This is part of the cross we bear. We have to show up. It's not enjoyable, especially the more you know, but I think bearing this up is part of the point.I would rather completely miss the party, than show up to one I don't enjoy,
Brother every successful man I know including myself works 7 days a week, unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or you just got dumb lucky with something every adult man I know who has done well in life works every day.
Really? I work five days a week and probably spend more time doing routine household tasks during my work from home “workday” than actually coding or whatever. Nobody notices. Nobody cares. In eight years at my job I don’t think I’ve ever worked a single hour of overtime. There are long stretches of boring meetings and barely any work. My company makes a boatload of money anyway.
I have a wife and two kids, live at the edge of the suburbs, live on basically one income, and money isn’t really an issue for us. Am I that much of a freak? Is this really weird?
We only have one car and it’s cheap, with a ~$200 a month payment. Is that the trick?
Things are on a downward trend. That said, it doesn't affect how I operate or the choices I make. I would be doing the same things now if things were going upward instead.You have a point, maybe it is just me.
I ask that you answer these questions. "Do you think things will get better or worse going forward?".
If worse, where do you see the bottom? If better, what could make this situation better?
At my age, it has already made great impacts on both how I live and the decisions I make. The last 25 years have been a fall off a cliff I never expected.Things are on a downward trend. That said, it doesn't affect how I operate or the choices I make. I would be doing the same things now if things were going upward instead.
I've been seeing a lot of this lately. The world is getting so corrupted that most of the established careers out there are repulsive at least in some way to Christians, and people are getting disenchanted with the corporate ladder rat race thing we've been sold on and are just looking for something to do that will get them by without compromising morals.Then again, it is not my will but "Thy will be done", so it may not work out in the way I'm describing it and it could be something entirely different, so I have to be open to that possibility as well. Overall though, I'm feeling more inclined to blue-collar trades so I don't know why I chose the IT course to begin with. The money seemed attractive at the time, but this mercenary attitude feels wrong now and I'd rather get paid less doing something more nourishing, that could aid my worship to God through that work. It's been a radical re-orientation, knowing that through our work we are actively worshipping God and doing it for His glory, so manual jobs feel better suited to that, but I'm aware others are more suited for cerebral/tech-related fields and could work better for their own situation. Also I wouldn't want to be stuck in a dilemma of "quiet quitting", as this seems duplicitious but I don't judge people for doing so, given all the present conditions, it may be the more preferred option, as someone else pointed out.
A good friend of mine recently moved out of IT to work in a small privately owned lunch bar. While hard work, little pay, I have seen him become a lot more happy. After a few months he basically runs the place. Guess it's personal, but for him, no more screens, pure social interaction and a lot has given him a new joy in life.I'm currently enrolled in an IT career change platform which would take me from a place of no experience to becoming an IT technician while working towards becoming a Cybersecurity Analyst, in around two or three years of moving through the ranks and gaining the necessary experience. I have not contributed much to it so far, and it expires officially in a few months, though I can probably request an extension to get it done if needed. Initially the reason I chose this field was because the salary on offer within Cybersecurity could easily support an entire family, after even a few years experience while extending the option to remote working which could allow me a more seamless relocation in the near future, if I choose to do so.
However given the outlook on the IT industry as a whole and all the "quiet quitting" people have been doing, it doesn't look so attractive overall and I'm strongly considering other options. I suspect I would get the sense of feeling trapped in this industry, especially as those roles are mostly beholden to globohomo corporations and values, there's always the exception but it looks pretty dim. Recently I was listening to a homily with Elder Athanasius Mitilianaios about the joy of spreading the gospel to those we meet or work with and how we should try to do this more often as Orthodox -- I was reflecting on how the world of IT and the people attracted to it are not so hungry for the gospel message and are probably the most primed and ready for the NWO antichrist global system when it rolls out in the coming years.
I've been considering a jump into HGV/LGV driving instead, where at least there is some adventure, practical/blue-collar mindset and constant supply of work in varying roles -- at least I know that's the case here in the UK. Also I've seen a number of lorries (the British term for "truck") with Crucifix's or Christian themes attached to the dashboard in LED light displays or other religious/eccentric designs, and I could see myself in a much better place spiritually if I entered this world of lorry drivers and blue-collar workers (mostly men of course though they are trying to encourage more women to join, alas...), who at least would have a simpler worldview and be less swayed by all the globohomo movements, while possibly being more open to Orthodoxy. It wouldn't pay as well as Cybersecurity and I couldn't do it remotely, but at least I'd have more liberty out on the road, be engaged and could express my faith to others more freely.
I suppose I'm just talking myself out of doing this IT course and trying to ease the burden I feel, having already contributed some money towards it (which I can't claim back) but I want to make the right choice now and walk the correct path today, rather than ending up years down the wrong road and sorely regretting it.
Then again, it is not my will but "Thy will be done", so it may not work out in the way I'm describing it and it could be something entirely different, so I have to be open to that possibility as well. Overall though, I'm feeling more inclined to blue-collar trades so I don't know why I chose the IT course to begin with. The money seemed attractive at the time, but this mercenary attitude feels wrong now and I'd rather get paid less doing something more nourishing, that could aid my worship to God through that work. It's been a radical re-orientation, knowing that through our work we are actively worshipping God and doing it for His glory, so manual jobs feel better suited to that, but I'm aware others are more suited for cerebral/tech-related fields and could work better for their own situation. Also I wouldn't want to be stuck in a dilemma of "quiet quitting", as this seems duplicitious but I don't judge people for doing so, given all the present conditions, it may be the more preferred option, as someone else pointed out.
I've been seeing a lot of this lately. The world is getting so corrupted that most of the established careers out there are repulsive at least in some way to Christians, and people are getting disenchanted with the corporate ladder rat race thing we've been sold on and are just looking for something to do that will get them by without compromising morals.
Imagine being in any white collar field and telling yourself you're not going to work for LGBT advocating companies or companies that pay for abortions or otherwise are blasphemous or are doing research using aborted babies. You've instantly disqualified yourself for almost all of the biggest and highest paying tech, pharmaceutical, and finance related companies. And it seems to be encroaching on blue collar life as well.
Posing is indeed soul crushing. Basically it's fear, you know you are sinning, but personal interests are keeping you there, you can sell it to yourself, "Well everywhere it's the same", "Why do I need to be the one to speak up, anyhow I speak up more than others", "Security is also important", "If I say something I will be fired or worked out". But it is slowly gnawing at you.This is why I'm always professing starting a business or just taking your profession/skills and going off on your own. Owning a business is a lot to handle and it's risky but the alternative of staying as a corporate wage slave has become so toxic it's barely an option anymore.
I have a relative a few years younger than me that went to school to become a physical therapist, got the degree and got a high tier job at a great hospital doing really well comes from a old school hardcore Christian family as all my relatives do. Whenever I see him all he talks about is the soul sucking conditions with the woke and anti Christian garbage at work. He has a couple young kids so it's hard but he really wants to just abandon his profession altogether and go manage his brothers office, his brother is a neurosurgeon. The job as an office manager would be beneath his skillset and it would mean he wasted a decade of his life in school but he would rather do that than to have to be fake every day and put up with the garbage at the hospital. It seems to be consuming him he talks about it more and more every time I see him which I understand, I can only imagine what it's like to be forced to put up with a woke anti Christian agenda to preserve your livelihood.
Posing is indeed soul crushing. Basically it's fear, you know you are sinning, but personal interests are keeping you there, you can sell it to yourself, "Well everywhere it's the same", "Why do I need to be the one to speak up, anyhow I speak up more than others", "Security is also important", "If I say something I will be fired or worked out". But it is slowly gnawing at you.
Anyhow I know all about it.
Brother every successful man I know including myself works 7 days a week, unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or you just got dumb lucky with something every adult man I know who has done well in life works every day. Sure you might take a vacation here and there you might even get married and have kids but barring a special occasion/circumstance you are at work. I just left my warehouse and I'm down in my basement office doing more work, I would rather do this than go watch TV or something. You could do everything you say you're missing out on, just get some random 40 hour a week job take a sick/vacation day whenever and do that but you want more than that life right? I could do the same, I can go get some random job and have all the free time in the world but I don't want to live like that, I want more.
I have tell you, in regards to a business you are dead wrong in your assessment it is actually the complete opposite of what you are saying. I know more people that have opened businesses in the past 5 years than at any point in my life to an extreme degree, a wide range of businesses, and they have all done well some incredibly well, people and relatives I know personally. I currently run two businesses at the moment and I feel like I missed out by not venturing into something new the past few years, all my relatives blew past me with their businesses. I'm actually planning on selling one to do just that, take on a new challenge that I have in mind....two actually but one for sure. Wall street and the government don't have anything to do with it, you're not going to start a multi national conglomerate and hell if you do then god bless you, you'll be happy to deal with those things. Small businesses have definitely not been told "tough luck" the past few years, they may not have gotten as much as the big guys but do you have any idea how much free money was handed out to worthless contribute nothing businesses the past few years? The numbers I could tell you would shock you, I'm talking from a dumpy little pizzeria to hotel owners they didn't even have to be struggling they all got handed big cash for nothing.....I know I got my share as much as I could. That one mom and pop shop that you heard about that shut down was because of their own doing in most cases because they didn't adapt and squandered their business, believe me it wasn't for a lack of handouts or available funding to prop them up.
I know we all get nostalgic for the past around here and societally it's true things were a lot better in the past there is no question about that but that is absolutely not true financially and especially business wise. The barriers to entry back in the 80's and 90's were insurmountable for just a common person, that's gone now there are multiple avenues for funding and peoples assets have skyrocketed. My family owned party stores growing up, "successful" party stores, and we were broke....dead flat broke even though we owned good stores. Those same stores today would have made us extremely wealthy and they would have huge value. My father worked 7 days a week, the idea of living in a big house, driving a new car or getting on a plane were pipe dreams to me when i was a kid those were things that only rich people had and did. Now everyone has and does those things, anyone who actually works anyway whereas before those things were out of reach for common people.
Brother I don't know your skillset or you personally to tell you what to do but this mindset you have needs to go, the craziest part is that the things you're saying the reality is actually the complete opposite.......get this stuff out of your head please for your own sake. Nobody is handcuffing you and nothing is holding you back it's just what you choose and how you choose.