Yes, I think because talking about sex openly (honestly and generally, not lewdly of course) is difficult in society, there isn't enough attention on your points. I also think that people drastically underestimate how far from ideal it is that careers, diminishment of matchmaking, or evaporating of family connections have led to many set ups for failure and the tough consequences. That is, beyond all the distractions, sex in society and media, etc "single too long," as you say, is almost never talked about. It's also funny that it's almost a foregone conclusion that one could just choose marriage - clearly the way that St. Paul writes that shows the time and culture differences, which are drastic. As if you can just say in this day and age, "Ok, tomorrow I'll marry, I finally see the light."
Back then, I think you actually could, it was pretty much a family transaction in many regards, of course with wisdom.
If you are a person, and a man especially, who is physical and doesn't shun it in an ascetic way (like monks), it is a real challenge. You get constant "urges" that are just part of your biology. One could say in many ways this peculiar fact of existence (testosterone is literally what makes the world go 'round on every level) is the origin of this forum, and remains the troubling, nagging or uncomfortable challenge that won't go away - How do I rightly direct this energy?