The curse of attraction to a specific physical attribute

I agree with the responses given so far. The best thing you can do right now is to quit pornography. Second, quit masturbation but if you cannot quit cold turkey, lessen the amount of times you do so until you just dont feel the need for that "release" anymore. It will take some time, but its possible. The easiest way to do this is to turn to Christianity.

Doing the above should start the recovery process within you. As far as your preferred attributes, it doesn't sound like it would be impossible to find a woman with them, except for this fetish part you refuse to tell us about. In any case, clear your mind of all the forced, sexual stimuli that you have been fed for all these years and it should make it easier for you to find the girl that you want.

Anyway, the attributes that grab my attention instantly are:
White, pale skin
Brunette hair
Blue/grey eyes
Modest attire
Sweet/shy personality.

We all have our preferred looks, but best to not "Idolize" such idea, because you will make it unattainable in your mind since you basically worshiped the idea of such a woman for so long.
 

loremipsum

Kingfisher
Bienvenuto said:
loremipsum said:
Flat stomach. Sadly in this age of fat women it seems to be more rare than any of the things OP listed.
I need to get over it since that's one of the things which will change due to childbirth, if I were to meet my future wife.

Mate in this day and age that's like - your Jason and the Argonauts seeking The Golden Fleece.

I know, but it's still up there in my top list and luckily I have my experiences of being with women having it.
Fucking alcohol man, these bitches in the west have gotten the beer gut only bums had the means to acquire.
 

Papaya

Crow
Gold Member
RawGod said:
Leonard D Neubache said:
Is it something that will disappear during the ageing process?

Mostly yes. But the time she's 35 my eyes will be wandering to the 22 year olds who have it, if I don't control myself.

If you can't relate to the "specific fetish", think of it as "being a 9/10". I'm distracted by the 9s I see, have never scored one for a LTR, and wonder if I should hold out for that 9/10. The difference being that 9/10s are sought after by everyone, while not everyone values my fetish attribute, so these women aren't necessarily super high in SMV, just hard to find.

Have hope amigo...Most any woman's gag reflex can be eliminated with proper training, practice and determination
 

Laner

Hummingbird
Gold Member
loremipsum said:
Bienvenuto said:
loremipsum said:
Flat stomach. Sadly in this age of fat women it seems to be more rare than any of the things OP listed.
I need to get over it since that's one of the things which will change due to childbirth, if I were to meet my future wife.

Mate in this day and age that's like - your Jason and the Argonauts seeking The Golden Fleece.

I know, but it's still up there in my top list and luckily I have my experiences of being with women having it.
Fucking alcohol man, these bitches in the west have gotten the beer gut only bums had the means to acquire.

Don't fall for that. Flat stomachs after childbirth are common. It just takes slightly more work than no work at all.
 

KMK

Robin
JiggyLordJr said:
Stop watching porn, and this specific "preference" will fade into black. I learned this from firsthand experience. Aside from physical signs of fertility, there is no reason that one aspect of a woman should take precedence over the others. Because men are very wired to visual stimuli, the dopamine released when we view our "preference" serves to further reinforce it. Whether be on a screen (porn/media) or in real life (gf/chick you saw), any specific preference is artificial, and most likely wired unconsciously through constant hypersexualized exposure. Luckily, most fetishes can be unlearned.

The only real preference a man will have is his natural inclination towards feminine women. Sadly, this gets buried due to 1) Lack of such women available and 2) Stronger visual stimuli crowding it out. Hence, you have men who are "butt" guys, yet can't find a feminine woman to save their life.

Cut out the porn and go back to your roots.

The last time I watched porn was about 10 years ago but I still have a very strong type preference.
 

Repo

Hummingbird
Funny that some people just straight assume porn like it couldnt possible be from being with their preferred type of woman countless times in their life. I like big butts and full lips because that's what I've had my entire life. Never going to change.
 

questor70

Ostrich
Wide-eyed, perky, girl-next-door neoteny. There's something about my type that screams "It's safe to approach me. I like everyone."









This look has probably always been unicorn rare but is rarer than ever these days.
 

tomzestatlu

Kingfisher
Long slim legs
Thin waist
Blond hair
Blue eyes

Sometimes it is very difficult for me not to be focused only on these atributs and go for other girls. I can get attracted to girls who are not like this of course, but sometimes I just overlook them. Which is not good.
When I meet girl like this, it´s like something inside myself is shouting "go get these genes".
 
Leonard D Neubache said:
I suspect you need to kill the fetish by any means necessary if you want to lead a happy, wholesome family household at some point in the future. It sounds like an unhealthy psychological disorder, albeit a socially harmless one if you're not in a committed monogamous relationship.

As to the how, well I'm not sure about that. Of late I'd suggest issue-specific-prayer to remove this unhelpful desire. But if you're not in that space then that's not suitable for you.

Leonard making a foray into the player's forum!

Pray for your sins, my child.
 
For an attractive woman, she brings to mind one attribute that I can't stand (haha, like the pointy elbows): the pointy chin. Or is it a lack of mandible on the side? Gummy smile with chiclet teeth would be another.
 

Bolly

Pelican
Long hair. Like looong hair. If I'm dating a girl and it ain't long enough naturally, I'll pay for hair extensions until it is. If she don't like the idea, ain't gonna work. Real hair extensions are expensive as fuck. But there's some good removable fake ones that look just as good and still do the trick
 

bucky

Ostrich
questor70 said:
Wide-eyed, perky, girl-next-door neoteny. There's something about my type that screams "It's safe to approach me. I like everyone."



This look has probably always been unicorn rare but is rarer than ever these days.

Amy Adams is pretty close to my physical ideal as far as white women go. Perfect girl-next-door look. She's well over 30 in that pic too, and still looks great nowadays at over 40.
 

Dr. Howard

Peacock
Gold Member
Laner said:
loremipsum said:
Bienvenuto said:
loremipsum said:
Flat stomach. Sadly in this age of fat women it seems to be more rare than any of the things OP listed.
I need to get over it since that's one of the things which will change due to childbirth, if I were to meet my future wife.

Mate in this day and age that's like - your Jason and the Argonauts seeking The Golden Fleece.

I know, but it's still up there in my top list and luckily I have my experiences of being with women having it.
Fucking alcohol man, these bitches in the west have gotten the beer gut only bums had the means to acquire.

Don't fall for that. Flat stomachs after childbirth are common. It just takes slightly more work than no work at all.

+1 I have seen women that look like they turned into deflated balloons and others that look like they never even had a child. Physical fitness and healthy skin seem to be common factors.
 

Bienvenuto

Pelican
Gold Member
bucky said:
questor70 said:
Wide-eyed, perky, girl-next-door neoteny. There's something about my type that screams "It's safe to approach me. I like everyone."



This look has probably always been unicorn rare but is rarer than ever these days.

Amy Adams is pretty close to my physical ideal as far as white women go. Perfect girl-next-door look. She's well over 30 in that pic too, and still looks great nowadays at over 40.

The girl-next-door LOOK.

I know an American woman who lives in the UK.

Besties with Amy Adams at school. Apparently her family housed her for long periods of time during childhood. Because Ms Adams' home life was "troubled".

The chick is 50 shades of fucked up.

The Ideal and the Real.
 
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