The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

Mountaineer

Kingfisher
Gold Member
I noticed one correlation. When I elevate my mood over a few days, endorphins start to take effect and I start to think of sex. It's so easy for me to stay away from faping now because I'm deeply saddened seeing where the world is headed. This is a powerful boner killer. I don't even have to pray to restrain the temptation.
 

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Sparrow
I noticed one correlation. When I elevate my mood over a few days, endorphins start to take effect and I start to think of sex. It's so easy for me to stay away from faping because I'm deeply saddened seeing where the world is headed. This is a powerful boner killer. I don't even have to pray to restrain the temptation.
Don't let the world get you down. Plenty of beauty and being alive is a gift, even if it doesn't feel like it. Despair is bad for the soul.
 
True but knowledge sometimes has a weight of lead. Fighting this will be much harder than faping.
I can understand this feeling. I think the objective is to take the practice and hard work of this thread to save our energy and then use the information in this thread...


to transfer that energy into something useful. So we can start the battle to restore beauty in this world. The first step in this battle will be financial. The reason the red pill is suppressed so heavily is financial control. And without the red pill the world continues to get darker.

Our sexual energy can be transferred once we are able to save it and harness it, into a creative energy that we can use to start the battle against the darkness in the world. Maybe you are good at art or song writing, this energy could be used to push those skills to levels you never thought possible. Maybe instead you are good at some routine labor skill. You can use this energy to become more efficient and work longer hours and profit more to save for a bigger goal in mind (starting a family with the ability for your wife to stay home and teach the kids outside of public school). Maybe using the financial gains to help start red pilled churches or groups to help younger men struggling in this society.

It seems the potential is limitless if we as a group can harness this energy and then learn to put it to good use.
 
This would be two weeks today, but even though it's only one I feel like something shifted. Last week I wanted the gratification more than I wanted the discipline.
This week the discipline actually means more to me which makes the temptation so much less tempting. I'll still be using a safety net because I like to think I know how to outsmart my own ego, but this must be what drive feels like. It's a little new to me. I like it.
 
Just like the confrontations with alcohol and caffeine in other threads, there's a point where having something in your life isn't beneficial anymore. There was a point when you're younger where masturbating everyday served a purpose and it was fine. Now I find that it's just another distraction from your purpose(s).

I made it over 100 days before, and imo the best thing to do is to just forget that it's even an option. I don't like to focus on it, because it puts too much emphasis on it versus the more important things. Keep yourself busy working on something, running/lifting, reading. Get yourself on a good sleep schedule and put forth the perfect amount of effort each day so that you're tired and ready for bed.
 

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Sparrow
Day 33, I feel like I've been losing my mind lately.

Last night I dreamt I was watching porn. The day before I was a porn actor.

Démons always strike when you're letting your guard down and thinking you've got it all figured out.

Stay strong gents.
 

Mountaineer

Kingfisher
Gold Member
True. Temptation comes when you start to get comfy. I was mildly attacked twice in my dreams. I figured that if I block women totally I may paradoxically relapse so I looked up pictures of naked girls to remind myself how a woman looks like (I'm still a man, I don't plan to be sexless for the rest of my life), thankfully didn't develop a boner and been fine for another two weeks since then. Weird but worked somehow. I don't recommend it though.
 
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Sparrow
I'm glad you didn't relapse after catching a glimpse of naked females. I know it could trigger the pathways to porn for some, so as you said, definitely not recommended.

I did the same with porn just to remind myself how disgusting it was. Even though I didn't relapse, it still felt like I failed in some way, because I exposed my brain to it. Please help me God for I am weak.
 
Last week's relapse came because I was comfortable. Not this week. Also came from looking at old content but what I do now is visit the old forum I used to sometimes to remind myself that I don't really enjoy what they offer, and it's only a moment of release. They don't offer content but only links to third party downloads that take hours. You pay to speed up the download and I stopped paying when I decided to quit; so by the time I can even download something to watch I've lost interest.
Living moment to moment isn't how I want to live anymore, so that reminds me that yes my taste really has matured. But that's no excuse to tempt fate.
I have to admit I likely will relapse again someday but I can forgive myself for that if I don't use it as an excuse to give myself permission today. I keep that mantra in mind and it helps in the moments I feel weak.
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
The best advice I've picked up is to stop all sexual thoughts. As soon as a thought comes to mind I am able to turn it away. At first it was a chore, now it is a learned reaction.

There is a bit more that has gone into this than just turning away sexual thoughts. But now for the first time since I was 14 or so I'd say my mind had lost it's pornographic nature. That is the nature of sex that is depicted in adult films - raw and degrading, playing on and bringing out the lower parts of yourself. When you are consumed, as it seems most men are, by an endless stream of pornographic thoughts and images they have no desire to turn off, you at least lessen the ability to have love in your heart. The pornographic mind will struggle to obtain and maintain anything wholesome in it's life.

Another part of this is in December-January there were two girls who were living in a fallen state that sexualised themselves in a way to try and win me. They were looking for a serious relationship, but they'd come to the conclusion that the best way to get that would be to trap me with sex. I think the most common outcome in that situation is the girls get pumped and dumped. Unless the girls are trying to land a simp with cash. But I just didn't want to go down that path. I could have felt like Ghenigh Khan for a bit by pinning them down and dominating them. But the thought of doing that was just a bit too terrifying. And it wasn't that I just didn't want to have to deal with their anger when I slipped away after their baggage became too much of a price for the exchange. It was that I didn't want to put them though that and that I didn't want to fall down into the darkness with them.

That is what the pornographic mind does to you. You will do pretty much anything to feed a carousel of a thousand fallen women. You'll do your friends girls, you'll lie, you'll be treacherous, you will sit cooming to girls who have been sexually abused - who will probably want those videos deleted in a few years - and will likely end up dead early from the world you help perpetuate, you won't care for others and also yourself. And if that is the life you lead, you will be surrounded by others like you. You will sell pretty much anything for pornographic images.
 
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The best advice I've picked up is to stop all sexual thoughts. As soon as a thought comes to mind I am able to turn it away. At first it was a chore, now it is a learned reaction.

There is a bit more that has gone into this than just turning away sexual thoughts.
Wow. I'm not looking to stop having sex, I'm looking to stop jerking off... you can't have a family without sex. You can't conceive during sex without a sexdrive.
 
I have been listening to this 14 minute video someone put together of Tony Robbins comments and it has been powerful for me. I am using this for things other than this subject. I am trying to change my mind into truly desiring what I want rather than wanting it then giving up on it and going back to a more instant gratification (distraction). Maybe it will help someone here with this process. Our brains are extremely powerful but it is hard to learn how to control them and get them to work the way we want them to work.

 
I'm looking at this from the point of view I know best: the point of view of addiction. Addiction is a vicious demon without mercy and I know it intimately. I've escaped many of it's clutches, but this is the last one for me to overcome.
I see it as I see any other external thing I could want feverishly: it is not the object I desire itself, but the release it brings me. Something inside it presses.
So when I look at this addiction.... I don't see sex. I don't see girls with problems choosing to deal with them in an unhealthy way (though interesting to note: every girl in porn is an addict of some kind; be it sex drugs money attention or all--their sins are their own and mine are my own) I only see myself. I see a button I'm pressing, but I can't yet read the label. If I could, I could find a better way to press it that doesn't involve fapping.

I believe this to be the key to long term success in this quest.
 

Kurgan

Kingfisher
I have reached 70 days without masturbating. I feel like a different person to be honest. I can remember when I used to be fine without masturbating in my early teens when I was at my best time creatively and did other things without resorting to it. I felt a lot more empowered and I can think clearer now.

I can be happy without jacking it. I have done a number of things since the pandemic

  • Taking classes on LinkedIn Learning for programming and basic communication skills
  • Learn Microsoft Office
  • Realize that I want to become a business analyst
  • Walking almost every day
  • Run
  • Biking a bit
  • Reorganize my workouts when my gym reopens so I can lose more weight and build a good core
  • Network more once I have the chance
  • Realized the hard way that worked for my parents with retirement and careers does not work for my generation nor does it apply to me
  • Save up money
I'm going to give this to 90 days and see where I go from here.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
I have reached 70 days without masturbating. I feel like a different person to be honest. I can remember when I used to be fine without masturbating in my early teens when I was at my best time creatively and did other things without resorting to it. I felt a lot more empowered and I can think clearer now.

I can be happy without jacking it. I have done a number of things since the pandemic

  • Taking classes on LinkedIn Learning for programming and basic communication skills
  • Learn Microsoft Office
  • Realize that I want to become a business analyst
  • Walking almost every day
  • Run
  • Biking a bit
  • Reorganize my workouts when my gym reopens so I can lose more weight and build a good core
  • Network more once I have the chance
  • Realized the hard way that worked for my parents with retirement and careers does not work for my generation nor does it apply to me
  • Save up money
I'm going to give this to 90 days and see where I go from here.
Great job.

Keep going.
 

BlastbeatCasanova

Kingfisher
What felt like an eternity of a streak turned out to be only six days haha. Still going just to see how far I can go and because the last week was super productive. I smoked a little weed to jam out and and unwind and while I'm still aware of of the undercurrents of arousal in my body, my discipline hasn't wavered (for now). Guarantee if I had had a few beers I would've slipped up and perused some sort of smut and had a crank, alcohol can really weaken one's resolve.
 
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