iThinkThereforeIam said:
He is close to his parents and lives with them so it's not the same situation as an alienated white guy that is all alone and might not even have solid friends.
Human beings, regardless of culture, race, or geography, have lived in multi-generational households for pretty much all of history. Only recently with women going to workforce and labor efficiency, which sends people all over country and world for the right job, have we started living alone.
We're not supposed to live alone. Even if you are an introvert we still need others. Without that social structure our lives become hell.
Sebastian Junger talks about this in his book
Tribe. He cited a study where rats were exposed to physical and emotional trauma. Those that returned to isolation suffered long term effects from the trauma whereas those who returned to a cage with others rats not only recovered quickly but after a time were indistinguishable from rats that had not experienced any trauma.
Junger says we are living in cubicles at work and cubbies at home. And inevitably we experience trauma (be it chronic or acute illness, relationship issues, career, or loss) and then all of a sudden, when we need our friends and families the most, we found ourselves alone staring at four walls in the faceless anonymity of high density cities or the unforgiving isolation of exurb/rural living.
Techlead is lucky that he has his parents to rely on. Yes his money helps but the parents are key to him surviving this family and career trauma.
For us average Joes we're fucked because not only are modern families more broken than ever in western society but also our relationship with women are becoming more superficial and less reliable than ever before. The traditional benefits of an LTR and especially marriage are declining. But it's not like women are happier. They are trading their fertile and most nurturing years (18-30) to ride the cc with Chad and Tyrone and make powerpoints for $60k/year.
