Seems to me if you lean more secular and still wanna hang out,
alls ya gots t'do is stop doling out advice that leads people away from God.
As a woman, one of the things I notice most keenly is how some men will try to advise the young ladies that they don't actually need a Godly man, and that just submitting to a
strong/alpha man is enough (or even "better," they might insinuate). This seems to very typically go hand-in-hand with the "old forum mindset" that women are meant to go along with everything their men fancy (I hesitate to say "husbands" because these men are usually
scared of legal commitment), including indulging any and all "fantasies" even if they amount to sexual deviance, perversion, degeneracy, etc.
They take the relationship meant to exist between GOD and MAN (wherein man submits unquestioningly to the Will of God as the most high authority) and PERVERT IT by applying this format instead to the relationship between Woman and Man - and cutting God out of the equation entirely, so that the Man himself becomes the "highest authority," submitting to nobody and nothing save for his own disordered desires.
My husband just finished reading
The Sea Wolf, by Jack London, to me. The main antagonist, Wolf Larsen, is a pretty good illustration of this mindset taken to the extreme: "
might makes right," basically. That worked out for him about as well as can be expected. Good book; highly recommend.