You've very much nailed the tragedy of our times. At some point, we have to awaken from the Matrix and see the world for what it is, and unplug from the lies. What you describe are people who never unplugged, and this is the consequence at 40. Directionless, motionless, confused, stagnant, unaware.I got some interesting insight last night where I attended a strange dinner party.
The house was very large. Over 4500sqft, near 5000sqft. Many rooms were empty or just storage for boxes, including the front room where you'd want to show it off? Only a couple live there.
He had a lot of toys. I'm not talking about "guy" toys like a jetski/motorcycle/boat/4 wheeler... But marvel action figures, star wars, dinosaurs... toys for children. Literally a hundred of packing boxes full of toys in the basement (so you couldn't even see them). And he was quite proud of them. He's a corporate attorney. Our kids were allowed to walk around this large house and explore, except go down in the basement - where the toys were.
The wife (upper 30s/low 40s) had a lot of art and collectibles that had to do with skulls and death. Very macabre and goth feeling. She/they also had 3 cats.
They had a guest in town who was turning 40 and she was single. She was decently attractive and thin, but had many tattoos (that were all hidden at least). She said at least twice, "I'm an adult and can do what I want". Which ironically is very childish and immature sounding, even for a 20 year to say, much less 40. She has 3 dogs and said that one of her dogs wants a fish as a pet... She wants to nurture and be a mother, but completely on her 40 year old feminist and rather abrasive terms and can't seem to figure out why no guy would want to be a part of that.
Overall, they're still mentally children, who never grew up. They don't have kids so they didn't need to.
They've replaced God and family with materialism, feminism and death. This is what's being sold to them via the media, social media, and society.
They are materially adults.
Yet, Emotionally and Spiritually they are children.