I think we are on different pages. I have no desire to be super rich or "successful". I just want financial security. And the advice I want to get to other men, especially young White men, is hard to put together.Brother every successful man I know including myself works 7 days a week, unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or you just got dumb lucky with something every adult man I know who has done well in life works every day. Sure you might take a vacation here and there you might even get married and have kids but barring a special occasion/circumstance you are at work. I just left my warehouse and I'm down in my basement office doing more work, I would rather do this than go watch TV or something. You could do everything you say you're missing out on, just get some random 40 hour a week job take a sick/vacation day whenever and do that but you want more than that life right? I could do the same, I can go get some random job and have all the free time in the world but I don't want to live like that, I want more.
I have tell you, in regards to a business you are dead wrong in your assessment it is actually the complete opposite of what you are saying. I know more people that have opened businesses in the past 5 years than at any point in my life to an extreme degree, a wide range of businesses, and they have all done well some incredibly well, people and relatives I know personally. I currently run two businesses at the moment and I feel like I missed out by not venturing into something new the past few years, all my relatives blew past me with their businesses. I'm actually planning on selling one to do just that, take on a new challenge that I have in mind....two actually but one for sure. Wall street and the government don't have anything to do with it, you're not going to start a multi national conglomerate and hell if you do then god bless you, you'll be happy to deal with those things. Small businesses have definitely not been told "tough luck" the past few years, they may not have gotten as much as the big guys but do you have any idea how much free money was handed out to worthless contribute nothing businesses the past few years? The numbers I could tell you would shock you, I'm talking from a dumpy little pizzeria to hotel owners they didn't even have to be struggling they all got handed big cash for nothing.....I know I got my share as much as I could. That one mom and pop shop that you heard about that shut down was because of their own doing in most cases because they didn't adapt and squandered their business, believe me it wasn't for a lack of handouts or available funding to prop them up.
I know we all get nostalgic for the past around here and societally it's true things were a lot better in the past there is no question about that but that is absolutely not true financially and especially business wise. The barriers to entry back in the 80's and 90's were insurmountable for just a common person, that's gone now there are multiple avenues for funding and peoples assets have skyrocketed. My family owned party stores growing up, "successful" party stores, and we were broke....dead flat broke even though we owned good stores. Those same stores today would have made us extremely wealthy and they would have huge value. My father worked 7 days a week, the idea of living in a big house, driving a new car or getting on a plane were pipe dreams to me when i was a kid those were things that only rich people had and did. Now everyone has and does those things, anyone who actually works anyway whereas before those things were out of reach for common people.
Brother I don't know your skillset or you personally to tell you what to do but this mindset you have needs to go, the craziest part is that the things you're saying the reality is actually the complete opposite.......get this stuff out of your head please for your own sake. Nobody is handcuffing you and nothing is holding you back it's just what you choose and how you choose.
I am very philosophical, as I said above, and I don't care how much money you are worth, if you are working 7 days a week (which I do), I don't consider you successful. I consider you successful when your money works for you, and you work when you want, where you want, or not at all. Now if you want to work 7 days a week, that is fine, but I can't imagine wanting to work 7 days a week, or a woman wanting to have children with a man who works 7 days a week and is never around for her or the kids.
TBH, I'm not looking for advice for myself. My time is passed. I am looking for advice to give to young men who ask me what I think they should do.
I think this a super productive back and forth, because at the end of the day this isn't a financial discussion, it is a philosophical discussion and that discussion is what is the value of work.