Forgive me for the length but I hope people find something in it:
As an inquirer into Orthodoxy, I realise that my primary focus needs to be on my principle marriage with the Bride of Christ: uniting with the Orthodox Church Herself. This is the foundation. God willing, this happens sooner rather than later! But I have been humbled many many times while attempting to start this process and thrown sideways and lengthways by the evil one, so patience is needed. Please pray for me.
Once this has been established, I will begin praying for a spouse.
Regarding those who are already Orthodox or wish to find their spouse desperately, I will share with everyone this bible passage along with additional commentary sent to a friend recently, and a short prayer below to use - I hope it will aid in your search for the perfect spouse to spend the rest of your life with, as it concerns the power of prayer in general:
This is a note from Theopylact of Bulgaria
commenting on Matthew 21:21-22 (some of it found in Orthodox Study Bible - see the whole thing here
21-22. Jesus answered and said unto them
[the disciples], Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree
[he caused the fig tree to wither away through his divine energies, see Mt 21:18-20], but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done. And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.
- Theophylact of Bulgaria
: Great is the promise which Christ makes to His disciples, the ability to move mountains, if only we are not ambiguous in faith, that is, we do not hesitate. Whatever we ask, unhesitatingly believing in God’s power, we shall receive. One might ask, "And if I ask for something unprofitable, and foolishly believe that God will give me this, will I indeed receive this unprofitable thing? How is it that God is said to love mankind if He would fulfill my unprofitable request?" Listen then. First, when you hear "faith," you should understand that it means not "foolish faith" but "true faith"; and when you hear "prayer," understand it to mean that prayer which asks for things profitable, such as the Lord gave to us when He said, "Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from the evil one," and petitions of similar nature. Then consider the words "doubt not," [literally, "be ye not divided," me diakrithete]. For how could a man who is united with God as one and not divided or separated from Him, how could that man ask for something unprofitable? So if you are undivided and inseparable from God, then you will ask for and receive things which are profitable for you.
Orthodox Prayer to Find a Spouse (source)
All-Good and Merciful Lord, I know that any enduring happiness in my life dependeth upon my wholehearted love for Thee and upon mine actions according to Thy holy will in all things; wherefore, direct my soul, O God, and fill my heart. I seek to please Thee alone, for Thou art my Creator and my God. Preserve me from pride and self-love. Let reason, modesty and chastity adorn me. Idleness is hateful unto Thee and breedeth vice; grant unto me the inclination to be fruitful in labor, and bless Thou my work.
Thy law commandeth that man and wife live in chaste matrimonial union; wherefore lead me, Holy Father, to this blessed calling not for the satisfaction of passions but unto the fulfillment of Thy commandment; for Thou hast said that it is not good that man should live alone and, having created woman as his helper, Thou blessest them to be fruitful and multiply that they may fill the earth.
Hear my humble prayer, which ascendeth unto Thee from the depths of my heart: Grant unto me an honest and pious spouse that, through our love and harmony, together we may praise Thee, our Compassionate God, the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.
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