TechLead (Youtuber) Talks About His Divorce

[Simeon_Strangelight]

OP - that guy is not Red Pilled and has barely the basic perception on reality down.

He speaks about constantly apologizing, he refers to the old social model that is no longer valid.

Obviously a woman gets used to money, she realizes that having been married to a wealthy guy and having his kid is her lottery ticket. She has all the power and even legally can take away his kid. I can tell from that vid alone that he is a Blue Pill shmuck who paid the highest price for not learning truly the Red Pill. He would need to read through the Rollo Tomassi bible, then learn some basic Game, go through coaching, then he would be on a better footing. He would not need to go on Daygame binges and become a pick-up-artist. All he would need to do is understand why women are attracted to men and how they keep being attracted in a marriage.

Everything he says about 30$ gifts and gifts "relative to his net worth" are just signs that he does not know anything about women. His wife would swoon at a more Alpha rich man giving her a packet of M&Ms for her birthday.

Now that said - even if he became truly Red Pilled, then it's not clear whether he would be able to save his marriage. But it would be possibility. And since he does not seem likely to be learning from this, then he will be repeating his mistake. Now he pays for his wife to be banged out by other men while he is an absentee dad and his kid gets raised by a single mother.

 

[BURNΞR]

Everyone knows having game is better. I don't recall anyone saying otherwise. Problem is you are living in a world now that needs it. None of your beta ancestors needed to be persuasive, have frame or whatever. They just told them and slapped them into submission. Men needed only being able to provide. Women were defacto property, now men have to game their belongings to keep them. The fact that you are already forced into a gaming your wife that has full state backing is playing a losing game with the odds stacked against you. You are admitting she has a winning hand over you but you will beat the odds by being skillful, having game. I just shake my head when I hear this. Today's betas need to leverage their wealth so that leaving is not even an option. The West is not a place where this game is played.

 

[Simeon_Strangelight]

< Yeah, men in the past did not have to have Game or even be Red Pilled about women. They do now.
Even in the past it was better, but in most instances it did not carry that many consequences.

Even if he had made her sign a pre-nup or did not marry her, she would have some power of his kid and have enough financial freedom to leave him. Though of course - the power would be limited. She likely wasn't even aware of the dynamic herself, but simply "wasn't happy and did not feel like having sex with him anymore". Also - Japanese women living in the West are tricky - I met another Japanese-American (USA born) who also was left by his wife overnight. Buy obviously I don't know the full extent of their living conditions. They should have lived at least half the time in Japan.

 

[Vincent Chase]

The guy is as blue pilled as they come as you would expect in the IT field, obviously has not been burned enough in the past and lacking experience.

You take a woman out of her comfort zone to another country and away to her parents and this is what can easily happen, runs off with the child back to her mum.

A pretty sad state of affairs you can cuck as much as you like (as he has done in Google etc) in a marriage you're always at risk of coming back home with the wife, kids and all your stuff gone.

And there's nothing you can do about it.

Why in the world would anyone put themselves in that situation? Yet men keep doing it all the time.

The manosphere was initially focused on pickup with RSD clown game and so on picking up girls with lines fitting to a drunk 50 IQ (for putting your penis in their vagina before they forget about you the following morning) and has in the last several years been naturally maturing more as a reveal of the true nature of modern relationships and women.

You can see from the comments on youtube, reddit etc that if even slowly the tide is shifting, guys even in their teens knowing about mgtow. That sort of information wasn't readily available 10 years ago resulting in an era of beta cucks as we see today. The more they keep doing this the more this sort of behaviour will come into the light. How fast is this happening while the mainstream brainwashing continues however is unknown.

While millions of college girls are prostituting themselves on SA for 200 dollars an hour (doing drugs, getting pissed on and doing anal) for the sake of empowerment, all they are doing is actually empowering men, who slowly realise they could live the good life without the risk of losing most of their assets and working like slaves for the rest of their lives.

Women are turning to single mums, who most guys wouldn't touch with a barge pole, and prostitution.

A life of sheer depression and misery. All for the sake for money which will never ever make you content.

Looking forward to his channel turning into a red pill one as he goes into a journey of happiness and success.

 

[questor70]

There are guys who are really successful with women but are terrible at managing their careers. Life is a tradeoff like that. When you put all your energy in one area, the other suffers. The guy's intelligence is all in the career domain, not interpersonal. That's what his channel is all about. How to manage your career and personal finance. Leading a good life is more than just that, as he's discovered.

 

[iThinkThereforeIam]

If she just went off and just ghosts him for life he hit the jackpot. He can file for annulment due to abandonment I think and that will be it.

Yes it might tear his heart out not to see his kid but divorce rape will destroy most men's life completely, although he seems cool with his parents who seem to have some money.

With his dull as a rock personality he should be happy not to have ended up as an incel...

 

[void]

If there is really just 1 year in between, dude take a break

 

[jordypip23]

If she just went off and just ghosts him for life he hit the jackpot. He can file for annulment due to abandonment I think and that will be it.

Yes it might tear his heart out not to see his kid but divorce rape will destroy most men's life completely, although he seems cool with his parents who seem to have some money.

With his dull as a rock personality he should be happy not to have ended up as an incel...

I would watch some of his videos in the past (like OP) too but agree that his personality seems to be dull as a rock hah. Maybe that's why the wife left him heh.

Jokes aside I do wish the guy the best of luck & hope he becomes more red pilled and relies less so on $ as a crutch in dealings with people. I'm pretty sure he lives in northern California where a guy with his profile can surely find other women to date (probably a decent amount from his own ethnic / demographic background as well).

He is correct that the biggest victim in all of this is his son. Hopefully there is some way that he can maintain some sort of relationship with the son moving forward.

 

[WalterBlack]

Never heard of this guy but I watched the video. I’m on the same page as Simeon Starlight and Vincent chase regarding this guy. I think he's a moron.

Buying women gifts is a waste of time. I never buy women gifts, I never get them flowers. My gift to them is my time. If they’re cool with that then that’s fine, if they want me to buy them shit then I drop them.

I used to work with a Persian guy who told me that he wanted to buy an expensive car so he could attract women. I said to him,"A woman who wants to know you because of what you drive is not worth knowing".

The guy isn’t very traditional and he doesn’t have things under control. If he was traditional, he wouldn’t have made the video – what happens between him and his ex-wife is a private issue. He's shown his true colours just by making the video. In most Asian cultures family issues should be kept in-house.

I have a Korean-American friend who was married to a woman from Korea. She turned out to be bipolar and accused him of sexually abusing their daughter. They divorced and she took the daughter back to Korea. He hasn’t seen his daughter in 4 years. He’s since remarried to a divorced Chinese FOB with a kid. He’s now raising her kid and doesn’t see his own kid.

It's beating a dead horse to point out to redpill men how risky marriage and kids is... What's the solution, don't do it?

The new realization, some other colour of pill, is that this is exactly the behavior (((they))) want from you, to give up.

History is littered with an infinite number of forgotten men who had perfectly good reasons to avoid having children. (War, crushing tyranny, extreme poverty, plague, starvation, etc.) "Divorce rape" doesn't even make the top 50 list of risks/hardships your ancestors went through to bring you here.

What's with blaming Jews for everything? Jewish marriages are also a disaster - nearly every Jew I know in LA has a messed up family.

I think a man has to be married unless he wants bastard kids. He has to choose the right wife. If I ever do get married, I'll probably get a village girl from India whose family has been vetted by relatives.

Quoting myself from another thread:

Indian culture is very red-pill when it comes to choosing the ideal wife, here’s some bare basics of what a wife should be like. A lot of this stuff is universal to all Asian cultures.

• She must be physically attractive, young, and of fertile age
• She cannot be divorced - If she's had one divorce, she may be willing to go through another one
• She cannot be a single mother – A man shouldn’t be raising somebody else’s kids
• She shouldn’t smoke, drink or do drugs
• She must respect her parents - a sign of class and good manners
• Her parents are not divorced – If her parents are divorced, she might think about it too
• Her siblings are not divorced - If any of her siblings are divorced, she might think about it too. They have to be in stable marriages.
• She cooks and cleans for her family
• She’s a virgin – this is to make sure she hasn’t ridden the cock carousel
• She wants children and she’s willing to give up work to raise children – her career comes second to family life
• She has good manners and is well spoken
• She cannot come from a family where anybody has been to prison – this is a sign of shitty family
• She must respect her future husband's close and extended family
• She must always keep any issues with her future husband and family “in house”, and not gossip about it to others since this is disrespectful
• She must treat her future husband well. Be nice to him and cook for him
• She must treat any guests that come to the house well. Offer them drinks and food.

Ignoring the virgin requirement (which is almost impossible in this day and age) - how many western women could meet even half of the above?!

 

[mr_ks]

His videos are good because they are an insight into the Tech community. Otherwise actual workers like people here have few voices for themselves. The views of the worker and professional are important for society. Jesus was a carpenter, and there is the famous Kaveh The Blacksmith from Iranian literature. The videos and comments section seem the closest thing to me to a professional guild.

I agree he comes across blue-pilled in the video, but hes videos are normally about tech, and working in tech, there he seems more red-pilled with career and money.

 

[The Resilient]

There are guys who are really successful with women but are terrible at managing their careers. Life is a tradeoff like that. When you put all your energy in one area, the other suffers. The guy's intelligence is all in the career domain, not interpersonal. That's what his channel is all about. How to manage your career and personal finance. Leading a good life is more than just that, as he's discovered.

I've known dudes that were complete bums that couldn't work an honest day in their life and somehow always managed to have their friends and girlfriends pay their way for everything and had a lot of respect in their social circles. Whether they did illegitimate income sources isn't the question...but I used to be the polar opposite of these folks, I'm currently aiming for a balance of a middle ground between the two.

 

[Dirtyblueshirt]

He posted a follow-up video today:


He mentions he will probably get fleeced, and that he has already met with a lawyer. He admits his wife was a gold digger, and that he was blinded to this early in his relationship when everything was "lovey-dovey". There is discussion on finance and family law, and you really get to see how naive this guy is about this stuff, like how he didn't want to get a pre-nup because it would "ruin the mood".

The best part is probably near the end, where he responds to viewer comments/questions from the last video. Some highlights:
-He contacted his wife, and she said he is NOT allowed to visit her and the kid in Japan.
-He knows what she did is probably illegal (Hague convention law), but doesn't want to pursue it because he doesn't want to cause trouble.
-He's starting to feel the pain of lawyer's fees.

 

[Simeon_Strangelight]

< No surprise there. We saw the Blue Pill Beta a mile away. It does not matter that he is not the extroverted lively one. Game-wise he would become the strong silent one with a dry humor - on top of cash - that would have put him in a different sexual market level. If he added some weightlifting as a hobby instead of some soy-sport, then he would be a veritable sex-god - using essentially his learned job/career/business-acumen and applying them to Game and Red Pill. He should have gotten a prenup for sure and she is certainly a super-bitch not letting him even see the kid. He can fight jack-shit, because even Japan will have her back and can make up any crap she wants - it would take serious money to break through that. Essentially he gave his kid to an unstable single mother and will see her kid maybe at age 12/13 when it's hard to control the lack of contact.

Edit - took a look at his recent utterings. Jeez - gotten worse - he said that he "is forced to go MGTOW". So somewhat RedPilled, but denying Game and anything that would ensure his future relationships going much better. And the damage financially is limited to 3000$/mo child support and then some alimony and property share - that is hardly a lot. He will live for sure.

My guess that his MGTOW path is referring to the fact that he has no idea how to make a future relationship work and he may not afford multiple single mammas. Sad.... someone should send him a Rollo Bible or some Roosh works.

 

[How Many Bothans]

I'm going to be honest. I still have the goal of getting married and having a family. I still feel there are some women out there who legitimately want that as well and refuse to accept most of what modern day feminism tries to instill in them. But I don't think I can shirk my responsibility to 'be fruitful and multiply' because too many women today are shitheads.

The three things I will look for to keep from being the guy in this video are

1) a woman who has faith in God and doesn't just go to church one day a week to prove she's not going to hell.

2) a woman whose goal in life, first and foremost, is to take care of her family.

3) a woman who has never set foot in a college or University.

Ok, that last one is probably not possible. But if she set foot in a college or University and said to herself "OMG this place is so wicked. I better get back to daddy's farm and wipe this from my memory", that would be sufficient. ?

 

[questor70]

Wow. He mentions MGTOW at the end. I guess he's catching up on red-pill after the fact. I don't relate to his passivity as far as letting her run off with the kid. In my divorce I fought and won full custody. This guy is intelligent and he makes polished videos but he has no spine when it comes to women. Some things are worth fighting for.

 

[SilentOne]

Wow. He mentions MGTOW at the end. I guess he's catching up on red-pill after the fact. I don't relate to his passivity as far as letting her run off with the kid. In my divorce I fought and won full custody. This guy is intelligent and he makes polished videos but he has no spine when it comes to women. Some things are worth fighting for.

I agree that he should fight for his child. The sad thing here is that it may not even be his child, possibly false paternity. The first thing he should do is fly out there, get a DNA test, and then bring the child back here if he is indeed the father.

 

[Simeon_Strangelight]

Wow. He mentions MGTOW at the end. I guess he's catching up on red-pill after the fact. I don't relate to his passivity as far as letting her run off with the kid. In my divorce I fought and won full custody. This guy is intelligent and he makes polished videos but he has no spine when it comes to women. Some things are worth fighting for.

Red Pill without Game leads you to even greater tears.

"She has to like me for who I am now."
"Game does not work."
"I should not change because of women."

Those are common misconceptions - the reality is that it's just tweaking certain patterns that you were taught badly by society. Society and relationships are female-centric and they require full adherence to strict old-generation family/marriage laws. Men in our times cannot operate on that. Thus every man just has to get the existing masculine beast out of him - at least to some degree. You become a stronger version of yourself just as the guy reached certain goals in his career by becoming better in those fields. He did not stop learning from age 16 onwards saying: "A company should hire me the way I am for that great job!" It's sad because he does not realize that the very same things were done to him by social/male-female conditioning and he has to re-learn that.

 

[BURNΞR]

She gets to illegally kidnap and deny child access from Japan AND legally fleece him in the USA with divorce rape!? How does that even work, seriously.

 

[balybary]

He doesn't give much information about his ex-wife, except that she is Japanese and didn't get along with his parents.

My weirdest girlfriend was Japanese, a very unpredictable woman. My sample of Japanese girlfriend is limited to her, so not very representative, but I have read many stories of "the Japanese wife who suddenly throw her Western companion like a garbage"

I don't know from which country TechLead's parents come from?

 

[Eusebius]

As far as saying he should fight for his child or never should have allowed it to happen:
-seems like his wife planned it carefully. One day she just took off.
-separated fathers have no standing to get access to their child in Japan. If mother and child have made it to the land of the rising sun, she can call the police if he shows up and get him physically removed from the vicinity.