Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Anxiety

[Mr.GoodThread]

Thanks for the explanations and theory. I just wish that I didn't have to live in a society where I needed to wear condoms so that:

"Simple phrases like "I need you inside me" or "I want you to cum inside me"

held more weight.

 

[bk19xsa]

I have similar issues and I need to fix them. I used to watch porn a lot and had no issues till last year keeping it up.

But now I face few issues: When I am hard I can go on for a long time. The girls usually orgasm but they get exhausted and start getting frustrated when I am not able to ejaculate after 40 mins. I have to always lie down in a certain position with the girl and jerk off myself till I ejaculate.

The other issue is I can only do raw when I am hard. Sometimes not only do I not get hard but most of the times, as soon as I put on a condom then down it goes and its very hard (no pun intended) to get it up again.

I lift, am athletic and muscular and believe have decent amount of testosterone. I jerk off twice a day through porn at average on the days I am not having sex. Sometimes even on the days I have had sex, I still jerk off twice, especially once before going to sleep.

I have now cut that down to once a day since the past two weeks.

Yesterday I had jerked off only once early morning. Had a good gym session later in the day. Ate well throughout. Late in the night, a bumble 5, who I matched with recently, suddenly asked me to comeover. I felt I was up for it. I felt not too tired though it was way past my bedtime. After the usual getting to know each other chit chat, we go inside her bedroom , put netflix and I go for it. She can feel I am hard in my pants. I go down on her. She orgasms. And then she goes down on me but I am not hard. I have no idea why. She then takes some time giving me a hj plus bj and gets me almost hard. I know this chick won't fuck without a condom so I open one and as soon as I try putting it on, down the erection goes. We keep trying and again repeat the same things. Next condom. Same result. Eventually I ejaculate through jerking off (again not fully hard while I cum). No intercourse and two nice magnum condoms wasted.

This is not the first time this has happened and these issues are happening quite often now. And its not only killing my repeat value with girls but also I am unable to enjoy myself. I do not know if its psychological or physiological.

Should I just stop masturbating and stop watching porn? I have a strong libido and if I do that then throughout the day, I would feel uneasy and anxious. I am 33 and I do not want to take Viagra or Cialis yet.

I take ZMA sometimes before night and L Arginine and L Citrulline before breakfast. I feel it does help with my morning wood and when I fuck my regular plate raw in the morning. But the sensitivity issue still remains.

What other ways can I improve , getting not only good erections but more importantly, maintaining ones while wearing condoms and developing the sensitivity to ejaculate without self jerking off as well as through intercourse while wearing a condom?

 

[semibaron]

At times I even fapped on Tinder. Getting a match with a decent chick is sufficient to release a huge amount of dopamine.

Best to quit it all. Instagram, Tinder, Porn. Get rid of it.

 

[Sailor87]

Porn induced ED is very real. Even if you dont get ED it will make real sex less enjoyable.

I reached a point one time where I was unable to have sex in real life, I could get it up, but it would go down again quickly, even if I took viagra it didnt help much. It was a very hard time, since I didnt know what was causing it, and depression certainly doesnt help the situation. Then I found out about PIED, and decided to quit watching porn and do a "reboot" for 90 days with no masturbation. I thought it would be very difficult to abstain, but after a week or so I hit the "flatline", where you just feel no sexual desire. This lasted for 2 months or so, just total radio silence from the crotch. I lasted the 90 days, and when I returned to real life sex the problem was gone, but like some of you guys I couldnt last very long.

I quit watching porn for a good year, but then about 7-8 months ago I relapsed. I had smoked weed and my will was weak, and I gave myself all sorts of excuses for watching just one time.. Fast forward a few months and I was back on the wagon watching hardcore stuff daily, so naturally the PIED showed its ugly face again. As of today I have not watched porn for a little over 3 weeks, not fapped for about a week and I intend on abstaining from fapping again for 90 days. And obviously never watch porn again in my life.

For me one of the triggers is smoking weed, my will seems to become weak while my mind becomes lustfull. Its a shame because I really enjoy a joint once in a while, but if I cant stay on the path I will have to ditch that too. It obviously sucks big time to loose the ability to have sex in real life, you become a shadow of yourself..