The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

JoshA

Pigeon
Don't feel discouraged! I myself have failed in the past two months after abstaining for 26 days. Having small victories like the one I had really makes you a little bit more hopeful and optimistic that the next time it will be 27 days, next time 28 days, and so on. Also, don't forget to read the scriptures and/other spiritual books and resources. Exercise is always good, cleaning your room, and cooking can take your mind away from immoral thoughts. No te des por vencido!

Thank you very much RonaldB, I've been feeling much better lately. I don't even have the urge to masturbate most of the days, so porn or masturbation aren't important right now in my life. As you said, exercising, as well as having a regular schedule or a good diet are really important habits in order to achieve our goals. Thanks for your kind words again!
 
I wish I could read all 252 pages as the title intrigued me. I can relate to this for many years, before I got married. Going more than a month is very difficult. I had a friend who had a mortal fear of masturbation and had gone at last count 14 YEARS and didn't seem to be too bothered by it. His intense fear of masturbating was greater than his fear of not having orgasm for a long time. Eventually he got married. His doctor told him one time that releasing some sperm would help with epididimytis, which can be painful, but he refused to.

You can be moving along very well and all it takes is just a split second view of something or whatever turns you on and then you are really fighting it. Then you succumb, feel absolutely terrible, and try to start another long run again. This is no way to go through life. Going a long time without release can become all absorbing mentally and drive you crazy and make you obsessed with not getting relief. Sex begins to be larger than life, way larger than life, consuming. Then you get relief and wonder what all the fuss was about, until the whole cycle starts again.

I was there once. To avoid sexual sin the Bible says to marry and that has to include the thought life. While we may struggle to a degree throughout our life even when married, being married (assuming sex now and then) takes away that pressure and just knowing that you can or might have sex, helps avoid all that fear and dread. Of course I am assuming marriage provides enough sex to be reasonably satisfied.
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
 
Still going strong. One of the most surprising benefits from this change is my relationship with my wife has improved drastically. Not on a sexual front, but on an affectionate and emotional front. As a result, our fights have dropped nearly to 0, and now I have an increased mood and energy because I'm not spending so much time and energy in conflict.
That is wonderful to hear!
 

R.G.Camara

Woodpecker
Just stumbled across this sermon by St. Alphonsus Liguori about the sin of impurity (sexual sins).

Mindbogglingly spot-on. Even gives awesome final advice about fighting the sexual sins. We have forgotten so much wisdom, it's like throwing away gold.
 

BigTony

Robin
Not to derail the thread but my biggest problem in the past were pole dancers. I would be in the clubs 2-3 times a week.
Once I submitted to God, He was able to wipe away my desires to be in those places.

The biggest trick that Satan plays on us is to put thoughts into our minds. When I willfully sinned, certain thoughts came up like:
"Well David sinned and God forgave him".
"David committed fornication with a married woman and then sent her husband off to die in war. God punished him for this but still forgave him.
The Bible says that David was a man after God's own heart. (1 Sam 13:14). God forgave him so you have nothing to worry about"

In my mind, I agreed with Satan. My little sin is nothing compared to David's sin so go ahead and have fun. I can repent later. God forbid.

Thankfully, through prayer and supplication we can overcome all desires of the flesh.
 

R.G.Camara

Woodpecker
Not to derail the thread but my biggest problem in the past were pole dancers. I would be in the clubs 2-3 times a week.
Once I submitted to God, He was able to wipe away my desires to be in those places.

The biggest trick that Satan plays on us is to put thoughts into our minds. When I willfully sinned, certain thoughts came up like:
"Well David sinned and God forgave him".
"David committed fornication with a married woman and then sent her husband off to die in war. God punished him for this but still forgave him.
The Bible says that David was a man after God's own heart. (1 Sam 13:14). God forgave him so you have nothing to worry about"

In my mind, I agreed with Satan. My little sin is nothing compared to David's sin so go ahead and have fun. I can repent later. God forbid.

Thankfully, through prayer and supplication we can overcome all desires of the flesh.

And its often forgotten that David's penance for that sin was the death of the first child by Bathsheba. And David's second child by her, Solomon, ended up committing a coup against the heir apparent and falling away from God, and being the last king of a united Israel-Judah.
 

R.G.Camara

Woodpecker
Not to derail the thread but my biggest problem in the past were pole dancers. I would be in the clubs 2-3 times a week.
Once I submitted to God, He was able to wipe away my desires to be in those places.

The biggest trick that Satan plays on us is to put thoughts into our minds. When I willfully sinned, certain thoughts came up like:
"Well David sinned and God forgave him".
"David committed fornication with a married woman and then sent her husband off to die in war. God punished him for this but still forgave him.
The Bible says that David was a man after God's own heart. (1 Sam 13:14). God forgave him so you have nothing to worry about"

In my mind, I agreed with Satan. My little sin is nothing compared to David's sin so go ahead and have fun. I can repent later. God forbid.

Thankfully, through prayer and supplication we can overcome all desires of the flesh.

After I turned about 23 strip clubs held little value for me. It was exciting the first bunch of times but eventually you realize you wasted $100+ on girls who will never sleep with you and aren't that pretty/nice to begin with.
 

FactusIRX

Woodpecker
I have honestly achieved more in the past month of nofap than I have in years of fapping. I'm stronger at the gym. I'm more outgoing. More women are starting to notice me. I feel more confident. I have more energy. I'm motivated. I'm more willing to take risks and push myself into uncomfortable situations. I sleep better. If you aren't no fapping / no porn, DO IT RIGHT NOW. DO IT. DO IT. It's better than you could possibly imagine.
 
This is my first real post. I wish only to offend noone, inspire others and hold myself accountable.

I need to share my story and get accountable. This thread and forum have helped me tremendously for self-improving over the past years. The only thing i cant seem to overcome is porn and masturbation. My last resort is active participation in this thread and forum compared to passive use in the past.

Been self-improving for a while now. I've come from far. Got rid of all addictions (gaming, idle tv-time and drugs) and replaced them with healthy habits (disciplined schedule, gym, healthy foods, good sleeping habits, meditation and reading scripture, finishing university with good grades) and new endeavours (my own business, my first LTR).

The only thing left is porn and masturbation.

Trigger event;
Engaged in my first LTR ever since the beginning of the year. Have been on nofap wagon for over 2 years but cant seem to make it longer than 2-3 weeks. My longest streak being 110 days. In the start of LTR i managed streaks of 2-3 weeks, then we had a rough period and its back to daily fapping, having a clear negative effect on other habits and my duties. The rough period is gone, all is good, but the addiction is back.

As a result i have been neglecting gym, meditation, reading scripture and business duties. This is my strongest effort to restart these activities and get rid of this last addiction once and for all.

May i purify myself from this addiction so that the divine light of the One (God, Supreme Spirit) may once again shine through my currently heavy unspiritual body of a sensual addict and bring about the greatest good to me and my environment.

Biggest streak: 110 days
Trigger: working on the computer, being alone
Problem: i'm alone for 3 hours a day in the evening and would like to spend this time training, meditating or reading like i used to

I see this is a real battle between the ultimate good (gym, meditation and scripture as fuel for a busy life with a positive effect on others) and the ultimate evil (uncontrollable satisfaction of the strongest earthly desire within man which leads to neglect of duties and the spiritual path). I feel that overcoming this last addiction is the turning point in my existence to start doing the work of God, to walk the spiritual path.

May i be succesfull.
 

FactusIRX

Woodpecker
Wishing you the best of luck @Eternal Truth

A carefully curated participation in video games and TV or movies can be beneficial, I believe. Everyone needs downtime. Hobbies can help us feel connected to humanity and to our brothers.

Also, make sure your chair at the computer is comfortable. Keep that blood flowing.
I agree. I play vidya every now and then. It actually helps with no fap because it is a welcome distraction when I’m too exhausted to do anything productive, while keeping my mind active.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
This is my first real post. I wish only to offend noone, inspire others and hold myself accountable.

I need to share my story and get accountable. This thread and forum have helped me tremendously for self-improving over the past years. The only thing i cant seem to overcome is porn and masturbation. My last resort is active participation in this thread and forum compared to passive use in the past.

Been self-improving for a while now. I've come from far. Got rid of all addictions (gaming, idle tv-time and drugs) and replaced them with healthy habits (disciplined schedule, gym, healthy foods, good sleeping habits, meditation and reading scripture, finishing university with good grades) and new endeavours (my own business, my first LTR).

The only thing left is porn and masturbation.

Trigger event;
Engaged in my first LTR ever since the beginning of the year. Have been on nofap wagon for over 2 years but cant seem to make it longer than 2-3 weeks. My longest streak being 110 days. In the start of LTR i managed streaks of 2-3 weeks, then we had a rough period and its back to daily fapping, having a clear negative effect on other habits and my duties. The rough period is gone, all is good, but the addiction is back.

As a result i have been neglecting gym, meditation, reading scripture and business duties. This is my strongest effort to restart these activities and get rid of this last addiction once and for all.

May i purify myself from this addiction so that the divine light of the One (God, Supreme Spirit) may once again shine through my currently heavy unspiritual body of a sensual addict and bring about the greatest good to me and my environment.

Biggest streak: 110 days
Trigger: working on the computer, being alone
Problem: i'm alone for 3 hours a day in the evening and would like to spend this time training, meditating or reading like i used to

I see this is a real battle between the ultimate good (gym, meditation and scripture as fuel for a busy life with a positive effect on others) and the ultimate evil (uncontrollable satisfaction of the strongest earthly desire within man which leads to neglect of duties and the spiritual path). I feel that overcoming this last addiction is the turning point in my existence to start doing the work of God, to walk the spiritual path.

May i be succesfull.
How is your prayer life? Are you chaste with your LTR?
 

Christhugger

Kingfisher
Folks, I have a solution. Get married and HAVE KIDS.

Before marriage I did it all the time, twice a week, whenever I felt worked up and my girlfriend didn't want to bang... FAP

We got married, I tried to commit to not doing it and disrespecting my wife... Lasted about 2-3 months at first and still shamefully did it once a month or so after that.

Then we had our son. I just told myself "enough is enough". A father doesn't do that... Do you want your son to have a dad who's touching himself in the bathroom when nobody's around? I don't think MY dad did that (who knows though..) and I won't either.

It's been 8 months now, going strong, no slip ups and I'm just not going to do it anymore. I'm a man and a father and I've decided.. and that's that.
 

redbeard

Hummingbird
Moderator
Folks, I have a solution. Get married and HAVE KIDS.

Before marriage I did it all the time, twice a week, whenever I felt worked up and my girlfriend didn't want to bang... FAP

We got married, I tried to commit to not doing it and disrespecting my wife... Lasted about 2-3 months at first and still shamefully did it once a month or so after that.

Then we had our son. I just told myself "enough is enough". A father doesn't do that... Do you want your son to have a dad who's touching himself in the bathroom when nobody's around? I don't think MY dad did that (who knows though..) and I won't either.

It's been 8 months now, going strong, no slip ups and I'm just not going to do it anymore. I'm a man and a father and I've decided.. and that's that.
Excellent point. I've had a similar experience.

2018 was a pretty difficult year for me...financially, emotionally, spiritually...and I fell into my old habits once again.

2019, I started doing better, started going to Church again, but I still felt like I was fighting an uphill battle. Towards the end of the year everything changed when I met my fiancee.

Right when we met, she was infinitely more feminine, graceful, and godly than any girl I had ever dated (low bar). On our first date I mentioned that I wanted ten kids, "in order to field a full-court basketball game," and she laughed in agreement. After that day I realized "wow, this could be the one," and really got motivated to clean up my act.

After that day I found what @Christhugger found. "Enough is enough." I knew that if I was to marry this girl, or ANY girl, I did NOT want to bring a porn addiction in with me. And on top of that, I did NOT want to set a bad example for my sons.

This isn't to say that you have to meet your future wife in order to quit porn & masturbation. What I'm saying is that if you start to visualize what your future is going to be like, it starts putting things in perspective.

When I met my girl, I was pretty hopeless that I'd ever get married. I somewhat thought it was punishment for my years of living the player life. So when I met her, she immediately showed me that there might be another way. She was the first "church date" I ever went on, and it showed me that even if I didn't end up marrying her, the possibility was still there. That's what put me into gear to quit the BS ASAP.

I've heard of women writing letters to their future husbands. Although that practice is pretty tacky, I do think it's worthwhile for men to start praying for their future wife. Not only will this help her out spiritually, but it also helps you "assume the sale" that you're going to get married. When your mindset is that "yes, I'm going to be a father," you start to make better long-term decisions.
 

FactusIRX

Woodpecker
Had very strong cravings this morning. It usually happens after a heavy period of lifting (I lifted heavy three days straight), when my body is sore, and I'm looking to self-medicate with PMO to take away the physical pain. I combatted it with reading stories of how much people's lives improved with No-PMO, and I reminded myself of all the progress I have made in the last three weeks, and that did the trick in motivating me.

Another positive benefit I noticed is I can read people much better now. I always thought I was a little bit autistic because I had a hard time reading people. Nope, turns out, I didn't care enough to do it, because my brain was convinced it wasn't necessary because I was slaying a different 10 every day (in porn world).
 
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