loremipsum said:Rush87 said:Eban said:Rush87 said:The only time a girl won't have a high notch count is if a.) She's young and yet to create one or b.) She's been locked into solid LTR's in which case, she's had sex hundreds of times, albeit with only a few guys.
You're better off looking for a solid moral compass by shit testing her integrity, rather than chasing an arbitrary number (Within reason) that won't necessarily guarantee a trustworthy girlfriend/wife.
How would you "shit test her integrity"?
Her general moral values. How is her relationship with her family? (Specifically her father), Are her parents divorced? How does she treat her friends? How does she treat others? Does she follow your lead? Does she heed your advice? Is she invested in you?
Outside of obvious sluts, the reason the notch count debate is the devils gamble is because it's built on the flawed metric that a girl with a notch count of 2 is inherently different to a girl with a notch count of 12.
Virtually no women are celibate, which means that a girl who has slept with 2 guys by the time she is 25 has likely been in 2 long term relationships. Had that girl not met a suitable guy, she could easily be at 10, had she slept with one guy, each six month period since the age of 20.
The reason her moral compass is a better indicator of relationship material is because it identifies the type of woman she is. So long as you're living up to your end of the bargain as a man, a girl with a strong moral compass and a notch could of 12, will be far more loyal than a girl with a poor moral compass and a notch count of 2 [I.E: You've met her at 2, but one day that 2 becomes 20. You just got one of the first tickets on the carousel].
I agree that in a sense it is flawed, however the nature of the notches is very important. Is it one night stands from bars or relationships?
Bang count =/= notch count.
As for OP, it's hard. I'd say first weed out the ones with high notch count warning signs and then deal with the ones who passed the test.
Women know men are disgusted by high notch count and some hide it the best they can. Look beneath the mask.
Obvious signs of high notch count
-Drinks regularly, passes out when drinking
-Likes travelling alone or with her female friends
-Is on birth control
-Has used/uses dating apps
-Gives you the goods early on
-the shorter the girl and the lower her looks go, the higher the notch count
Hidden signs of high notch count
-One or more of her friends are sluts (nuclear redflag)
-Lost virginity at early age
And in before someone comes here proclaiming how caring about notch count is what beta men do and alpha
should marry a carousel veteran: you just do that.
It was normal for thousands of years to expect the wife to be a virgin all around the world.
Just because in 60 years (((some))) institutions brainwashed the west into thinking it's OK to marry a slut, it never really was.
This is spot on, and lists the vast majority of the signs you can reasonably sniff out. Obviously she won't be advertising any of this info, and if she does, be wary of her intentions (pretending to be good girl). Notch count detection should be the highest priority when vetting an LTR. After she hits 3 notches, the chances of a successful, long-term union marriage nosedive. Have the PDF report if anyone's interested.