Regulating what your woman wears?

This girl I’ve been seeing and am unofficially engaged to doesn’t like the fact that I expect her to dress slightly more conservatively.

Is an off shoulder dress appropriate to wear to a meeting with clients? She says in her industry (advertising) its normal and I shouldn’t have a problem with it. I also noticed the other day that she wore a cute dress which showed a little cleavage and a decent amount of makeup to meet 2 of her colleagues and one client who are all males (which I didn’t get to know until later) at a bar. I obviously made a big issue out of it.

Is this me just being insecure or is there something more to it? Should I insist that she doesn’t show that type of skin when she isn’t with me?
 

testosterone

Sparrow
Of courses you want your woman to dress appropriately but its kind of normal in a Western country. I find women dress like this in order to increase their sales and cause women love attention. If she dresses this way before you meet her, she will continue to dress this way. You have to take people for who they are. They rarely change and if you change them, they nearly always go back to their old habits.

One of my old best friend's girlfriend use to wear the most slutty clothes on the planet. She would walk into a club and everyone would look at her. She was average looking. The clothes she worn you couldn't buy at a normal shop and kind of looked like bdsm clothes. She was a virgin and lost it to my mate and stayed loyal to him for 10 years until they broke up. Guys would hit on her and she wouldn't flirt back and push them away. She just wanted the attention.

Can you trust her? I think it's more important on how she act around other men? If she flirts with other men in front of you, you should dump her ASAP. There is relationship women and short term women. This is another thing I believe you should look at if you are proposing to marry her. Also, get feedback from friends and your parents. You normally get blinded by emotions in a relationship. Your parent's feedback is your best bet.

Always trust your gut!
 
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Of courses you want your woman to dress appropriately but its kind of normal in a Western country. I find women dress like this in order to increase their sales and cause women love attention.

When I worked in the corporate world there was a very important client who refused to have a lunch meeting or any other meeting with anyone else but a particular female executive. It was almost "respectable escorting".
 

GWYW2015

Woodpecker
This girl I’ve been seeing and am unofficially engaged to doesn’t like the fact that I expect her to dress slightly more conservatively.

Is an off shoulder dress appropriate to wear to a meeting with clients? She says in her industry (advertising) its normal and I shouldn’t have a problem with it. I also noticed the other day that she wore a cute dress which showed a little cleavage and a decent amount of makeup to meet 2 of her colleagues and one client who are all males (which I didn’t get to know until later) at a bar. I obviously made a big issue out of it.

Is this me just being insecure or is there something more to it? Should I insist that she doesn’t show that type of skin when she isn’t with me?
Good question. This won't be popular perhaps, but if she is going to be able to follow your lead then she needs to be able to show that before marriage.
 

Durden347

Robin
Of courses you want your woman to dress appropriately but its kind of normal in a Western country. I find women dress like this in order to increase their sales and cause women love attention. If she dresses this way before you meet her, she will continue to dress this way. You have to take people for who they are. They rarely change and if you change them, they nearly always go back to their old habits.

One of my old best friend's girlfriend use to wear the most slutty clothes on the planet. She would walk into a club and everyone would look at her. She was average looking. The clothes she worn you couldn't buy at a normal shop and kind of looked like bdsm clothes. She was a virgin and lost it to my mate and stayed loyal to him for 10 years until they broke up. Guys would hit on her and she wouldn't flirt back and push them away. She just wanted the attention.

Can you trust her? I think it's more important on how she act around other men? If she flirts with other men in front of you, you should dump her ASAP. There is relationship women and short term women. This is another thing I believe you should look at if you are proposing to marry her. Also, get feedback from friends and your parents. You normally get blinded by emotions in a relationship. Your parent's feedback is your best bet.

Always trust your gut!
Yep. Also that girl sort of reminds me of a girlfriend of one of my buddies. She would mostly dress in black, slutty outfits for the sake of attention. She ended up breaking up with my buddy and slept with my roommate who she had a short term fling with and went for another guy. She is also bisexual.
 

Hypno

Crow
Depends whose clients they are.

If they are your clients, she should be asking you how high she should jump. You can't procrastinate about asserting dominance.

If these are her clients, I would give her some space.
 
If a girl wears clothing that is sexually revealing to other guys it means that she is putting herself out there. In other words if a guy she meets can potentially Out-Chad you there is a good chance she will sleep with him in an instant.

A female who dresses seductively and is in a relationship will also be able to rationalise sleeping with another guy because in her head she will say "well if Steve really wanted me then he would have had more control of what I wear and how I interact with other men".

You should keep bringing the topic up a few more times but in a civil way without trying to cause an argument. If she is still defiant then you will have to make an ultimatum in which you explicitly state that you will leave her if she does not dress more appropriately. If she still disagrees then just run away without saying goodbye because you will have ditched a major headache for yourself down the road.
 
Unfortunately even what is now regarded as "normal" clothing is incredibly revealing. Roosh explores this well in American Pilgrim, the classic example being the super-tight and shaped yoga pants/leggings that are pretty much everywhere now. Most women wear them knowing full well that they are placing themselves on show and this is a form of sexy clothing as much as, if not more than, athletic clothing. I understand your discomfort, but it sounds like it could be a lot worse. I'm lucky in that my wife is a naturally modest dresser. However, I have two daughters and dread to think what fashions will prevail as they grow into their teens. That's when I'll really have to warm up my vocal chords.
 
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