The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

Currently sitting at around a month and a half, I don't exactly count days but definitely 40+. There is a very real possibility that I will have sex in a week. I am seriously considering fapping today or tomorrow, just so that I wouldn't underperform during the next weekend. I am not trying to rationalize fapping - I would never break my streak if I didn't have an objective reason to do so. Also, I would only fap to my imagination, I would never in a million years go back to watching porn. Porn is evil and it's not a part of my life, forever. I am not tempted by porn in the slightest.

What's your opinion on this? Is it a smart idea to fap to my imagination, just for the sake of not ruining the first sexual experience with my new LTR? I would like to hear the stories of guys who broke their long no-fap streaks by having sex, did you bust in 3 seconds like I expect to or did you miraculously manage to have a normal experience?
 
From a spiritual point of view I am sure you should not worry about this. I believe the right woman would not make a big deal about something like that in the first night.. However, I will not go into more detail, since this post might already be breaking the new rules. Either way the spiritual advice would be not to have sex unless you intend to get married (and even wait until that happens).
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
Also, I would only fap to my imagination, I would never in a million years go back to watching porn. Porn is evil and it's not a part of my life, forever. I am not tempted by porn in the slightest.

What's your opinion on this?

Your imagination is pornographic.

Roosh has written about this. The first sentence is maybe his finest:

When sexual thoughts about a female entered my mind, I used to feed them by enhancing the fantasy and, if I was in bed, stroking my penis as if I were a monkey. I would essentially self-hypnotize myself with sex by keeping the fantasy alive in my mind as long as possible to feel a maximal state of arousal that could lead to a satisfactory session of masturbation. If I wasn’t in bed, I would let the thoughts take hold until I at least got a firm erection. I applied no will in stopping the sexual thoughts. If anything, I welcomed them when they came, a sign that I was still a “healthy” man with “high” testosterone and optimal “biology.”
 

westernman

Sparrow
Currently sitting at around a month and a half, I don't exactly count days but definitely 40+. There is a very real possibility that I will have sex in a week. I am seriously considering fapping today or tomorrow, just so that I wouldn't underperform during the next weekend. I am not trying to rationalize fapping - I would never break my streak if I didn't have an objective reason to do so. Also, I would only fap to my imagination, I would never in a million years go back to watching porn. Porn is evil and it's not a part of my life, forever. I am not tempted by porn in the slightest.

What's your opinion on this? Is it a smart idea to fap to my imagination, just for the sake of not ruining the first sexual experience with my new LTR? I would like to hear the stories of guys who broke their long no-fap streaks by having sex, did you bust in 3 seconds like I expect to or did you miraculously manage to have a normal experience?

No. Dont fap. Tell girls you dont jerk off and are high strung.

You cant look at sex as an act for the purpose of pleasuring her. Look at it as a progression of your connection. Girls hate guys who act like it's their mission to pleasure her. If you finish quick, who cares. Own it. Give it to her later, and regularly after
 
Currently sitting at around a month and a half, I don't exactly count days but definitely 40+. There is a very real possibility that I will have sex in a week. I am seriously considering fapping today or tomorrow, just so that I wouldn't underperform during the next weekend. I am not trying to rationalize fapping - I would never break my streak if I didn't have an objective reason to do so. Also, I would only fap to my imagination, I would never in a million years go back to watching porn. Porn is evil and it's not a part of my life, forever. I am not tempted by porn in the slightest.

What's your opinion on this? Is it a smart idea to fap to my imagination, just for the sake of not ruining the first sexual experience with my new LTR? I would like to hear the stories of guys who broke their long no-fap streaks by having sex, did you bust in 3 seconds like I expect to or did you miraculously manage to have a normal experience?
You just said you dont want to relapse so dont do it. Women dont care if you bust too soon, its about the whole experience. Just tell her she really turns you on and then go for round 2 after a breather.
 
I have been doing a lot of reading and introspection in order to solve this problem in my life......

By no means do I have the perfect solution, but one thing I notice in myself:

The cycle of watching porn for me has been.......Negative emotion (bored, sadness, loneliness, anxiety)---->Trigger (alone, sexual image, thoughts of oneitis, etc)---->Watch Porn.

Now the thing I noticed....after I watched porn I would immediately beat myself up mentally: "why did I just do that?", or "what is wrong with me?", "you are a failure."

In turn I was creating more negative emotions. Thus leading myself back to porn and deepening the cycle.

I created a fear of watching porn. And the more I focused on this fear, the more its reality became certain.

From my own experience I have had many "relapses" in my attempts to quit porn.....from now on when I relapse I will immediately forgive myself and say, "Keep trying."

I am not afraid of pornography. Porn is not the focus of my life. I will focus my thoughts on other areas of my life.

Right now it is my goal to end 2020 porn free. Sept. went well, but ultimately I am just trying to take one day at a time.

We will beat this.
 

R.G.Camara

Kingfisher
I broke today. Both for porn and for fapping. I was up all night, got miserable, and watched porn and fapped almost continuously during my waking hours.

More upset about the porn than the fapping. I had not watched porn for about a year, and realized how much porn contributed to my severe fapping habit. My fapping has always been out of control---even now, in my 40s, I can fap 5+ times a day without porn---but porn elevates it into the stratosphere. I've basically cut fapping to two days a week, and am able to resist the entire weekend---and hoping to push No Fap to 7 days a week.

The moment I broke today and put on the porn, I was jacking off like a crazed loon. I think I came 10 or 12 times today. It was like a drug, and I felt like crap from it.

I will beg God forgiveness and try to get back on the horse.
 

R.G.Camara

Kingfisher
I'm middle-aged, single, probably won't have sex again. I successfully did nofap for 100 days. It didn't seem to affect my physical or mental outlook much one way or the other, but when I subsequently did fap, the liquid that came out was basically water. I found that a little alarming, so I feel like I should at least keep the various parts working and now I consider it perfectly acceptable if I fap 2 or 3 times a week just before sleep (using my imagination, not porn.)

Porn is evil and should be outlawed, but I think expecting people to commit to a lifetime without ever orgasming again is pretty harsh. Am I mistaken/misguided?

40 year old guy here.

Daily Kegel exercises. Work your way up to 100 rapid ones, and then 3 x a hold for 30s. Do longer/more if you can. I've found that doing daily Kegels means my equipment works just fine even when I go through spurts of no fap/no sex. And it keeps me from fapping.
 

DeWoken

Sparrow
I think I came 10 or 12 times today. It was like a drug, and I felt like crap from it.

Oh man, I can't imagine hitting double digits in a single day! I realize that for some people drugs have an amplifying effect but you might want to try something to block the momentum. Me I've been having some trouble lately as well, due to back pain and trouble with family. When fantasies strike I try to take a God's Eye view on the woman instead.

Pipe smoking might help you relax (I am tempted to make a thread but, in general, I don't think we want to create on this forum vivid profiles of our hobbies and lives that make it easier for our adversaries to hunt us down). Smoking tobacco with a pipe is the traditional way to do it. You don't inhale the smoke into your lungs and therefore it is not as harmful to your health and much less addictive than cigarettes. Cigarettes have many additives - always have - but traditional forms of tobacco are much purer.

There definitely is some learning to do with smoking a pipe but I found it interesting. Smoking a cigarillo - a small cigar - is a quick and easy way to get a similar effect. Cigar smoke is harsher, though, and the smell of an extinguished cigar is quite potent if not kept sealed away.

I haven't been to these places in a while but I used to go to
Pipes Magazine
and
Reddit's Ivory Lounge

I guess it's a hobby that is mostly confined to conservatives these days. While Christian doctrine may advocate for no substance use, pipe maybe the lesser of evils, or the old "hey, at least it's not crack!" (or fap).

Antonin Scalia
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Sean Connery
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Marlon Brando
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Toshiro Mifune
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westernman

Sparrow
I'm on half a month now... longest I've gone since being stuck living back at home.

Everything just feels intense. My energy levels are high, but I am sooooo restless. Continuous, unrelenting conscious telling me I must move out and find a girlfriend. I think this is healthy. we shouldn't be comfortable living in miserable lonely situations. I think that's why a lot of us develop the addiction in the first place. We need to overcome the loneliness, not just cope with it through masturbation.

Lets make October a clean month!
 

gework

Ostrich
Gold Member
 

Mr Gee

Pigeon
Did 29 days and crashed again (unreal feeling reaching 30 days, I was a new man). The fall from grace was the environment where I live, I am surrounded by drinkers and weed. I am unhappy being where I am at the moment but lost my job due to plandemic, lost my apartment, and now I am reorganising, slowly. I am usually pretty good at abstaining from things and have a strong will to resist peer pressure but recent events have really messed things up for a lot of us have they not?
After this 29 day period of monk mode I gave way to temptation with a drink or two as a way to escape my ills, then some weed, then all the pillars came crashing down as you can imagine. It was difficult to get back on that horse, took a couple of weeks and the black dog was gnawing at me.
But here I am, back, at day 15. The black dog is gone, I booted it to the curb. I feel in control now, much more confident and motivated already. It is helping that I am temporarily away from that environment working a temp contract and keeping busy with work, study, and gym. I dread the return home but am making plans to get out of there. Prayer and visualisation of where I want to go is also helping, I write a lot of stuff down on paper.
The benefits of a clean life style are imperative at this time. Stay strong brothers!
54 Days. This works.
Need to ramp up connection with God. Not been praying much. Trying times ahead.
 
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