Single female Orthodox convert, formerly secular, is frustrated with the fact that single Orthodox men desire young, fertile, traditional homemaking wives to have children with.
She views this as slavery and shaming to women. She makes alot of solid points like how we need to put Christ first and become the person worthy of what we desire in a spouse, but I don't see how she's missing the fact that these types of qualities are valuable ideals for men and why they are important.
She complains that men aren't financially stable and they live with their moms. That she doesn't want to submit to a man that is basically a boy that can't support her and a family. Sidenote: I don't see this in the Church at my local level. I see 0 young single women without kids, maybe a few younger men, and then 99% boomers and traditionalist generation.
But fair enough. I'm know there's alot of these types of men that aren't doing what the church teaches or what saints tell us about finding a spouse in a Godly manner. Immature little ortho bros. They want this ideal trad wife but they aren't shaping themselves to be an ideal trad husband.
Again, the part being missed here is that even the ones who ARE shaping themselves to be ideal trad husband's, STILL DESIRE TRADITIONAL WOMEN. So that means things like, trigger warning , hopefully being a virgin, less baggage, young/fertile, healthy weight, homemaking qualities like cooking/childcare, being feminine, etc.
So it's OK for you to say these things about men and have desirable ideals of men, but when men want certain things, like not wanting women with too much baggage from being abused by secular men, are overweight, too career driven, too old, etc it's slavery and shaming. It seems hypocritical. I do get her point but I just think she's not quite seeing the whole picture.
The thing about yoga that is so offensive to her. Yoga is intentional postures in Hindu demon worship. Orthodox men don't want women who pray to demons. That should be obvious. It shows an alignment to a paradigm that isn't Orthodox. It's not just men trying to be mean and hateful. We can't be open to false ideology just because that's a nicer way to get women to convert. That type of thinking leads to gay flags outside the church.
All in all, I'm happy to see people like her popping up on the scene. Yoga/insta peronal trainer girl is a tough convert in today's woke clown world, so God bless her on her journey. I'm sure my views are a bit messed up. I'm still a catechuman and trying to shape myself to be worthy of a trad Ortho wife, Godwilling. Excited to see these trailblazing women come behind the men and become Orthodox.
If I was a 16 year old acne-faced shy and awkward teen boy living with my mom, with no job or interesting hobbies, but I wore a suit to liturgy and argued like Jay Dyer at coffee hour, I would not feel "judged/shamed/ridiculed" for my status. I would understand that I'm just not the ideal trad husband. I wouldn't say the traits women desire are trying to make me a slave.
I really wish there were more young men and women at my church. I'd love to have these types of conversations with people in their 20s, 30s, 40s.