robin
A lot of what it boils down to is that so many young men have been taught to find meaning and purpose in a woman and with a woman. Their entire existence winds up centered around a relationship with a woman instead of a relationship with God, a relationship with themselves, and a career/job/calling.
A man who makes women the center of his world will fail in everything and will never be more than an inadequate broken man. These sort of men are easily molded by women into being accessories for her to dress and photograph for her social media feed.
A woman compliments a man's life, she should never become his life.
LawTalkingGuy
Robin
I consider women who tattoo themselves as having selected against themselves for marriage/reproduction. I find tattoos, especially on women, to be absolutely repulsive.
Imagine Catherine Deneuve in the 1960s with full sleeve tattoos and tats on her neck. Imagine Audrey Hepburn with her face and legs covered in tattoos.
It is like slapping a bunch of hideous bumper sticks on a classic Ferrari or scratching initials and slogans on the frame and into the barrel of a Luger or a Colt Python. It is disgusting.
You don't have to go back that far to realize how catastrophic internet dating, social media and technology made dating for the majority of men. Most people dated and married people on the same level as looks and body composition as them even in the mid 90s. An Obese 2 landwhale woman dated an obese 2 landwhale man. A slim 5/10 guy dated a slim 5/10 gal etc. Remember, dating apps have been pushed to be the singular most tolerable way of dating nowadays. So what does that mean? According to newer studies, 80% of women share 4% of men in terms of interaction on Tinder. Yes, you heard right... the 80/20 OKCupid stats are actually outdated.
Facebook's new dating side-business will only match you with trans.
If you are still on Facebook, delete.
If you are still on Facebook, delete.
Facebook's new dating side-business will only match you with trans.
If you are still on Facebook, delete.
Fits perfectly, as "dating" itself was invented by the gay. Full circle.
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Jünger
Ostrich
Hookup culture needs more devilish ‘Sex Magicians’ to thrive: author
Could this occult practice be the key to better sex?
nypost.com
Only one answer to that.Facebook's new dating side-business will only match you with trans.
If you are still on Facebook, delete.
Please correct me if I am wrong, but after reading these and others topics, I almost get the impression that there are no real Christian 'dating' sites in the United States. I hope that this observation indeed wrong, because such dating sites even exist in the largely non-religious country that I live in (somewhere in Europe). And as my parish priest told me, in a rapidly secularizing society, and especially during the 'pandemic', Christian dating sites are a blessing. Where else can you meet other Christians when not only the World, but even many churches/parishes are in lockdown?
At any rate, here are some points that I would like to share with the forum. I learned these lessons the hard way, so I hope they are of some benefit to others and can diminish a bit of the dating hardship. (I am currently dating/courting a young lady that I met via a Christian dating site, so these lessons actually appear to work for me.)
1. Do not go on a Secular dating site (or app). Just don't. Only go on an explicitly Christian dating site (or a couple of sites) and get an actual paid membership of a month. Many dating sites offer discounts after a while, so only get a longer membership if the site has relatively many members and it is worth the investment. And share with others on the forum which dating sites work 'best'! These could actually be Protestant ones; luckily, many Protestants are open to Catholics and the Orthodox.
2. Understand that finding a spouse is not a 'right' that one has or can 'earn'; rather, it is an act of God's grace. It took some time before this insight actually resonated in me, but I am more than grateful for the priest who explained this to me. This understanding really helps to diminish the angst that many of not most people feel when dating. It could very well be that God has something else for you in store.
3. Do not date differently than you would do outside of the pandemic, but also do not date someone who does. In fact, I would argue that the pandemic did not change much for Christian courtship anyways, since our Faith requires us to be modest in relation to the opposite sex. But you do want to court someone who keeps calm when the world goes mad. In this regard, the pandemic is even a blessing in disguise.
4. Do not date someone who has serious red flags (see other topics for those). And do not date a woman who is older than you (and vice versa, women should not date men who are younger than they are). And do not 'rationalize' these red flags 'away' merely because you fancy someone. Keep true to your-Self and to God.
At any rate, here are some points that I would like to share with the forum. I learned these lessons the hard way, so I hope they are of some benefit to others and can diminish a bit of the dating hardship. (I am currently dating/courting a young lady that I met via a Christian dating site, so these lessons actually appear to work for me.)
1. Do not go on a Secular dating site (or app). Just don't. Only go on an explicitly Christian dating site (or a couple of sites) and get an actual paid membership of a month. Many dating sites offer discounts after a while, so only get a longer membership if the site has relatively many members and it is worth the investment. And share with others on the forum which dating sites work 'best'! These could actually be Protestant ones; luckily, many Protestants are open to Catholics and the Orthodox.
2. Understand that finding a spouse is not a 'right' that one has or can 'earn'; rather, it is an act of God's grace. It took some time before this insight actually resonated in me, but I am more than grateful for the priest who explained this to me. This understanding really helps to diminish the angst that many of not most people feel when dating. It could very well be that God has something else for you in store.
3. Do not date differently than you would do outside of the pandemic, but also do not date someone who does. In fact, I would argue that the pandemic did not change much for Christian courtship anyways, since our Faith requires us to be modest in relation to the opposite sex. But you do want to court someone who keeps calm when the world goes mad. In this regard, the pandemic is even a blessing in disguise.
4. Do not date someone who has serious red flags (see other topics for those). And do not date a woman who is older than you (and vice versa, women should not date men who are younger than they are). And do not 'rationalize' these red flags 'away' merely because you fancy someone. Keep true to your-Self and to God.
I think a lot of the "christian" dating sites are well intentioned, but they suffer from several issues: overwhelmingly 30-45 yo women, uncertain connections even though commonalities should be there (you don't know the family, sorta the point of church), invasion by fake outside profiles, etc. Many of these would be worth a shot but the activation energy is tough because you do need a bit of a barrier (cost) to make it worthwhile, but for the guys paying for nominal/old western women (even if your own religion) seems silly.
Pretty good overview:
Yes, I have experienced those isuses myself as well. To some degree, these issues can be managed. I personally do not date ladies above 30 (at least not until I am 40) and prevented them from contacting me (some sites provide that option). I could do this, because most professing/practising Christians in my country are female (although most of them are Evangelical, and thus rather Wordly), and this is also reflected in the demographics on Christian dating sites here (55% women and 45% men). The invasion of fake profiles is diminished significantly once there is a subscription treshhold (luckily, the site that I am costs only EUR 30,- a year, as it is a non-profit). But online dating still feels like Orpheus travelling to the Underworld to retrieve Eurydice.
Some realistic points, but tries to hard to be in the "middle" or "compromise" state. As such, he is compromised. If I didn't have to log into youtube, I would have commented on his lisp as being an obvious tell for him having little chances. It's like an audio physiognomy. I would hope to be proved wrong, but doubt it.
I wonder if these guys realize there are too many men out there relative to women, which created the bad culture in the first place, once we lost faith and tradition it was over easy peezy for the bad boys of society.