TechLead (Youtuber) Talks About His Divorce

[911]

I think he's probably Chinese American, 2nd generation. Chinese in-laws can be very difficult to get along with, one of my best friends who is Irish, great guy and nearly a perfect father, married a Chinese American and had some issues with his in-laws. He's managed to iron things out eventually but it can definitely be a source of marital instability.

I think Japanese people have a complex of superiority vs Koreans and Chinese, so that might have also been a small factor.

 

[911]

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What's with blaming Jews for everything? Jewish marriages are also a disaster - nearly every Jew I know in LA has a messed up family.

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Modern feminism has been weaponized to destroy the family and atomize individuals, making them easier to control. Divorce laws and a culture of sexual promiscuity leading to people being slaves to their impulses are also part of this control matrix.

You don't have to look very hard to find a strong tribal and anti-Christian element to this nefarious social engineering plan.

 

[Manbeline]

I like the message that men have to remove the female engineering out of their heads to relearn how to be a man. It's very refreshing and it feels natural, which is the point. I had to kick a lot of single-mother, feminist habits, mostly from desperation, but then I sharpened them. What sucks is that I now know all the signals and social cues I missed back in college, and if I had another chance, I would be killing it with all the girls around me. Felt like such a fool. Ah well, regret.

 

[BlueMark]

There are guys who are really successful with women but are terrible at managing their careers. Life is a tradeoff like that. When you put all your energy in one area, the other suffers. The guy's intelligence is all in the career domain, not interpersonal. That's what his channel is all about. How to manage your career and personal finance. Leading a good life is more than just that, as he's discovered.

I agree with this from experience. Working in the software tech field requires a lot of mental energy and focus. It makes it very hard to learn something completely unrelated like the red pill and then discard your old beliefs.

Most of my coworkers, despite their high intelligence and income, don't leverage that into having very interesting lives outside of work.

On the flip side, my desire to have a more interesting life outside of work over the past few years has probably set me back in my career.

 

[Swordfish1010]

I wonder if there was a fundamental compatibility issue with his wife.

In any case it is beyond foul if she is about to run overseas with their kid. I need to watch this video later when I get a chance.

I doubt it's a 'compatibility' issue. He is right about it being related to money. Many people that use their careers and financial success to define themselves end up with similar problems. It is all very shallow and superficial. He talks about it in the videos.

Many successful people find their entire identity in work and don’t have a real personality outside of it. They would be better suited focusing less on their ego and more finding their true self.

 

[Simeon_Strangelight]

One current-day pick-up-artist who still continues his job in his 40s had a similar job to this Youtuber. He was a prematurely balding IT guy in his late 20s and he hadn't had a girlfriend his life. All the women he met were telling him that "there was no chemistry". He was really a hopeless Gamma case even below the attraction level of the guy here.

Then he found Game and went to the courses in the US, because that was in the day when there was little online content. He approached thousands of women and bedded hundreds within a short period of time. He only shaved his hair and worked out a bit in the gym, dressed better - that was the extent of his outer changes. Countless women suddenly said that they had "great chemistry" with him - and fast.

That bloke going MGTOW is a sad end-point of the story.

 

[Speculation]

I see this happening time and again. Guys devote their whole lives towards earning more money, working 60+ hour weeks and neglecting other aspects of themselves (including social nuance), but acting superior to the plebs that earn an average wage.

Then after earning all that money they make a horrible choice for a wife (gold diggers), or don't spend time with their family and end up losing everything.

What is the point of burning the candle at both ends your whole life only to have it taken from you?

All of that min-maxing and lifestyle tailoring to eke out an extra 2% of productivity, holidays sacrificed, only to end up back where you started.

 

[TorontoRocks]

OP, thanks for introducing me to TechLead, now addicted to his videos.

Here is his latest about travelling alone:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiPwc_nPHYo&t=243s

 

[Zenta]

OP, thanks for introducing me to TechLead, now addicted to his videos.

Here is his latest about travelling alone:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiPwc_nPHYo&t=243s

Good video, thanks for sharing. However my only reluctance in watching videos about traveling alone or being alone from a feller like him, is that he has 459k subs on youtube. I could be wrong but I feel like his level of loneliness is a bit different than mine where my social media is only the few friends I have. At least he would be kept busy with people reaching out to him. My alone time is literally just me.

However as he states he felt empty and lonely and I think those feelings feel the same for everyone.

 

[Lazuli Waves]

Wife in UAE seeks divorce because husband loves her a lot, doesn't argue with her
https://www.khaleejtimes.com/uae/fu...sband-loves-her-a-lot-doesnt-argue-with-her--

The woman sought divorce from her husband at the Shariah court in Fujairah because his love was too much for her to bear.

"He never yelled at me or turned me down," the woman, a Gulf national, told the court.

"I was choked by extreme love and affection. He even helped me clean the house."

He sometimes cooked for her and there were no disputes in their year-long marriage, she said.

The wife complained that her life turned "hell" because the man was so kind to her.

"I long for one day of dispute, but this seems impossible with my romantic husband who always forgave me and showered me with gifts.

"I need a real discussion, even an argument, not this hassle-free life of obedience."

The husband said he did nothing wrong. "I wish to be a perfect and kind husband," he said.

She once complained about his weight, so he went on a strict diet and exercised to get back in shape, only to suffer a fracture in the leg for his efforts.

The court ordered the adjournment of the case to give the couple a chance at reconciliation.

 

[mr_ks]

Apparantly he lost his job with facebook (employer was never identified in his vids).

Seems an interesting turn of events. I bet it was his divorce rape video that did it.

 

[brando]

Interesting. My Facebook feed occasionally is dotted with these short articles from their HR dept. highlighting a particular exceptional employee and their “fascinating” story about their body of work and their passion for doing good, working for Facebook. And it’s always a female. Director and senior engineer level position.

 

[BURNΞR]

I used to casually watch his videos months before I saw the divorce thread. I never knew he worked for FB. I thought he was a lean millionaire living off small royalties (~60k USD/year) from his app he made for photography. Everyday I keep hearing about people losing their jobs because of social media...you'd think with 20 years of history people would wise up to it. I loled at how he was so serious and devastated but still plugged his ad. I like this guy, he's basically me but incredibly blue pill outside of his circle of competence.

 

[Zenta]

I enjoyed that vlog(I don't usually watch vlogs at all) and his positive outlook(I think) which no doubts come from him being financially independent. I'm sure hes mentally going through some shit none the less but real rock bottom would be if he probably didn't have millions in the bank. I plan to follow him and see what he decides to do with his new found freedom and if he does go towards rock bottom or find a new purpose.

 

[Simeon_Strangelight]

I used to casually watch his videos months before I saw the divorce thread. I never knew he worked for FB. I thought he was a lean millionaire living off small royalties (~60k USD/year) from his app he made for photography. Everyday I keep hearing about people losing their jobs because of social media...you'd think with 20 years of history people would wise up to it. I loled at how he was so serious and devastated but still plugged his ad. I like this guy, he's basically me but incredibly blue pill outside of his circle of competence.

His not fully Blue Pill and leans a bit too far to the right - now MGTOW with his social media presence. I am sure that if he were a pink-haired transgender full on SJWs, then Facebook would be proud to keep him on.

I could have told him that going into Red Pill/MGTOW or any real alternative subjects would cause problems for him while working for Facebook. I would strongly recommend him to at best focus on lifestyle or general career/success advice. It's possible that they go against too strong monetization, but it seems to me that Facebook used this as an excuse. They just did not like his politics and would not want to risk him become more Red Pilled in the future.

Guys who go MGTOW already left the Blue Pill plantation even if the direction is misguided in my opinion.

 

[questor70]

He was getting paid $500K a year? Even for a crappy work/life balance that is something. I wonder how much of that gets burned up in silicon valley cost of living? I doubt his vaunted "financial independence" would last long paying to live in that area without a fulltime job.

That being said, I think the moral of the story is money doesn't buy happiness. A man's ego takes the two biggest hits when his wife leaves him and when he gets fired and he's now taken them in quick succession. He has the deadpan face down but if things keep going this way I can see him offering us one final life-hacking tip of jumping from the Golden Gate bridge.

Point being, the guy's youtube fame revolves around the idea that he is a role-model who will mentor us on how to achieve his high level of success, but the more his life hits the skids, the less credible he becomes as a self-help guru. Then his life becomes yet another reality-show soap-opera as we watch the unfolding car-crash.

 

[Eusebius]

I feel for the guy, but I'm curious to see how it unfolds. I wonder if he has got what it takes to metaphorically or literally buy a motorbike and a pair of mirrorshades and go completely off the reservation, now that, well, he's been kicked off it anyway.

 

[Seeker79]

TechLead needs to get in touch with his hedonistic side and let loose a bit. I understand that he has a kid and that his wife ran away the child but if I were I'd take a long vacation to bang some sluts and purge my senses.

 

[pk9090]

TechLead needs to get in touch with his hedonistic side and let loose a bit. I understand that he has a kid and that his wife ran away the child but if I were I'd take a long vacation to bang some sluts and purge my senses.

True, he could get mad pussy with all that money. Just go to Philippines or Thailand.

 

[questor70]

People like him are stuck inside their own brains. Analysis paralysis. That's why he makes these videos. I don't think he finds it easy to actually be present and live in the moment. That's why he gets paid the big bux but it has a downside. That section at the end where he went to a carnival. He needs to do that and NOT self-consciously film himself doing it while rambling into the camera. Less thinking. Less vlogging. More living.