Sounds like a matchmaking issue. And that means 3rd parties like Fathers need to get involved.When it comes to deciding who gets to participate in fornication women are the gatekeepers. That is why there are free drinks for sluts in bars. But there are also a lot of attractive, well brought up young women out there having trouble finding decent husbands.
I think a proper compromise can be reached between arranged marriages and personal choice. The potential spouses are given a pool of the best candidates and each select the most attractive out of them all.
There are even marriage markets out there: