The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
As previously mentioned, I started using AdGuard as a way to block porn sites in a hands-off way. It worked well, but there were two problems.

1. YouTube Restricted Mode was blocking too many videos. It's obscene how many videos were classified as "inappropriate." Roosh videos, Catholic videos, videos with a handful of swear words...you name it. It was pretty annoying.

2. Their porn list was incomplete. A few days ago, I saw a porn link on Twitter, clicked on it, and AdGuard didn't block it. Yeah, I'm not perfect, and occasionally fall into temptation. I clicked off fast, but it was still enough to get my mind racing. Not cool, AdGuard!

3. Self-Control wasn't working. Self-Control is an open source app I use to block distracting sites like Twitter, YouTube, RVF, etc.

Because of these three issues, I had to re-asses my blocking setup.

I settled on NextDNS. The reasons are -
  • Strong privacy features (comparison table here)
  • Custom policies - so I can block social media (except Twitter) and porn, but open up YouTube to include age-restricted content
  • Command-line install makes it hard to remove the client and jump over the filters
  • Self-control works great
They use a freemium model where the pricing is: "Free up to 300,000 DNS queries/month — $1.99/month (or $19.90/year) for unlimited queries." I'm pretty sure 300k should be enough for one person. If not, $2 is not bad.

I'll keep you guys updated if this setup poses any problems. But, right now things are looking great. I definitely recommend using one of the family-friendly DNS providers to block porn in an effortless way.
 

Matianus

Sparrow
As previously mentioned, I started using AdGuard as a way to block porn sites in a hands-off way. It worked well, but there were two problems.

1. YouTube Restricted Mode was blocking too many videos. It's obscene how many videos were classified as "inappropriate." Roosh videos, Catholic videos, videos with a handful of swear words...you name it. It was pretty annoying.

2. Their porn list was incomplete. A few days ago, I saw a porn link on Twitter, clicked on it, and AdGuard didn't block it. Yeah, I'm not perfect, and occasionally fall into temptation. I clicked off fast, but it was still enough to get my mind racing. Not cool, AdGuard!

3. Self-Control wasn't working. Self-Control is an open source app I use to block distracting sites like Twitter, YouTube, RVF, etc.

Because of these three issues, I had to re-asses my blocking setup.

I settled on NextDNS. The reasons are -
  • Strong privacy features (comparison table here)
  • Custom policies - so I can block social media (except Twitter) and porn, but open up YouTube to include age-restricted content
  • Command-line install makes it hard to remove the client and jump over the filters
  • Self-control works great
They use a freemium model where the pricing is: "Free up to 300,000 DNS queries/month — $1.99/month (or $19.90/year) for unlimited queries." I'm pretty sure 300k should be enough for one person. If not, $2 is not bad.

I'll keep you guys updated if this setup poses any problems. But, right now things are looking great. I definitely recommend using one of the family-friendly DNS providers to block porn in an effortless way.
Thank you for suggesting NextDNS. Have you been able to use a VPN while running NextDNS? It seems (at least on a Mac) it is either/or but not both.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
Thank you for suggesting NextDNS. Have you been able to use a VPN while running NextDNS? It seems (at least on a Mac) it is either/or but not both.
Great question. Yes. Every VPN is different but just go in and make sure your VPN isn't messing with DNS settings. I'm using the agent as well, not sure if that helps.

Also, I've recently been exploring the possibility that VPN's are not...that important. Maybe consider tossing it if that means you can block porn better.

 
I am not going out of my way to do semen retention, but I believe it is one of the reasons why I could quit porn rather successfully. I have probably watched it 3 times in the last 2 years. I am single and I want to make my next relationship count, so too much retention will actually mean settling for a lower value woman for a short term pleasure.

I am finding a good balance and experiencing similar benefits to those aforementioned by doing the deed only a couple of times a month. Also helps to keep any wet dreams at bay. Gym, food and finances have all been going great, considering the prolonged time off due to the plandemic.

Start with (just) no-porn first if you cannot make it to a month, I would suggest.
 

open source

Sparrow
Gold Member
As previously mentioned, I started using AdGuard as a way to block porn sites in a hands-off way. It worked well, but there were two problems.

1. YouTube Restricted Mode was blocking too many videos. It's obscene how many videos were classified as "inappropriate." Roosh videos, Catholic videos, videos with a handful of swear words...you name it. It was pretty annoying.

2. Their porn list was incomplete. A few days ago, I saw a porn link on Twitter, clicked on it, and AdGuard didn't block it. Yeah, I'm not perfect, and occasionally fall into temptation. I clicked off fast, but it was still enough to get my mind racing. Not cool, AdGuard!

3. Self-Control wasn't working. Self-Control is an open source app I use to block distracting sites like Twitter, YouTube, RVF, etc.

Because of these three issues, I had to re-asses my blocking setup.

I settled on NextDNS. The reasons are -
  • Strong privacy features (comparison table here)
  • Custom policies - so I can block social media (except Twitter) and porn, but open up YouTube to include age-restricted content
  • Command-line install makes it hard to remove the client and jump over the filters
  • Self-control works great
They use a freemium model where the pricing is: "Free up to 300,000 DNS queries/month — $1.99/month (or $19.90/year) for unlimited queries." I'm pretty sure 300k should be enough for one person. If not, $2 is not bad.

I'll keep you guys updated if this setup poses any problems. But, right now things are looking great. I definitely recommend using one of the family-friendly DNS providers to block porn in an effortless way.

DNS blocking is the way to go. I used to try out various browser extensions but they were too easy to bypass.

The best is when you don't see lewd images/videos in the first place.

If anyone's feeling a bit more ambitious you can learn to setup a pi-hole. I picked up a cheap Raspberry Pi zero w for $5 at my local microcenter (microSD, power adapter separate) and have it set up for the entire network.

You can easily create block lists, and monitor traffic. You might be quite surprised what network calls are being made, especially if you own something like smart TVs.

 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
DNS blocking is the way to go. I used to try out various browser extensions but they were too easy to bypass.

The best is when you don't see lewd images/videos in the first place.

If anyone's feeling a bit more ambitious you can learn to setup a pi-hole. I picked up a cheap Raspberry Pi zero w for $5 at my local microcenter (microSD, power adapter separate) and have it set up for the entire network.

You can easily create block lists, and monitor traffic. You might be quite surprised what network calls are being made, especially if you own something like smart TVs.

Pi-hole is pretty sweet. I think its features are pretty much at parity with NextDNS, except Pi-hole lets you run through any DNS provider, right? So you can use Pi-hole to filter Cloudflare.
 

open source

Sparrow
Gold Member
Pi-hole is pretty sweet. I think its features are pretty much at parity with NextDNS, except Pi-hole lets you run through any DNS provider, right? So you can use Pi-hole to filter Cloudflare.
Yeah It's awesome. You can use these 7 preconfigured DNS providers or set a custom DNS.
Google , OpenDNS, Level3, Comodo, DNS.WATCH, Quad9, CloudFlare DNS
You can also setup DNS-Over-HTTPS but I haven't bothered with it (nor do I know too much about it).

Speaking of Cloudflare, they recently released a free DNS to block malware/porn:
Two Flavors: 1.1.1.2 (No Malware) & 1.1.1.3 (No Malware or Adult Content)
 
Also struggling to get over the week hump. Glad I came to this thread today, seeing a lot of inspiration from those who are in my situation and also those who reached the next step; and encouragement. The encouragement is really important in my opinion. Great job everyone, good luck on 90 days @Kurgan , Good luck this week @BlastbeatCasanova and many thanks to @redbeard (grats on your promotion btw)

Before I slipped after a second week again I noticed I got a reply on Christian Mingle. I am 2 days from giving up on that site and suddenly I get a reply (I literally messaged about.... 300-500 women over the past 5 months and only got one other, which wasn't met with a second) and we've been emailing the past few days. I have more inspiration now than ever to not give up on this. So, I won't.

Man, that poor 13 year old--I didn't even discover how to jerk off until my second semester of college.
 

BlastbeatCasanova

Kingfisher
I am on day 9. It's going well so far.
Same. I feel like days 5-7 were really hard, the last few days have been mellow. Could be because I'm busier and more distracted during the week as opposed to the weekend when I have a lot of time on my hands. I saw some t*ts on /pol last night but because of the momentum of my streak I didn't feel compelled to rap one out.

If I recall correctly, you are married right? I'd be interested to hear how a man retains with a live-in wife/gf. There are a few hours between my SO and I so it's relatively easy to do No-Fap/retain when I'm on my own.
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
Before I slipped after a second week again I noticed I got a reply on Christian Mingle.
Amain'! I think having a girl on the scene is a big help. Just talking with them fills a gap.

Are you refusing thoughts of sex? As much as possible? When I started that I could really feel the demons in me rebelling. Now they've had to find someone else to inhabit. The leftists are sure going to have a lot of demons living in them, because they aren't ever gonna stop coomin'!


I was thinking. It was probably a lot harder to be a coomer in the past, not just due to the lack of materials, but also because of the closer proximity to people due to larger families - kids sharing beds and rooms.

I remember reading about a family living on a narrowboat in the 1800s. The kids will have known when they should start expecting a new brother or sister.

And when I was in Colombia, a woman who was about 75, said that she didn't know what sex is until she was married. She'd never heard of it. And said that was normal. I have no idea if that is true. Hard to tell now. If anyone tells you Latin America is conservative, they're an idiot.
 
First saw porn when I was thirteen, struggled to quit ever since, never did because I didn't see it necessarily as an addiction I had a problem with but more as something I liked and wanted to do. Anyway I quit shortly before my 21st birthday and decided that after I turned 21, I would never do it again. I used the Brain Buddy app for a while and it was good, but I got tired of paying for it and felt that I didn't need it anymore. I also haven't masturbated in a couple months, I feel that it makes it easier to quit porn when you don't do that. Also it's still classified as fornication so technically we shouldn't be masturbating so, I have no intention of doing it in the future.
You need to avoid looking at anything, pictures on instagram, movie scenes, ads, all of it, run from the temptations, like literally get up and run outside if you have to. Another thing that has helped me is I would often feel extremely anxious after watching porn (after becoming a Christian) and feel guilty afterwards and as if the anxiety was punishment for doing it. It felt like God would remove his protection of me from demons for a while afterwards as punishment, not sure if that was the case or if I just thought it would happen so I mentally worked myself into feeling anxious, either way God used it for good, and that has also been a motivator to not look at porn. Your greatest weapon in spiritual warfare is righteousness/holiness, because then the enemy has nothing on you, and you can tell yourself that and the demons.
 

Rob Banks

Pelican
Amain'! I think having a girl on the scene is a big help. Just talking with them fills a gap.
You mean just talking and not having sex?
And when I was in Colombia, a woman who was about 75, said that she didn't know what sex is until she was married. She'd never heard of it. And said that was normal. I have no idea if that is true. Hard to tell now. If anyone tells you Latin America is conservative, they're an idiot.
I agree that Latin America is not conservative, but how does this story show that?

A woman did not know what sex was until she was married? That sounds pretty conservative to me.

Maybe I misunderstood what you wrote.

In any case, I've been thinking a lot about that recently. If kids (both boys and girls) are not taught what sex is, then they will not be curious and they will be less likely to become lustful and act out sexually as teenagers.

Once they begin to act out sexually (usually out of curiosity), it's game over. Lust begets more lust, and satisfying lust does not satisfy lust.

There is a reason why globohomo pushes so hard for so-called "sex education" (and it's not because they are worried about kids' health).
 
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You mean just talking and not having sex?

In any case, I've been thinking a lot about that recently. If kids (both boys and girls) are not taught what sex is, then they will not be curious and they will be less likely to become lustful and act out sexually as teenagers.
If he's talking about the woman I mentioned off mingle; we're just talking. Sex is hopefully something that will become part of the equation after meeting her, but the idea of a woman I'm romantically interested in, knowing I was jerking off instead of waiting to save myself for when we're together--is quite motivational.

I have to disagree about curiosity not happening naturally. I became curious before school taught me anything. (which I found a little frustrating, to be honest--driving me to seek out other avenues; which thankfully weren't widely available in the 80s to a minor)
 

Rob Banks

Pelican
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I have to disagree about curiosity not happening naturally. I became curious before school taught me anything...
If you're not taught anything, what is there to even be curious about?

If you were not taught in school, did your parents, older brothers, or friends teach you what sex was and what girls look like naked?
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
You mean just talking and not having sex?

I agree that Latin America is not conservative, but how does this story show that?
She was born in the 1940s. I didn't know how true her statement was if considered as a generalisation of the past. The country is one of the most sexed up there is. Plenty of billboards for boob jobs, when the average wage is about $600 per month.

I have to disagree about curiosity not happening naturally. I became curious before school taught me anything. (which I found a little frustrating, to be honest--driving me to seek out other avenues; which thankfully weren't widely available in the 80s to a minor)
Was there not other sources?

I knew there was something like sex when I was 6, just from the music that we all hear. I didn't really know what it was. I remember ten year olds talking confidently about sex, thinking they were cool. People bragging they were in puberty.

I remember lots of talk of sex, but I am not sure how much people knew. For example on my 13th birthday I remember a guy telling me that he fornicated with a woman's breasts (using the porn term). He told me in the act a woman inserts her breasts into your rear exit.

I think it was the internet that really changed things. I remember going to guy's houses in the late 90s and looking at softcore images. The stuff had value then and people would save images in their stash.

I discovered the act by accident. I knew there was a thing called masturbation. I had known of it since I was about 7. I had an idea of what it was, but didn't know exactly what or what happened. One day with the parents were out I was watching the swimsuit competition on Royal Rumble 2000. Any career started with Jerry "The King" Lawler squeaking in the background should probably be avoided.

I'd had a wet dream at about the same time. I think a bit earlier.

How would things have gone if I'd not been exposed to sexual music and images since a child, that I'd not been around peers talking about all those images, if I had no access to images of the female form and if I'd had no privacy.

We'd still have the sex urge, we just wouldn't know what to do with it until much later.
 
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