I’ve told my daughters that there is plenty of time to go back to school and focus on a career or something after they’re done raising kids. I tried to make it clear that they only have a limited time to have children and that there’s plenty of time to go back to school.
Yes!
One will arguably get much more out of college when one is older, wiser, and has greater perspective (and can ask FAR more intelligent questions), but fertility only declines with time, and the innocence of youth in a healthy romance is a wonderful thing.
And while there are certainly fewer social options than there were in the past, there are still soup kitchens, libraries, animal shelters, social organizations for traditional dance, renaissance festivals, arts and crafts, art and music festivals, classical music ensembles, outdoor clubs, book clubs, etc. that young women can involve themselves in. If they are keeping themselves busy at their hobby, they are very likely to find a good partner with similar interests. A young female friend found her mate by volunteering at our state park's nature center where they keep wounded birds.
Your thinking isn't clear here; it is not mutually exclusive. Of course the goal of a man is to marry the most beautiful woman he can attract, but not at a loss of all the other characteristics he desires, since of course "beauty" will only last so long (youth/fertility).
Put another way: I want a supermodel that is a good mother and is compatible with me, of course I do
To clarify, physical beauty is not the primary qualifier for a lot of men OR women. I can't speak to what others, or even a majority of men judge women on, but I know people of both sexes who selected their partner not on beauty, but intelligence, faith, shared interest, familial wealth, or career ( I still remember a Catholic girl whose dream was to be the first lady of the governor of our state).
It is often said that women are attracted to famous and prominent men, but there are certainly women for whom fame would be a horrible curse.
And so physical beauty is simply not a priority for some, and for me it's not a priority beyond a certain minimal level of facial symmetry. The physical aspects of a woman are the least important to me, but even then what I am motivated by more than anything is
slimness, not beauty. I will take a thin 6 over a "normal weight" 8 (again, setting aside how trivial it is to judge a partner by physical appearance) but a woman's figure to me is more attractive than her level of beauty.
As I recall Roosh even had an article at one time about how ideal partner would be a 7 out of 10. This was certainly not an uncommon sentiment, at a time when this community was full of fornicators using women solely for physical pleasure, and even then physical beauty was not the most important factor.
One relevant quote I found: "A face that I could love may not contain the most beauty, or the least amount of flaws, but it is a face that I’d enjoy looking at every day for the rest of my life, one that I would instinctively risk my life for if a group of men more barbarian than me tried to take her away. "
As for the supermodel thing, I can honestly say there is no supermodel I've seen that I would desire as a partner. Part of this is that I just don't agree with the traditional beauty standards that the fashion world picks (many supermodels, while they are typically thin, are just weird looking and often require tons of makeup which is unattractive to me), part of it is because these types of people are stereotypically shallow and vain, glorifying one of the seven deadly sins, part of it is that I know beauty will fade quickly, and if one chooses a mate for her beauty and then it leaves, what are you left with? Part is that a woman who is so vain is not humble and is likely to be rebellious against both God and her husband. And part of it is just personal experience with the attitudes these types of women have.
But the bottom line is a supermodel is simply not attractive to me. Maybe I'm just weird, but I wouldn't even want to talk to one of them if we were left alone.
Not everyone selects their mate on physical beauty, and back to the topic of this thread, a young woman in a traditional western society would historically have a mate selected by her parents, with the approval of her father. Physical beauty was not the motivation, but instead the character of the man and his family (faith was typically a given as these were Christian societies. Beauty was not the primary factor even in the case of wealthy monarchs-- the bride was never chosen because she was the most physically attractive prospect, and sometimes a young prince ended up with someone not so desirable, and perhaps he had mistresses and courtesans, but he did honor the wishes of his father.