Rob Banks said:Vladimir Poontang said:Is it wrong to yearn for nice, pleasant and beautiful things? Is it wrong to yearn for pleasure?...
I feel like the answer to this is yes.
Wanting to be rich (rather than just making ends meet) and wanting a beautiful girl for her "hotness" or to show her off and make people envy you (rather than wanting her for her values, devotion to God, and ability to give you children) seem wrong to me.
The same goes for a woman who chooses a man to marry based on his money or status (rather than his values/having a genuine connection with him).
I'm not saying these things (a woman's beauty and a man's money and status) don't matter. They reflect who you are as a person. A man with good values who follows God is more likely to be financially stable and be respected by his community. A woman with good values is likely to have inner beauty and therefore be more attractive.
But I can't get behind the idea of wanting money, status, beautiful women, and material things for their own sake.
Vladimir Poontang said:There's a difference between wanting a fat wallet and lots of money in the bank just to show off, and wanting abundance so that you can hold your head up high with pride (self respect) make wise spending choices and maybe help others too.
I'm not sure there is that big of a difference.
You yourself refer to it as "pride."
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be well off, avoid poverty, and be able to provide. That's not the same as wanting to be rich beyond what you actually need and sacrificing important things in life (e.g. delaying marriage and children) in order to achieve it.
It's not that I want any of those things in order to show off. But they are nice things to have, and I think a certain amount of pleasure and comfort do add to a person's happiness.
When I say pride I just mean the dignity and self respect that come from achievement, especially if it involves helping others. It feels good to achieve things, apply oneself and benefit people. It feels good to be useful and have a purpose.
As for yearning, I don't mean obsessively.